Clients and friends ask me how I can be as bold as I am with some of the examples that I share with them. I realized years ago that most people don’t know how to resolve conflict in the workplace or home. I see people letting things fester because they don’t have the skills or fear what will happen if they open up their mouth! It has taken me YEARS of practice, making mistakes, making more mistakes, taking classes, reading, and gaining the respect by others and mainly for myself.
At times my family asks me why I need to be the family’s truth teller. I tell them what Forrest Gump said when someone asked him what he was going to be, “Aren’t I going to be me?” Believe me when I tell you that I’m not ALWAYS the bold one. There are times when I actually hold back because the timing is not the best, or I may be tired and not full of my creative juices for that moment. BUT, when I see things that need to be said, in a positive way, you better believe that I point these things out to clients, friends and family. It is not always easy but I get a great night’s sleep because I don’t constantly think about unresolved issues.
This post contains quotes from people who you will recognize about this very topic. I do hope that they will give your the courage to either speak up or hold back if you are one of the aggressive communicators. 🙂
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look at fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
“Freedom lies in being bold.”
Jeannette Walls, Author of The Glass Castle
“Life is drama full of tragedy and comedy. You should learn to enjoy the comic episodes a little more.”
“I destroy my enemies when I make them my friend.”
“Being honest might not get you a lot of friends, but it will always get you the right ones.”
“You get what you tolerate!’
So, my dear readers. It’s up to you to decide if being a truth teller is something that you want to continue, start, or end. Please send me the quote that speaks to you along with your favorite quote.
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This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
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I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
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