Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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A Timely Quote about Doubt by William Shakespeare

The timely quote about doubt by William Shakespeare holds true today.

  • Do you doubt yourself?
  • Does this happen often?
  • How do you stop doubt from stressing you out?

Let’s go deeper! 

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Timely Quote Tip #1: Do You Doubt Yourself?

I can see many of you shaking your head up and down. Of course, we all doubt ourselves at times. In fact, this can be good or bad.  First, it’s bad if doubt stops us from moving forward.  On the other hand, it’s good if doubt forces us to feel the fear and do it anyway.

Motivational Speaker, Tony Robbins came to Detroit, over 30 years ago. I was starting out at the beginning of my career. Tony talked about doubt for an entire day. 

The next day he spoke about strategies for putting our fear into power. Imagine if you were me, eyes wide open. And willing to take any risk to get me unstuck. Was I really ready to become a  corporate speaker?   

Look for a link at the end of this article for a story that describes my experience with Tony Robbins even more. 🙂

Timely Quote Tip #2:  How Often do You Feel Doubt?

Back to Tony Robbins training.  The next day, he asked over 1000 participants to think about how often doubt stopped us. Especially,  from achieving our goals.
As a matter of fact, I raised my hand immediately. And told Tony that doubt isn’t a big issue for me. Additionally, I said, that when doubt appears in my life, I question the validity. Is this really fear or:

F: False
E: Evidence
A: Appearing
R: Real

Tony said some great affirmations and it seemed like he spoke only to me. 🙂 

Timely Quote Tip #3:  How Do You Stop Doubt from Stressing You Out?

Tony’s real message came on the last day of the training. In fact, he invited all of us who were ready to risk, to walk on hot coals. And overcome our fears. As a matter of fact, Career Coach | timely quoteI was not one of the first ones to get up and say, “I’m ready, Tony!” 

I thought I was ready. Until he looked at my eyes. He said, “not yet, you need to work a bit more on your self-doubt.” I watched others walk across the hot coals.  And saw the glee in their eyes when they were done.  I wanted that too!

So, dear readers, did I walk or not? The final answer is…YES!

It took another 30 minutes to remind myself that I trusted Tony. The biggest issue with doubt is to start trusting ourselves more.  

I use this analogy in my coaching practice. Clients who doubt themselves need to know that they are not alone. I share how I overcame certain fears in my life. This gives them hope that their coach is a human being also with fears, doubts, and conflict. 🙂

The good news is that this ‘coal walking experience” still influences me today. 

I hope it will give you that little push the next time doubt stops you from trying something new.  Ask yourself if it’s a real fear or “false evidence appearing true!”

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post.

  • How does Shakespeare’s timely quote resonate with you?
  • When has doubt stopped you?
  • What do you do to stop doubt from stressing you out?
  • Have you read any of Tony Robbin’s books?

You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Read more about my personal story about Tony Robbin’s Fire Walk Experience HERE

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.

P.P.S. I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers so that they feel heard and respected.
This means they are confident to use their voice – without losing their cool.

P.P.S. Do you know young adults in high school or college who need to discuss their doubts, career choices, and timely issues.  A couple of my clients asked me to coach their young adults. The results were gratifying. And it only takes a few sessions.

 

 

 

 

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Joyce Weiss’s High Drama on the Bike Trail

Are you ready for a story about high drama on the bike trail?

Imagine that you actually take some time for yourself.  A bike ride sounds like a great idea.  You’re ready to feel free with the wind in your hair.  It’s time to reflect on your day.  Or you just want to have a powerful workout.

That was my intention. And I looked forward to some alone time. I pumped up the tires. Additionally, the water bottle was filled.  And put on my helmet and sunscreen. The day was mine.  I was ready to enjoy a beautiful Michigan summer day.  

Until… the high drama happened on the bike trail.  Four bike riders were heading towards me.  They took up the entire bike path.  I couldn’t go around them. This occurs all the time on bike trails.  Usually, when a group of bike riders sees someone coming towards them, they go in a single file.

Not these bike riders! They didn’t let me pass.  They started laughing at me saying, “What are you going to do little lady?”  Yes, they bullied this conflict resolution coach.

