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June 30, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Discover How to Control Your Stress During These Chaotic Time

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  • Do you want to control your stress?
  • Have you been frustrated about being home 24/7 with your family during the pandemic of 2020?
  • Are the negativity and judgment starting to drive you crazy?
  • Do you want to find time for yourself between all the zoom meetings?
  • Is it time to change this?

If so please keep on reading!  There is a solution, I promise!

A friend and colleague of mine, Tom Borg owner of  Tom Borg Consulting, just gave me a stress quotient assessment from TTI.  Find out more about the STRESS Quotient below:

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This is an easy assessment and I found it very helpful!  Reach out to me if you want to discover what you need to change in order to control your stress. Call my cell: 248.310.6998 or send an email:  Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com

What did the assessment say about Joyce’s stress?

There was NO surprise with the results yet the evaluation was necessary for me to see how I could control my stress better. The stress quotient showed that I’m in control of my day except in one area – meetings.  I don’t know about you, the last few months I’ve been on at least 3-6 zoom meetings each day.  I wanted to be in most of the meetings.  I took online courses on how to improve videos, engage clients during my online courses, 2 mastermind groups, plus connecting with clients.  These are all good reasons to be on zoom calls.

Once I saw the results I knew I needed to make a change.  I was starting to feel the pressure at the end of the day.  I figured out what I needed to change when I talked to Tom about my results.  I had to change directions.  One of my mastermind groups met daily at noon.  I was starting to resent the daily meetings even though they were always productive.  I took a risk during one of the sessions and shared my concern about being on these mastermind meetings daily.  The other members felt the same way and were in agreement to meet only 2 days per week.

The secret?  Boundaries

My challenge to you is to figure out where you need to set boundaries in your personal and professional life.   I already shared mine with you.
What conversations do you need to have to discuss setting boundaries and control your stress?  Please share what you need to do to take care of your time for you.

Let’s have a great discussion by including your thoughts in the comment area.  You know I will respond.  😉  Feel free to send me a private email if you want to go deeper.

Until next time,

My name is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

I coach clients how to reduce drama and find more peace by kicking conflict to the curb! Now let’s go do it. :)

 

Filed Under: Articles on Stress, set boundaries
Tagged With: stress, the new normal

May 12, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

A Motivational Video about Inner Stress

Have you ever watched a motivational video that spoke to you?  Where the story seemed personalized just for you?

It seems that the best motivational videos appear on my screen at the right times.  I’m writing this article during the pandemic in May 2020.  We are all living in fear yet there are opportunities happening all the time if we just look for them.

  •      Cooking innovate meals with the family
  •      Eating meals together
  •      Dividing chores up while listening to our favorite music
  •      Zoom parties with family or friends
  •      Spending quality time outside
  •      Taking an online course

The motivational video below is one of my favorite stories about a Cherokee grandfather talking about life with his grandson.  Hope you enjoy it also.

Motivational Video Story

A Cherokee grandfather was having a deep conversation with his grandson about life.  The grandfather said, “There is an inner fight going on within me between the bad wolf and good wolf.  The bad wolf is mean, selfish, negative, and a bully.  The good wolf is caring, supportive, positive, and generous.  There’s the same inner fight going on within everyone including you.”  The grandson asks, “Which wolf wins?” The grandfather says, “It depends on the one you feed.”  motivational video

Motivational Video Interpretation by Joyce

I’ve told this story many times to clients who are stuck either with relationships or careers.  They see the meaning immediately when the realization is that most of the time they are feeding the bad wolf.  We then discuss their action steps on how to start feeding the good wolf.  A great first step is to realize how much time we spend feeding the bad wolf.

We can all stop our inner fights as long as we are willing to change this pattern.  It’s not easy to do because there is so much negativity in the world.  It’s hard work to concentrate on the “good wolf.”  Don’t let the negative ones influence you.  Remember, “Don’t walk from negative people – RUN!”

Stay Connected with Me

Add a comment to my blog on how you either feed the good or bad wolf.  How do you protect your “good wolf?”  How does this motivational video speak to you?

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email
with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Do you Want More Info on Inner Stress?

Read more articles and listen to podcasts at our Conflict in the Workplace Knowledge Page https://www.joyceweiss.com/resources/knowledge-base/conflict-resolution-in-the-workplace/

 

Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Career Advancement is like riding a bike. Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!
Find your voice with Joyce!

 

Filed Under: Articles on Stress, motivational video
Tagged With: Facts about Stress, stress

December 11, 2018 By Joyce Weiss

Communication Strategies: People Bringing Problems from Home to Work

Communication strategies will be the topic for the next few posts.  You will find case scenarios taken from recent Be Direct with Respect® workshops.

