Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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5 Quick Tips to Confidently Speak UP in Conflict

What do the words “Confidently Speak Up” mean to you?

Are you thinking of a bully or other difficult people at work or home?

You’ll find out what these three words mean to me after you watch the video below.

Audacious Confidence™ Growth Expert, Alicia Couri, host of her TV show, Unleash your Audacious Confidence invited me to be a guest on her show. The topic was Confidence in Conflict.

You’ll find the episode when you see Confidence in Conflict on July 25, 2022.

https://winwinwomen.tv/show/unleash-your-audacious-confidence

What Happens When We Don’t Confidently Speak Up?

  • It affects us mentally, physically, and emotionally
  • We stay up at night and can’t stop thinking about what we need to say
  • Doctors warn us that stress is getting us sick

We Need to Make a Change When We Notice the Signs

Our negative mindset keeps us stuck.

We allow others to control us, especially if the bully is our boss, a relative, or a friend. 

The signs can be any of the following:

  • Ruminating messages that go on and on
  • Being uncomfortable around that person
  • Feeling depressed
  • Avoiding conflict is not confident behavior

How to Make Conversations Safe to Confidently Speak Up

Nancy, a coaching client, had a bully as a friend. Nancy came to me because she was sick and tired of his constant judgment. 

She used the following strategy from the Weiss Communication Success Plan:

I don’t want to create stress between us. I do want to stop our constant disagreement and move forward.

The bully stopped his negative behavior and judgment. He started to respect Nancy because she stood up for herself.

Body Language Needs to Be Strong When We Confidently Speak Up

  • Stand up straight
  • Use a strong voice
  • Look into the bully’s eyes
  • Keep your hands open, which shows you are embracing the relationship
  • Be calm

All of these body language skills show that you mean it! This may disarm the bully from attacking you in the future. 

Thanks to Truth and Deception Detection  Expert Janette Ghedotte for sharing her Accurate Body Language Strategies with me during her boot camps.

Don’t Use These Tips When The Bully is a HOT HEAD

Especially when they are extremely angry. And if their nostrils are open and close like a bull.

This is not the time to have a conversation. You can say, “Let’s table the discussion for tomorrow.”

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a 20-minute exploratory session on any frustration or conflict you want to resolve. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.

Are you ready to discover how you react before, during, and after conflict?
Do you want to reduce your inner stress by discovering blind spots and what triggers set you off? 

Send me an email, and let’s discuss how the Conflict Dynamic Profile can help you resolve your conflict and improve relationships.

I’m always looking for engaging guests on my newly launched LIVE BROADCAST: Kick Conflict to the Curb. Let me know if you want to discuss the possibility of being a guest. I’ll showcase your skills and expertise. The theme is resolving conflict – what a shock, right? 🙂

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

 

 

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Turn a Negative Situation Around to Reduce Conflict

Coaching clients share their frustration with not being able to turn negative situations around more and more these days. When a conflict occurs, many people believe they can’t say or do anything to fix it.  Plus, if they just lay low, they can escape any repercussions.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Turning a blind eye to things or hoping for a negative situation to resolve on its own will only lead to frustration.

This post covers how to handle an internal negative situation.  Next week you’ll receive strategies on how to resolve an external negative situation.

Here’s An Easy Tip to Resolve a Negative Internal Situation

An internal situation could be a co-worker who is continually negative and dragging the team down. Or it could be an employee who’s lazy. Unfortunately, most people think dealing with such internal situations is the manager’s job only. But in fact, anyone can take steps to address such issues.

Simply saying something like, “I don’t want to create stress between us. I do want to discuss why our department needs to work together. Especially because we don’t have the manpower as we did two years ago.”

This statement helps diffuse someone’s negativity. Granted, you can’t expect to step in and be the super-hero who saves the company from negative people. You can have the courage to step up and state the facts in a Direct with Respect® way.