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You’ll hear what I did soon.  I promise!

I’ve told this high drama story at least 10 times. In fact, I asked friends and relatives what they would do. The answers were diverse.

What Would You do if You were in my Shoes? And Experienced This High Drama?

  • Get off your bike?
  • Go into the trees and let them pass?high drama
  • Say something in a humorous way?
  • Start yelling about their rudeness?

Please respond and let us know in the comment section. 
I’ll send a copy of my book, Take the Ride of Your Life! to the first two people who comment.  

Joyce, Tell us Already.  What Did You do During this High Drama on the Bike Trail?

I reacted without thinking.  This is something that is a natural reaction during stress.  

The following words fell out of my mouth:  “You’ve got to be kidding me! You want me to get off my bike instead of the four of you riding in a single file?” These words fueled the fire. They continued laughing and started saying sarcastic comments about my attitude.

Lessons Learned From This High Drama on the Bike Trail

It took me a long time to calm down.  My heart was pumping very fast.  I felt angry and scared.  Bike riders are usually very courteous.  I was totally caught off guard this time. 

Life is about learning from mistakes.  This lesson is an easy one to recognize.  It’s NOT easy to execute. As I reflect on this high drama, silence would have been the best response.  They were jerks.  What good did it do for me to speak to them? Nothing!

Silence is a powerful tool.  It helps us stay in control. And not say something we wished we didn’t say.  It’s an act of strength.  I’m not talking about not feeling heard. This is another issue that I address in everything that I do.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. What parts resonate with you?  How would you have responded to this high drama?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Remember, the first 2 people who comment on this blog post will receive a copy of Take the Ride of Your Life!

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media.  As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.

P.P.S. I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers so that they feel heard and respected.
This means they are confident to use their voice – without losing their cool.

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The Power of Persistence in Your Life & a Contest!

 

The power of persistence is the theme of this week’s blog post. 

The American Heritage Dictionary defines PERSISTENCE as ” To hold firmly to a purpose despite obstacles, warnings, or setbacks.”

I knew you would receive a future blog post from me, the moment I found this quote by Buddha.
I hope it speaks to you as loudly as it speaks to me.

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How I Used the Power of Persistence in My Life

There are so many times when I refused to give in to setbacks:

  • My marriage – all the persistence worked 🙂
  • Marketing to clients on the benefits of Kick Conflict to the Curb – a 6-week virtual course
  • Overcoming a lifetime fear of deep water so I could snorkel in Bora Bora
  • Getting back into my career after 3,000 people walked out of the keynote program

    I promise to write articles on each one of these “setbacks.”  

How Have You Used the Power of Persistence in Your Life?

Think about your own experience. Can you think of a time that you had to overcome obstacles and setbacks yet the power of persistence kept you going?
When was this and what kept the momentum moving forward and not quitting?

Let’s start another contest, dear blog readers!  I’m sending the first 2 people who share their story in the comment section or send me a private email an autographed copy of my book, Take the Ride of Your Life! 

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does Buddha’s quote resonate with you?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

I work with HR and Business Professionals so that they feel heard and respected which means they feel confident in tough conversations without losing their cool. 🙂

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media so other growth-minded people can search deep within themselves and continue growing professionally.

 

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Easy Secrets when Coaching Your Team: Part 5

This five-part series on coaching your team has been a great reminder of how important the code of conduct is to everyone on the team. You can say goodbye to the following when you create the code of conduct when coaching your team:

  • Unclear expectations
  • Hidden agendas
  • Allowing rude behavior
  • Unresolved conflict
  • Stopping bullies from taking over meetings

This is article# 5  in the 5 part series.  You will find parts 1-4 below to review or just in case you missed them.

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #1

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #2

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #3

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #4

 

Coaching Your Team Secret #5:  What to do When You or Someone Else Breaks the Code coaching your team |coaching strategies | conflict in the workplace | humor | communication strategies

  • Take a deep breath
  • Don’t take it personally
  • Acknowledge the person
  • Listen without interrupting
  • If you made a mistake admit it
  • Ask the person how to make it right

Breaking the code is to be expected at times especially when a team member didn’t buy into this exercise from the beginning.

