Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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How Effective Are You At Setting Boundaries At Work?

This week’s question…conflict man holding out hand..stop
How do I avoid time-wasting interruptions from others? This is a question that comes up frequently in my programs.  People often ask me, “Joyce how do I set boundaries so I can stop interruptions and do the work that I want and need to do?”

Many of my clients have difficulty setting limits with others and speaking up for themselves.  Their time is not their own because they are continually being interrupted.  They may have a difficult time saying “NO” to the request or demands of others.

We waste a lot of time when we don’t set boundaries when they interrupt us. 

 International Communications Research (ICR) in New York surveyed over 1000 people on how many minutes per day they are interrupted with things they don’t want to do. This did not include time spent on line or E-Mail. Over 42% of those surveyed said they spend 100 minutes or more every day on interruptions. This comes out to the following:
• 100 minutes per day
• 11 2/3 hours per week
• 26 days per year
And that’s a five week vacation!

While you can’t make up for lost time, you CAN have more time to do what you WANT to do…starting today!

Here’s the SECRET to realizing this dream of having more time to do what you want. Be Direct with Respect® is a skill that will show you how to stop interruptions at work in order to do your priority tasks. It is the art of telling others that you can’t take care of their needs without sounding like a selfish person. It allows you to do what you need and WANT to do and gain respect from others at the same time.

To some, “Can I have five minutes of your time?” really means, “Can I steal more than five minutes of your time?” Energy vampires who ask this question can suck the lifeblood out of you! They are people who interrupt you and complain constantly. Be Direct with Respect® is about those moments which are stolen from you. Stolen moments are when you want to take care of specific tasks and one person or another interrupts you and won’t let you get back to your priorities.

Here is one thing to keep in mind to take back control

CLICK HERE to watch my short video on the Power Talk Formula. 

So, how about you? 

Where would you like to improve your ability to stay in control of your time?
How well are you able to execute the one skill that you have to manage your time effectively with others?

How do you manage interruptions at work?  What would be possible if you tolerated fewer interruptions at work?

I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me your questions or concerns. I enjoy hearing from my readers plus they get their questions answered.

Take my simple quiz and get a snapshot of your strengths and opportunities of improvement. 

CLICK HERE to take the easy and fun Communicate with Impact  Quiz.  You will get your results immediately and learn more about setting boundaries to be more effective at work and in your life. Sound good? Here’s the LINK.

Interested in more resources to take charge of your work experience? 
Check out my Communicate with Impact Master E-Course.  It’s a great way to learn the Power Talk Formula very fast without having to go anywhere.  You can learn at your own pace from anywhere.

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A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, communication strategist, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
Visit her website at ConflictInTheWorkplace.com to sign up for your own FREE video series and Communicate with Impact Weekly to Resolve Conflict in the Workplace.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

 CLICK HERE to take the easy and fun Communicate with Impact  Quiz.  You will get your results immediately. You will discover how your communication is impacting your success at work.  Sound good? Here’s the LINK.

 CLICK HERE to find out how you can start setting boundaries immediately!

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“Trying” to Communicate with Younger Generations

ask all generations to help 8One of my clients sent me a question about a conflict that he was experiencing.  Let’s see if this sounds familiar with some of you. 🙂
He felt that social media was impacting the social and communication skills for his 15 year old son.  He was  concerned because his son had a difficult time speaking at dinner or with the family.  Of course this is typical of teenagers anyway.  There is something that goes even deeper.

So Joyce, What Do You Think?

Think about it for a moment.  When teens text with their friends, they can edit their comments if necessary.  I wish that we could edit our verbal communication at those times when we make huge communication mistakes!  People who text need to use their mouth to communicate also or else this could be a huge issue in their future.  People need to get along with others in the workplace or else there will be huge conflict.  Face to face communication is something that we all need to improve upon.  Texting is great.  I love using it especially if I want to stay in touch with my family.  Texting along with verbal communication work well for me!  I’m not saying anything that is new here but I decided to bring this up because I’m hearing more discussion about this issue. 

What about you

1.  Do you see verbal communication go down the tube with younger generations?
2. How have you successfully handled this?
3. What challenges do you still have when you are attempting to have a conversation with a text-aholic?

This is your chance to vent and express your frustrations so we can all learn from each other.
I want to hear from you.
Click HERE to respond to any of the questions above.

Click Here to watch a short video on Communicating with Different Generations

 I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me your questions or concerns. I enjoy hearing from my readers plus they get their questions answered. Let me know what topics you want me to write about concerning your own conflict in the workplace “issues.”

Want to share or use this Article in Your Newsletter or on Your Website?

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A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, accountability coach, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
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Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

 Click Here to watch a short video on Communicating with Different Generations

 

 

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What’s FEAR Got to Do With It?

Did I get your attention? mean lady with curly hair on top of head screaming

I sure hope so!  Fear is really False Evidence Appearing Real.  The definition of FEAR is “A feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence of danger.”  I am writing about FEAR this week because the topic came up during my recent Communicate with Impact Trainings.  Several participants stated that the concepts that they were practicing in the class made sense to them BUT they feared using them at work.  Others in the class argued that NOT using the skills would set them back career wise.  I’m sure you can guess what I shared after this energetic debate.

Reasons Why People Fear Using Be Direct with Respect®

  • Making things worse
  • Not saying the right thing
  • Fear of getting fired
  • Not being taken seriously
  • Nothing changes

Click Here to read my short article Go From Fear to In Gear to learn action steps to use when dealing with a challenge.

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How NOT to Think Like Van Gogh

Van Gogh's Olive Trees

As you know, I usually write about Conflict in the Workplace.  This post is about inner conflict that we all experience at times.  I was inspired to write about this topic after reading an autobiography about my favorite artist – Vincent Van Gogh called “Dear Theo.”  The book contains letters to Vincent’s brother Theo.  It is a difficult book to read because you experience Vincent’s mental illness and internal demons.  You will find quotes from the book below.

I meet people daily who don’t know how to live their life to the fullest. My 2nd book, Take the Ride of Your Life contains stories and examples from my own life how important it is to live life BIG. This is one of the reasons why I continue my quest to help others become bold and speak their mind if and when others try to suck out their individualism with toxic behavior.

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Are You The Family’s Truth Teller?

cartoon women boxing in long dressesClients and friends ask me how I can be as bold as I am with some of the examples that I share with them.  I realized years ago that most people don’t know how to resolve conflict in the workplace or home.  I see people letting things fester because they don’t have the skills or fear what will happen if they open up their mouth!  It has taken me YEARS of practice, making mistakes, making more mistakes, taking classes, reading, and gaining the respect by others and mainly for myself.

At times my family asks me why I need to be the family’s truth teller.  I tell them what Forrest Gump said when someone asked him what he was going to be, “Aren’t I going to be me?”  Believe me when I tell you that I’m not ALWAYS the bold one.  There are times when I actually hold back because the timing is not the best, or I may be tired and not full of my creative juices for that moment.  BUT, when I see things that need to be said, in a positive way, you better believe that I point these things out to clients, friends and family.  It is not always easy but I get a great night’s sleep because I don’t constantly think about unresolved issues.

This post contains quotes from people who you will recognize about this very topic.  I do hope that they will give your the courage to either speak up or hold back if you are one of the aggressive communicators. 🙂 … [Continue reading]

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831