Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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We are all Change Masters During These Crazy Times!

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I recently saw this powerful quote by Mary Engelbreit, Author, and Artist.  I knew I had to make a poster for you!  We are ALL change masters these days. We don’t like it that our lives have been turned upside down. Like anything else in life, we have a choice on how we react to the changes. Some of my clients are glued to the tv or Alexa and all the negativity is affecting their mental state, big time.

We get so caught up in this negativity at times and we just don’t see that we are change masters. We can wallow in our fear or do something about it. Some of my clients decided that they wanted to give back and help others who are less fortunate than they are at this point in their life. Others have decided to take online classes or some other professional development project.

Joyce, What Did You Do to Become a Change Master?

In March we all knew that we were in something dangerous. We didn’t know at that time all the ramifications. A couple of online classes literally fell in my lap in March and opportunities are opening up like never before. The only reason is that I changed my outlook and attitude. I am still informed of what’s going on in our country and the world. I made an executive decision to jump right into new water without the usual planning that I do.  My focus was as strong as it could be and all doubt and fear disappeared. I knew I needed to do something different.

My clients enjoy hearing that they don’t have to be so down and out. We explore options for professional growth projects, new exercise programs, family activities to break the boring routines or anything to change the closed mindset. It isn’t easy to do unless we are fortunate to have friends, family, colleagues, and coaches 🙂 for the needed support.

How are you a Change Master?

  • Please share how you have become a change master during this pandemic.
  • How did you change fear into finding opportunities?
  • What small steps did you take?
  • Describe how you see colleagues, friends, or family members who are stuck in all the negativity.
  • Please comment on this post and share your experiences.

My cell is 248.325.8101. Reach out any way that you want and you know I will respond to each and every message I receive. This is the icing on the cake – communicating with my loyal readers.  It’s easy to make a comment right on this blog.

Here’s a Story About Why Laughter is so Important to This Change Master

A couple of colleagues recently criticized me when I encouraged laughter during my online course: Kick Conflict to the Curb.  They thought it was disrespectful because of what’s going on in the world today. That’s fine and they can lead their classes more seriously. I’m a change master and know how important it is to laugh even during the saddest moments.

Death and Dying was an interesting class that I took when I was studying for my Master’s Degree in Guidance and Counseling. The professor invited 2 families whose children had recently passed away. Both families told us that laugher helped them during the mourning process a bit easier. Of course, they talked about the child’s illness for a while.  They also shared all the funny episodes in their child’s life. This took some time for them to move from such loss to lighter moments.

This one class changed my outlook on life. Laughter and fun are both stress relievers. I’m so satisfied when clients change their outlook at their own speed and believe me, it’s more important now than ever before to take care of ourselves. Our mental states are being challenged daily. I’m here to support anyone you know who could benefit from working with me for only a few sessions.  

Have a GREAT Week!
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

 

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Life Coaching Strategies to Set Boundaries at Home and Work

Life coaching strategies are something that we can all use in our life – especially when it’s about setting boundaries to balance our hectic life.

Do you have colleagues or loved ones that use a lot of your time talking and talking while you are in the middle of something important?  If so, this article will give you some ideas on how to take charge of this stressful situation.

Do you have a tough time saying, “no” to others who ask you to volunteer since you are the “right person” to help them with a project?  If so, you will find out how easy it is to say, “no” without sounding aggressive.

Enjoy the life coaching strategies article and please let me know your boundary issues at work and home.  I will ask you to share these with me at the end of the article.

Life Coaching Strategies #1:  Learn the Power of Boundaries

You’re invited to be on the PTA!  You’re such a great baker; “We need your help with the bake sale!”
A co-worker needs your help with a work project!  You have no time and you don’t want to disappoint people who have such high regard for you.

It feels good when people ask us to do things we’re good at. Our egos are stroked. We like it when other people can count on us.  We also need to stop ourselves when people ask us to help them when our lives are out of whack!  Stop and remind yourself that it’s ok to take care of you or your family and not save the world 24 hours a day.

Life Coaching Strategies #2:  Remember Boundaries from Your Past

We had boundaries as kids such as – “Come home when the streetlights come on. No TV until your homework is completed.”

Too often, though, we don’t set them for ourselves as adults.

Think about recent commitments and make a list of duties you wish you had said, “no” to.  This can help you prepare a response for the next time.  Firmly enforce your boundaries. If you set boundaries and people still take advantage, it’s your fault for not taking care of your own time restrictions.

Remember, “You get what you tolerate.”