The following Topics will be covered:

  • How to have a tough conversation with a direct report who brings problems from home to work
  • Starting a direct conversation about mediocrity
  • How negativity lowers morale

Read last week’s article on Communication Strategies to Use with Someone Who Brings Problems from Home to Work HERE

Have you dealt with any of the following issues?

  • A direct report who brings issues from home to work and you don’t know what to say.
  • You don’t know how to set boundaries with a stressed-out colleague.  You want to be supportive and you have deadlines to meet.

This article has 2 communication strategies to help you support a friend, colleague or direct report.

Communication Strategy #1:  Make the conversation safe

Make the conversation safe by starting it out with I do want – I don’t want. bullying in the workplace |communication strategies

Here are a few examples:

I don’t want to overstep my boundaries.
I do want to make sure that you are ok.

I don’t want to push you over the edge.
I do want to suggest getting support during this challenging time for you.

I do want you to know that I’m here for you.
I don’t want to leave this unsaid.

You will be reading about this strategy again in the next two articles.  You may be asking yourself, “Joyce why are you repeating this strategy?”  The reason – it works!  You can make your conversations safe by using this strategy.  You can also change the words around by using I don’t want at the beginning or start out with I do want.  Everyone’s comfort level is different.

Communication Strategy #2:  Use Be Direct with Respect®

Be direct with respect®

  • Allows you to be direct in a respectful way
  • Is truth with heart
  • Creates a win/win situation
  • Respects yourself and others

I am ___________________
(Your emotional response)

When I __________________
(Non-judgmental)

Because __________________
(How it affects you)

I am concerned about your state of mine when I see you withdrawn and irritated because I want the best for complainers; negativity in the workplace | improving communication |communication strategiesyou and for us to be at our best as a team.

I am concerned when I see your home issues affecting your work because it impacts your performance and the entire team.

These 2 communication strategies will give you a plan on how to approach this delicate subject with someone who may need some support while you need to set boundaries.  Find more communication strategies in the search option of this blog.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you have helped a stressed-out colleague or direct report.  Let me know what other communication or conflict resolution topics you want me to write about to fit your specific needs. You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers!   You are always welcome to send me a private email HERE with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce communication strategiesconflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Would you like to explore how our coaching online program Communication Skills at Work could help you advance your career or address bullying? Read more on how you can become a master communicator HERE.

We can set up a FREE laser-focused 30-minute phone coaching session to see if the course is right for you.
Send me an email to set up our session HERE.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

 

 

Filed Under: Articles on Stress, Coaching as a Leader
Tagged With: effective communication, personal accountability

June 12, 2018 By Joyce Weiss

New Facts About Stress and Inner Conflict

Suicide is a tragic experience whether in your personal life or in hearing about the recent news of celebrities,  Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.  After watching a segment on CBS’s Sunday Morning called, “A life cut short:  trying to understand suicide”, that aired on June 10, 2018, I decided to share some facts of suicide, stress and inner conflict with you.

New Facts about Stress, Suicide, and Inner Conflict facts about stress

Suicide Prevention Lifeline (SPL) quotes the following:

  • 12 ½ million people think about suicide
  • 2000 teens kill themselves every year
  • SPL answer 2 million calls
  • SPL saves numerous lives daily

The suicide prevention hotline is 1-800-273-8255.

More Facts about Stress and Inner Conflict facts about stress

  • There are more suicides than car accidents
  • There are twice as many suicides than murders
  • Suicides are up 25% since 1999
  • 2000 teenagers commit suicide yearly

More Facts about Stress and Suicides 

  • Suicides are not spontaneous
  • Suicides don’t happen abruptly
  • 90% of people who commit suicide have a pre-existing mental disorder – whether diagnosed or not
  • Most people who commit suicide have been thinking about it for a long time

Fallacies about Suicide

I’ve spoken to numerous mental health professionals who agree that the three statements below are wrong.

Suicide is easy.
It may look easy, but the suicide victim had inner stress and demons that they may have hidden from loved ones for a long time.

Suicide is selfish.
It may look like a selfish act at first when they leave loved ones to suffer – especially children.  Again, the
demons take over.

Suicide is unstoppable.
Suicide isn’t stoppable for all cases, but there are startling instances that show how asking the right questions and going to suicide prevention groups have saved lives.

Thoughts about Inner Conflict from Joyce

The definition of despair means the complete loss or absence of hope.