Some people are so used to negative people or a destructive culture that they just stay stuck. It’s a risk that’s worth taking.  If you don’t – and you chicken out now– you’ll pay the price later.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. I decided to take a risk and start interviewing thought-provoking leaders LIVE on my show: Kick Conflict to the Curb™.  Please join me on June 1, 2022, at 1 pm Eastern. You’ll hear Diane DiResta share powerful strategies on Confident Communication. Hey, how can I talk with my coaching clients or loyal blog readers to take risks if I’m stuck in the same routine?
Hope to see you there!

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Successfully Dealing with Passive-Aggressive Behavior | Video 3

Do you want more ideas on how to deal with passive-aggressive behavior in your life?

This is the 3rd in the series: “Effectively Dealing with Passive-Aggressive Behavior.”

Let’s get real: This conversation won’t be easy. I suggest that you start out easy. This may be a good time for you to bring up coaching to this person If the communication backfires.

Today’s video is about easy action steps that you can take with these difficult people.

 

The videos below are #1 and #2 in the series.

Here are a few action steps to express your concerns about passive-aggressive behavior

  • Express your thoughts and concerns
  • Think clearly before you act
  • Seek clarification: I’m not sure what you mean by that, or I think I missed something here.

Please share how this series helped you cope better.

I’m here if you want a private coaching session. We can create a successful plan and practice the skills you learned in this video.
The bottom line is that you will Stomp Out Your Stress.
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send me an email, and we can set up a couple of sessions that will quickly reduce your inner stress.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – to feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results.

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for watching, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

 

 

 

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Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior | Video 2

Are you ready to discover how to ask strong coaching questions to those difficult people who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior?

If so, this video is for you.

I’ll share a few coaching questions that you can begin using with the person with this difficult condition.
Plus, you’ll learn action steps to take.

You’ll find the link to video 1 in the series “Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior” below this post.

Let’s get real: This conversation won’t be easy. I suggest that you start out easy. This may be a good time for you to bring up coaching to this person If the communication backfires.

Here are a few questions to get you started with those who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior:

  • Do you put off doing things as a way to punish others?
  • What is the truth that needs expressing?
  • What effects does this have on your life/work/relationships?

I use these questions when coaching clients who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior and seek my guidance.
I repeat you can start off using 1 question just to test the water.

Passive-Aggressive Behavior is Usually Tough to Handle on Our Own

  • It isn’t easy to change passive-aggressive behavior
  • Standing up for yourself is difficult
  • Passive-aggressive behavior is an easier way for them to deal with emotions without having to confront the source of their anger.

I hope these strategies will help you to effectively deal with passive-aggressive behavior.

I’m here if you want a private session or to help you create a successful plan and practice the skills you learned in this video.
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send me an email and we can set up a couple of sessions that will reduce your inner peace.

The video below is #1 in the series “Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior. 

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool to feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

Be Well and Happy
and Remember, you get what you tolerate!

The video below is #1 in the series “Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior. 

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2 Surprising Tips to Make Your Relationships Better |Video

Are you ready for two easy and surprising tips to make your relationships better?

This week’s video shows you how to get better results even during a difficult conversation.

Coaching clients get powerful results after practicing these strategies with me. It’s surprisingly easy.

Stephen R. Covey said, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand: they listen with the intent to reply.”

Improve Your Relationships Tip #1: Explore From the Other Person’s Shoes

Here are two examples:

  • “I’d be pretty mad if I were in your shoes.”
  • “I can see why you may say this.”

These statements show that you are listening deeply. Your relationships will improve when others see that you are really with them.

Make Better Relationships Tip # 2: Propose a Harmonious Outcome

The following examples show you how easy it is:

  • “What bothers you most about the person?”
  • “How can you explain your reason for acting this way?”

You are not judging, just asking two exploratory questions to help the other person resolve his or her situation.

Joyce, What Are Your Thoughts? 

I’m glad you asked. 🙂
Just listen to others communicate. It won’t take long for you to figure out that most people listen only to reply. They are not with the other person and it’s so evident.

Remember Stephen Covey’s quote:
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand: they listen with the intent to reply.”

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Here’s my calendar. 

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. And coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit with anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more communication tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831

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