Life Coaching Strategies #3:  The Power of Family Boundaries

Shannon, a busy working mother, wanted to return to school to earn her degree. She knew the extra hours would life coaching strategiesaffect her family, so she called a family meeting.  She explained it was a two-year commitment.  Her kids would need to make their own lunches and life might be a little more stressful for a while.

The payoff was a better job for Shannon, allowing the family to have money for the vacation they wanted, or for her kids to attend college.  They agreed to her plan. To this day, when they complain, she reminds them about the family meeting.  This worked out for Shannon because she was focused and spoke about short-term stresses for her and the family.

Life Coaching Strategies #4:  The Power of Work Boundaries

Do you have a co-worker who stops by your desk, seeking help for her or his projects and leaving you with less time for your own?  Use ‘I’ language to deflect them.  For example, “I’m frustrated because I’d love to help you out.  I have a deadline on this project.” Or set a time limit:  “I can give you five minutes because I need to leave at 3:00 for my daughter’s soccer game.”

Life Coaching Strategies #5:  Friendship Boundaries

What about that friend whose number on your caller ID makes you Life coaching strategiesgroan?  These energy vampires are talkaholics, and it’s all about them and what they need.  You don’t have to pick up the phone. Or you can say up front, “I’m tied up this week; I’ll be glad to call you back or email you.”

Let’s Get Real

We encounter demands for our time and energy from many directions.  When those demands become too much, the continual stress can lead to an array of health problems.  Create and enforce boundaries to help manage your stress levels, and you will feel better about the commitments you make.

It can mean a longer, healthier, happier life.

 I want to hear from you

Send me what boundaries you set for yourself at home or work.  What boundary issues do you need to control?  You know I answer all comments and questions.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.  Help us help them reduce conflict and quality of life.

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of communication and coaching experience to help you or your organization address life coaching strategies here.

Read more articles and listen to podcasts at our Life Coaching Strategies Knowledge Base

 

 

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Spite is Punishing Yourself for Someone Else’s Actions

Have you ever been mad at a colleague for being habitually late for client meetings?
Is there someone at work who is disorganized and counts on you for finding misplaced items?
Do these behaviors stress you out internally?

If so, you will enjoy this post which is about letting go of your anger and gaining back control.

Many of you have heard me say, “You can’t put your head on anyone else’s shoulders.“  These words help my clients when they get angry at a person.

You may be extremely organized and send out client proposals immediately.  Your colleague or direct report may be a procrastinator.  You can change your actions and can’t change a person who is always late, negative, or just a mediocre worker.

Of course, if you are a leader may need to send your direct reports to workshops or classes.  You need to discipline others due to productivity issues.  Your star employees will appreciate this – big time!

Stop getting mad at a person when they can’t help being late, passive, or disorganized.  Believe me when I say these behaviors are barriers which will stop them from their own success.

Stay tuned because I am developing new coaching strategies which include knowing your triggers and how you can become less stressed by others’ actions.  I will share this new information soon!  I promise. 🙂

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I want to hear from you

Send me your favorite quotes that help you through tough situations at work. You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my loyal readers! 🙂

Please share this poster and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict, improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of communication, leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address team building strategies here.

This is Joyce Weiss, Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

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Life Coaching Strategies to Help Your Employees Reduce Stress

Are you a leader who wants to learn life coaching strategies?
Do you want to find answers on how to balance your life better?
Are you ready to change one small behavior to reduce stress?

If so, these 3 life coaching strategies will help you get some great results.

After working for the same software company for several years, a young professional moved 90 minutes away from the organization.  Instead of dealing with a grueling commute, she proposed that she could come into the office just one day a week, and work the rest of the time from home. The company leadership agreed.  The woman found a mutually agreeable solution that allowed her to achieve work-life balance.

Unfortunately, many employees in the same situation wouldn’t feel comfortable making such a request.  With so many companies doing more with less, employees need to achieve a better work-life balance… and you can help your organization do just that.

Life Coaching Strategies #1:  Find Out What Coworkers and Employees Need

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Some workers might want a more flexible office schedule, a compressed workweek, job sharing options, or resources for child care or elder care. Others may want healthy workplace initiatives like on-site exercise classes and wellness lectures.

What can you do?

Create a work-life committee to survey people and find out their needs. Members can then recommend ways the organization might help employees achieve more balanced lives.

Life Coaching Strategies #2:  Relieving the Pressure of Overtime Demands

When demands become rigorous, everyone suffers.

What can you do?