Suicide victims feel like they have no other option.  Relatives and friends may feel guilty that they never saw it coming.  That is because the suicide victim doesn’t want others to see the extent of their despair.

Mental health professionals recommend that relatives and friends need to ask the following question to loved ones who are in such despair:  Are you thinking of suicide?   They tell us that this one question “could” bring the problem into the open for some victims.

The question we need to answer ourselves is:  – when does the suicide victim reach a threshold that they are compelled to take their life?  Many times, suicide happens after an event occurs in their life.  Suicide victims have a pre-existing condition and don’t act spontaneously – even though it may look that way at first.

I have learned some new approaches with loved ones who have a mental illness; for example, I give them flowers when they return from a stay in a mental facility.  Loved ones tell me how much they appreciate the flowers or books.  Each time I have given gifts the conversations are about how mental health patients are NOT treated like they have a disease.  It is sad to hear these comments.  It is their truth.  I feel that there is still a stigma for people who suffer from mental illness of any kind.  We need to treat them with the same care, respect, and love as we do with those who have a physical illness.  Neither illness can be helped.  It could be in their DNA.

Read more here about my article on “An Internal Fight Within All of Us.”

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on your experience with loved ones who suffer from mental illness.    What stories or techniques have you used that helped them with their inner stress?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work or home.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.  Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

 

This is Joyce Weiss

Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…“You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

Filed Under: Articles on Stress, internal conflict
Tagged With: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Facts about Stress

March 20, 2018 By Joyce Weiss

Controlling Stress: Go From Fear to In-Gear

This week’s blog is taken from my book-Take the Ride of Your Life:  Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth, and Joy.  Chapter 1 is called-Controlling Stress-Go From Fear to In-Gear:  I’m Afraid to Take Off the Training Wheels. The story below is one of my favorites when I work with clients who are going through hard times. controlling stress

Long ago in a faraway land, brutal warlords ravaged the countryside. They took over the villages, ruining the lives of the farmers who lived there. There was one farmer who still had some land. He also had a son and he owned a horse.

Every evening the neighbors gathered to console each other. They looked at the farmer with envy and said, “You have such good luck. Everything good happens to you.” The farmer simply shrugged his shoulders, and said, “Good luck, bad luck, who knows?”

One day the farmer’s horse ran off and disappeared. That same day, the warlords rode into the village and killed all the other farmers’ horses. The neighbors looked at the farmer and said, “You have such good luck.” The farmer replied, “Good luck, bad luck, who knows?”

A few days later the farmer’s horse returned. His son was happy to see the horse. He jumped up on the horse’s back and galloped off for a ride. Suddenly, the horse tripped over a rock. The son fell off the horse and broke his leg.

The warlords soon returned and demanded the villagers’ able-bodied sons for a battle. As the sons were marched away, the villagers looked at the farmer and said, “You have such good luck. Your son was of no use to the warriors and his broken leg. ” The farmer shrugged his shoulders and said, “Good luck, bad luck, who knows?”

Let’s Get Real About Controlling Stress

You can either be like the farmer or his neighbors. The farmer realizes that things happen in life. We can’t label them good or bad right away. We have to give life a chance. The neighbors, on the other hand, are too ready to take on the role of victim. No matter what happens, they feel they are on the losing end of any situation and that there is nothing they can do about it. They don’t know how to “look” for other perspectives, other ways of seeing and living.

We can accept the things that happen to us without labeling them good or bad, lucky or unlucky. Losing a job, for example, may seem bad at the time. New and exciting opportunities, however, can arise from this circumstance. It can turn out for the best — if you maintain a positive attitude. It’s not what happens that shapes us; it’s how we react to it.

Controlling Stress:  Do you have a PO approach to life? controlling stress

I’m not just talking about attitude or a positive outlook, but rather an action, the courage to “pedal on” when stressful things happen. In bicycle terms, it means taking off the training wheels and facing your fear. It’s
what helps you really get rolling whether you think you’re ready or not.

When I hear somebody sigh, “Life is hard,” I am always tempted to ask, “Compared to what?” Human experience would lose something very important if there were no roadblocks to overcome.

The journey would not be half so wonderful if there were no steep hills to climb or the thrill of the wind in your face as you cruise down the other side.
Still, it is tough to stay upbeat in these chaotic times. That’s why “pedaling on” is a necessary survival skill.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you control stress. What stories or expressions help you get through stressful times? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

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This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…“You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

Filed Under: Articles on Stress, Internal stress
Tagged With: controlling stress, resolve conflict and interpersonal issues

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