This is when everyone needs to step up their game and take the initiative to have that tough conversation with the person who broke the code.

It’s not up to leadership to have these conversations because everyone is on the same level when creating the code of conduct while coaching your team.

Case Scenario when Coaching Your Team

One of my HR clients had a hard time getting everyone on the page sharing clear expectations with the team.  She called me in to create the code of conduct because several team members were starting to work in silos and keeping important information from other departments.  During the training, it was like magic when I asked everyone to make a list of what topics they felt needed to be included in the code of conduct.

My HR client was thrilled because this was a barrier when she was coaching her team before this exercise.

We did get agreement from everyone to include clear expectations in the code of conduct.  Team members discussed why it was important to their department and even to the individual team members.  It was an eye-opening moment for those who were working in silos and didn’t realize how they were holding back team communication.

Oh Oh…Someone Broke the Code of Conduct

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About a month after the code was established, one of the team members contacted me for ideas on how to address this issue with an individual who kept client communication from other departments. We practiced a few communication strategies and the employee went to the team member and said,

“I was caught off guard when I didn’t receive information about our client because we decided how important clear expectations and communication is for the entire company.  Please let me know what you need in order to make sure that this doesn’t happen again.” 

That’s it.  Short and sweet.  There was no judgment – only an open conversation about breaking the code.

The person who broke the code admitted that she forgot to share the information and she thanked her colleague for bringing it to her attention.

I realize that you may work with a difficult person who would not have responded in such a positive way.  That’s still isn’t an excuse for you not to speak to him or her.  You may need to go to leadership for a coaching moment on how to handle this.

Plus you have your own conflict resolution and communication coach right in your corner.  All you have to do is send me an email while you are coaching your team

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

I work with HR and Business Professionals so that they feel heard and respected which means they feel confident in tough conversations without losing their cool. 🙂

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media so other growth-minded people can control their inner stress.

P.P.S.  Below are all the links from parts 1 to 4 in the series – Easy Secrets when Coaching your Team

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #1

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #2

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #3

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #4

 

 

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Easy Secrets to Successfully Coach Your Team: Part 4

successfully coach your team |code of conduct |team coachingThe code of conduct is such an underused strategy to successfully coach your team.  The reason why it’s so powerful is that HR Professionals get buy-in from the team after everyone agrees to the “rules.”
The execution is easy.  Getting people to understand the importance is not so easy because it’s new for many people and it will create uncomfortable, yet necessary change.

This is part 4 in the 5 part series.  You will find parts 1-3 below to review or just in case you missed it.

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #1

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #2

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #3

Successfully Coach Your Team Secret #4:  The Code of Conduct is the Police Officer successfully coach your team |reduce conflict at work

You may need to have the following conversation when a team member breaks the code: 

“This is not about me attacking you. This is about following the code. We all agreed upon the code. I’m uncomfortable doing this yet I need to speak to you since it will benefit all of us. It is not about being mean or blaming you. It is about sticking to what we decided to do. What specifically do you need to understand the rules of the code of conduct?  I’m here for you to make sure you join the rest of us.”

This is a perfect time for HR Professionals to address accountability issues with an individual who is being difficult and refusing to follow the rules. 

Do you Need Support to Successfully Coach Your Team? 

Coaching skills take years to learn and practice.  A trained conflict resolution or communication coach knows how to successfully coach your team because of experience in the field.  If you answered “yes” to the question above, you don’t have to look very far for assistance.  I’m right here. 🙂  All you have to do is send me an email with your questions or concerns.  I will answer your questions and if you need more support, we can discuss coaching options that fit anyone’s time schedule.  I will send you a calendar link to set up a FREE 20-minute discovery call with you.

This 20-minute phone call is complimentary for my blog readers – how easy is that?

I Want to Hear From You

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

I work with human resource and business professionals so that they feel heard and respected which means they feel confident in tough conversations without losing their cool. 🙂

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media so other growth-minded people can control their inner stress.

P.P.S: You will find the links to Team Coaching Secrets #1-3 just in case you missed them:

 

 

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #1

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #2

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #3

 

Contact Joyce

Joyce Weiss
6737 Oyster Cove
West Bloomfield, MI 48323

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 1-248-681-5831

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