- Is there a negative person in your life that you don’t want to be around anymore?
- Are complainers sucking your energy?
- Do you want to learn how to set yourself free from these energy drainers?
If so, I have 2 powerful tips that will help you eliminate this huge conflict in the workplace or home!
Being honest might not get you a lot of friends, but it will always get you the right ones.
John Lennon
Powerful Tip #1
I started using John Lennon’s quote years ago when I was working on my Masters Degree in Counseling. Many of my friends called me and complained about their kids, work, or significant other. I used to listen because that’s just what I did. Then it dawned on me that I gave them ideas on how to solve their conflicts yet they still called with the same complaints. I changed my communication with these complaining friends. I started asking them, “What are you going to do about this?” They didn’t like the fact that I started asking them to accept responsibility about how their life would not change unless they changed the “dance steps.” It wasn’t fun for them to call me anymore. I loved it because I started having more control with my free time and who I wanted to be with in my life…not people who complained and failed to focus on solutions!
Powerful Tip #2
Start distancing yourself from negative people by setting limits for yourself. It’s human nature to feel obligated to listen to complainers because we don’t want to be seen as insensitive or impolite. There is a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their pity parties. If a person were smoking and you were a non smoker, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the secondhand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you can do the same thing with complainers.
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This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
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The Result? My clients resolve conflict with confidence and get a better night’s sleep!
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