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February 22, 2015 By Joyce Weiss

What Happens When You Work with a Narcissist?

Do you experience some of the situations at work or home when the same person…conflict girl pointing finger

  • Always has drama in his or her life?
  • Constantly criticizes others and never accepts responsibility?
  • Shows anger if he or she doesn’t get his or her way…just like a 2 year old child?
  • Takes up your time only with their issues and impedes your boundaries?

If so you may be working or living with a narcissist. This person is a tough one to work with and is always a challenge for participants in my Resolving Conflict in the Workplace Trainings. My clients have tried to deal with the selfish and critical team player with no success. I tell them that this disorder is one that some people NEVER are able to figure out and resolve issues. It is worth the effort to look for options in order to make your life easier. 🙂

Description of the Narcissist Personality Disorder

You will learn the characteristics in this blog post. Next week you will discover how to deal with them.

Most narcissists don’t exhibit all of the characteristics described in this article. 1 in 100 exhibit all these descriptions according to the American Psychiatric Association. Recognize when you are with someone who repeatedly evokes shame, anger, or idealizes others. You can then figure out your next step to protect yourself. Try NOT to personalize since they treat others the same way!

  1. Narcissist injury or intense sensitivity to shame
    They don’t experience shame and things are never their fault. They feel assaulted and will show rage and blame others. Please do your best to resist confrontation until you read next weeks suggestions.
  2. Devaluation of others
    Their charm draws others into their web until they drop their victim abruptly. They repair themselves by criticizing others.
  3. Envy
    They never admit that they are envious of others and feel self righteous and contempt with their colleagues or relatives. They are actually VERY insecure.
  4. Entitlement
    Their feelings and needs are all that matters. There’s no room for negotiation or reciprocity. They feel rage if they don’t get their way…just like a 2 year old.
  5. Violation of your boundaries…detach yourself
    They don’t know when they are being too personal or invasive since everything evolves around their schedules or interests. Start documenting their excuses and abuses to protect yourself since they don’t recognize that they have boundary issues. Awareness will not change the reality but it changes YOUR perspective.

Click Here to share your experiences about this challenging behavior. What kind of personality do these people have and what challenges do you find when dealing with them?

Joyce Recommends a Very Helpful Book on Narcissists

If I have peaked your interest and want to learn more information, I suggest that you read Why is Everything Always About You? Sandy Hotchkiss does an excellent job giving suggestions on how to cope with this tough individual. Look for more information next week giving you concrete suggestions on dealing with a narcissist who you may work with or live with at home.

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Click Here to send me your questions or concerns. I enjoy hearing from my readers plus they get their questions answered. Let me know what topics you want me to write about concerning your own conflict in the workplace “issues.”

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Please send me any comments that you may have about this article. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life. Let them know about the “Communicate with Impact Weekly” so they can sign up for their own weekly articles.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

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Filed Under: Communication Skills, Conflict in the Workplace, Dealing with Complainers, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace
Tagged With: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, effective communication, how to improve communication skills, improving communication skills, relationships, resolve conflict and interpersonal issues

December 28, 2014 By Joyce Weiss

Are You The Family’s Truth Teller?

cartoon women boxing in long dressesClients and friends ask me how I can be as bold as I am with some of the examples that I share with them.  I realized years ago that most people don’t know how to resolve conflict in the workplace or home.  I see people letting things fester because they don’t have the skills or fear what will happen if they open up their mouth!  It has taken me YEARS of practice, making mistakes, making more mistakes, taking classes, reading, and gaining the respect by others and mainly for myself.

At times my family asks me why I need to be the family’s truth teller.  I tell them what Forrest Gump said when someone asked him what he was going to be, “Aren’t I going to be me?”  Believe me when I tell you that I’m not ALWAYS the bold one.  There are times when I actually hold back because the timing is not the best, or I may be tired and not full of my creative juices for that moment.  BUT, when I see things that need to be said, in a positive way, you better believe that I point these things out to clients, friends and family.  It is not always easy but I get a great night’s sleep because I don’t constantly think about unresolved issues.

