What do the words “Confidently Speak Up” mean to you?
Are you thinking of a bully or other difficult people at work or home?
You’ll find out what these three words mean to me after you watch the video below.
Audacious Confidence™ Growth Expert, Alicia Couri, host of her TV show, Unleash your Audacious Confidence invited me to be a guest on her show. The topic was Confidence in Conflict.
You’ll find the episode when you see Confidence in Conflict on July 25, 2022.
What Happens When We Don’t Confidently Speak Up?
- It affects us mentally, physically, and emotionally
- We stay up at night and can’t stop thinking about what we need to say
- Doctors warn us that stress is getting us sick
We Need to Make a Change When We Notice the Signs
Our negative mindset keeps us stuck.
We allow others to control us, especially if the bully is our boss, a relative, or a friend.
The signs can be any of the following:
- Ruminating messages that go on and on
- Being uncomfortable around that person
- Feeling depressed
- Avoiding conflict is not confident behavior
How to Make Conversations Safe to Confidently Speak Up
Nancy, a coaching client, had a bully as a friend. Nancy came to me because she was sick and tired of his constant judgment.
She used the following strategy from the Weiss Communication Success Plan:
I don’t want to create stress between us. I do want to stop our constant disagreement and move forward.
The bully stopped his negative behavior and judgment. He started to respect Nancy because she stood up for herself.
Body Language Needs to Be Strong When We Confidently Speak Up
- Stand up straight
- Use a strong voice
- Look into the bully’s eyes
- Keep your hands open, which shows you are embracing the relationship
- Be calm
All of these body language skills show that you mean it! This may disarm the bully from attacking you in the future.
Thanks to Truth and Deception Detection Expert Janette Ghedotte for sharing her Accurate Body Language Strategies with me during her boot camps.
Don’t Use These Tips When The Bully is a HOT HEAD
Especially when they are extremely angry. And if their nostrils are open and close like a bull.
This is not the time to have a conversation. You can say, “Let’s table the discussion for tomorrow.”
Let’s Stay Connected
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You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a 20-minute exploratory session on any frustration or conflict you want to resolve. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.
Are you ready to discover how you react before, during, and after conflict?
Do you want to reduce your inner stress by discovering blind spots and what triggers set you off?
Send me an email, and let’s discuss how the Conflict Dynamic Profile can help you resolve your conflict and improve relationships.
I’m always looking for engaging guests on my newly launched LIVE BROADCAST: Kick Conflict to the Curb. Let me know if you want to discuss the possibility of being a guest. I’ll showcase your skills and expertise. The theme is resolving conflict – what a shock, right? 🙂
Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution
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