Do something special for coworkers and employees – like providing a dessert, a dinner, or little thank you gestures. Suggest that dedicated people get an afternoon off… and everyone will be rewarded with a newly refreshed coworker.

Life Coaching Strategies #3:  Setting an Example

People who don’t take time for themselves feel more stressed, and consequently, become less productive at work.

What can you do?

Don’t begrudge people their personal time. Encourage others by modeling how important balance is in your life- when you leave at 5:00 p.m. to see your son’s soccer game, realize that you are an outstanding role model!

Concluding Thoughts about these 3 Life Coaching Strategies

Most of us are looking for ways to find more balance in our life.  I constantly look for life coaching strategies for my clients and myself! 🙂  We can lower our stress by changing only one behavior.  If you are a leader bring in speakers from a local health care facility to help your employees learn the newest strategies for lowering stress. There are many books, youtube videos, and classes on finding balance.  Cicero said, Where there is life, there is hope.

The challenge for all of us is finding a solution that fits our individual needs.  I will be sharing more articles and videos on finding balance and reducing stress because my loyal readers and clients keep on asking me to do so.

 I want to hear from you

Send me an email with your questions or comments on how you or your company use life coaching strategies to find balance. What challenges to you still experience?  What topics do you want me to cover in a future article?

Read more articles and listen to podcasts at our Life Coaching Strategies Knowledge Base

 

This is Joyce Weiss, Communications Strategist and Coach

Learn how my 30+ years of communication and leadership consulting and coaching experience can help your organization address life coaching strategies here.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”


 

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Secrets From a Career Coach to Gain More Control at Work and Home

As a Career Coach, several of my clients wanted me to help them identify how they can do more with less in a new way…to change their status quo. They described how they felt like gerbils constantly running on a wheel…going no where! After doing a couple of pilot programs, we discovered key questions that people enjoyed answering on how to change their routine.

This article is a description of one of my programs – The New Normal: Doing More with Less. I hope that the information will help you solve some of your own issues at work. Leaders and their employees are maxed out with new demands on resources. I challenge you to think about important changes so you can gain control of your hectic life! Creative thinking is a necessity to keep up with constant change and expectations. We all have the same 24 hours in our day. We need to figure out how to work as productively as possible and change the way we have done things in the past. You will learn strategies to keep up with the workload without burning out. I look hearing your comments and questions! 🙂

Career Coach Secret # 1: Balance – I’m stuck in high gear

  1. What boundaries do you set for yourself at work to achieve balance in your personal life?
  2. What boundaries do you need to set for yourself at work?
  3. What systems do you use to identify what is important to whom and when?
  4. How do you weed out or stop things that aren’t working and recharge with a new program alignment?

Career Coach Secret #2: Fun -“Look, Ma – no hands!” Give yourself permission to have fun

  1. What issues/barriers are hindering you from creating a positive work environment?
  2. How do you keep your staff, team, and YOU from burning out?
  3. What does your organization do to encourage life prioritization?

Career Coach Secret # 3: Strategies from Joyce Weiss

  1. Which questions above speak to your specific needs?
  2. Select only 2-3 questions and decide what action steps you need to take to gain more control in your life.
  3. Discuss your new ideas with someone who you trust and set mutual goals and times to reconnect.
  4. Feel free to send your ideas to me at Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com and I will send you a response.
  5. What strategies do you use to gain control balancing your personal life?

I want to hear from you.
What action steps will you take as a result of reading this article?
CLICK HERE to send me your questions about your own work life balance.

Interested in More Resources to Watch Your Career Grow?

Check out my new Communicate with Impact Self-Study Program Workbook. This workbook is a compilation of 30 years of experience as a Career Coach and Communication Strategist.
I created this powerful step-by-step self-guided workbook to specifically help the hundreds of business people like you, who continually contact me for expert communication advice on:

  • Improving personal work relationships
  • Management’s interaction with workflows
  • Leadership’s ability to be clear and transparent abut their goals
  • Replacing stress points they face every day with positive outcomes.
    Career Coaching the Communicate with Impact Self-Study Program WorkbookWe just launched this powerful workbook and you will be among the first to review the content and possibly order it. CLICK HERE to learn how you can take a huge leap this year in your career. It’s a great way to learn the newest strategies very fast without having to go anywhere. You can learn at your own pace from anywhere.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Career Coach

You can start tackling tough conversations with bullies, different generations, and even narcissists once you learn the powerful strategies. I will do whatever it takes to help you improve your quality of life.

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, and on line career and life coaching.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831