This post contains quotes from people who you will recognize about this very topic.  I do hope that they will give your the courage to either speak up or hold back if you are one of the aggressive communicators. 🙂 … [Continue reading]

Filed Under: Communication, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Conflict in the Workplace, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Improving Communication, Increase Respect in the Workplace, Respect in the Workplace, Trust and transparency
Tagged With: Communication, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, effective communication, personal accountability, personal development, trust

December 21, 2014 By Joyce Weiss

An Internal Fight Inside All of Us

conflict woman's fist on tableMany of my articles are about resolving conflict in the workplace.  This post is about our internal conflict.  We can’t separate work and home at times.  I do hope that this post will help you let go of some issues that may be bogging you down.  We ALL spend way too much time in our personal and professional lives with this internal stress.

I client shared an Old Cherokee Legend with me recently.  It is so powerful and decided to add to to my conflict in the workplace trainings. 

Do you…

  • Think about unresolved issues that take up your valuable time?
  • Regret things that you didn’t or did do?
  • Have a pity party when things don’t go your way?

We are all human and think about unresolved issues, regret, and feel sorry for ourselves a times.  The important thing to remember is how much time we waste by not resolving things, letting go of regret or feeling sorry for ourselves and start making things better.… [Continue reading]

Filed Under: Articles on Stress, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Facts about Stress, Internal stress
Tagged With: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Facts about Stress, personal development, stress, work stress

November 2, 2014 By Joyce Weiss

2 Powerful Tips to Get Rid of Drainers

  • Copy (2) of photos from juicer 029Is there a negative person in your life that you don’t want to be around anymore?
  • Are complainers sucking your energy?
  • Do you want to learn how to set yourself free from these energy drainers?

If so, I have 2 powerful tips that will help you eliminate this huge conflict in the workplace or home! 

Being honest might not get you a lot of friends, but it will always get you the right ones.
                                                                                                  John Lennon

Powerful Tip #1

I started using John Lennon’s quote years ago when I was working on my Masters Degree in Counseling.  Many of my friends called me and complained about their kids, work, or significant other.  I used to listen because that’s just what I did.  Then it dawned on me that I gave them ideas on how to solve their conflicts yet they still called with the same complaints.  I changed my communication with these complaining friends.  I started asking them, “What are you going to do about this?”  They didn’t like the fact that I started asking them to accept responsibility about how their life would not change unless they changed the “dance steps.”  It wasn’t fun for them to call me anymore.  I loved it because I started having more control with my free time and who I wanted to be with in my life…not people who complained and failed to focus on solutions! … [Continue reading]

Filed Under: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Dealing with Complainers, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace
Tagged With: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, conflict in the workplace, how to improve communication skills

April 2, 2013 By Joyce Weiss

Tips to Create a Winning Team

conflict 2 ppl arguing

Do you ever wonder why your team is not as productive and positive as you want it to be?
Do you want to resolve conflict in the workplace by changing things around?

If so, you are in the right place!
My clients ask me to help them deal with tough situations at work.
They know that this is the only way to make change…facing it head on.

Their challenge is that they don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or make things worse.
They know how to have those tough conversations and move forward after they learn the techniques that I’ve already shared with you in other blog posts such as:

  • Be Direct with Respect
  • Verbal Aikido
  •  The Gap

Read this post on how to handle tough conversations
Send me any questions that you may have to improve your working condition.

 Reasons Why Team Synergy WON’T Work

Have you ever wondered why your team doesn’t work as well as it can? Does your team…

  •  Believe it is already there?
  •  Continue to use group think?
  •  Allow negative team members to zap the team’s morale?
  •  Know the expectations and roles of others?

If so, discuss the possible reasons to remove obstacles.

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Until Next Time…This is Joyce Weiss
and Remember…YOU Get What YOU Tolerate!

P.S.  Click here for more information on how to deal with tough conversations

 

 

Filed Under: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Conflict in the Workplace, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Improving Communication, Miscellaneous
Tagged With: Conflict and Resolution Specialist, conflict in the workplace, how to improve communication skills, resolve conflict and interpersonal issues

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