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February 12, 2017 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Collaboration Strategies to Improve Generational Communication

Collaboration Strategies are possible even when there is so much conflict between generations in your workplace.  At times respect for each other doesn’t exist.  Yet there are numerous organizations that have figured out how to celebrate such diversity. 

Have you heard these comments at work?

  • Baby Boomers and the Silent Generation think the younger workers are lazy and disrespectful.
  • The younger generations (Generation X and the Millennials) think the older workers are stuck in their ways and too closed-minded.

Despite these differences, people from the varying generations must work together productively for the company to succeed. If they let their generational outlooks get in the way, the conflict will never be resolved.  The ideas in this article come from clients who have figured out this communication challenge.

Use the following 4 Collaboration Strategies to overcome generational differences so everyone can get along:

Collaboration Strategies #1:  Know each other’s preferences

In a nutshell, the Silent Generation and the Baby Boomers prefer face-to-face communication. They like consensus, and they expect everyone to respect authority. They don’t like conflict and will avoid it at all costs.

Generation X and the Millennials thrive on online meetings. They twitter each other and use e-mail the majority of the time. They’re not afraid to confront others; they want their voices heard. They dislike being on teams and prefer to work alone.

While we can’t automatically assume every single person in a particular generation behaves and thinks a certain way, knowing the generalities is a great first step. Therefore, take the initiative to learn about the other generations on your team. The more you understand their point of view and what events shaped their lives, the more you’ll be able to work with them without conflict.

Collaboration Strategies #2:  Spend time with each other

Simply knowing each other’s preferences is one thing; it’s another to actually spend time learning from the person. Remember that learning and mentoring is a two-way street. Just as younger people can learn things from older people, the older generation can definitely learn from the “kids.”

As you do this, realize that you’ll likely have to make compromises. For example, a younger person can teach an older person about some new computer communication tool. The younger person will need to employ patience during the training, and the older person will need to keep an open mind to the new technology. You’ll also have to confront your own personal biases and work through them. Everyone benefits when barriers are removed.

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Collaboration Strategies #3:  Be open to talking things out

The older people don’t understand what all the pierced noses and tattoos are about.  The younger people can’t comprehend how someone can be so loyal to a company. Instead of just wondering in silence, it’s time to talk it out ­ with the very people you don’t understand. As long as the conversation stays respectful and doesn’t turn into an accusatory yelling match, it will be a healthy way to gain a broader understanding of each other. The sooner you start the conversation, the quicker you’ll resolve differences.

Collaboration Strategies #4:  Bridge the Gap

Generational differences can be tough. However, when you are open and honest and take the time to really listen to each other, you can overcome any perceived differences ­ real or otherwise. A little generational understanding can go a long way to boosting the company’s bottom line.

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Until next time, Remember…“You Get What You Tolerate!”

Filed Under: Collaboration Strategies, Generations in the Workplace
Tagged With: Generations in the Workplace, improving communication skills

August 14, 2016 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Professional Development Strategies to Manage Upward

Do you want to learn professional development strategies to help you work with your boss?
Have you ever worked with a bad boss?
Are you experiencing stress with leaders who you are working with now?
If so, you are in the right place!

Professional Development Strategy #1:  What to do if you have a bad boss

Most of my clients have had experience with both great and poor bosses.  The 3 examples below describe some of their experiences.  See if any of them sound familiar.  I will share more examples in future articles.

1.  The hands-off boss who doesn’t share details with you.
2.  The boss who is like a bull in a china shop and explodes during conversations with the team.
3.  The boss who closes down conversations when someone doesn’t agree with him or her.

Professional Development Strategy #2:  Know how to communicate with a hands-off boss

It’s important to let your boss know what you need from him or her.  One way to be taken seriously in the workplace is to ask for what you need.  Of course,  there is a risk to let others know.  If you don’t do this, you’ll find yourself frustrated and complain to colleagues without getting any results.  Let your boss know that you need more details to finish a project.  Ask who else you need to speak with in order to resolve issues.  This may seem obvious to some of you.  Many people have been treated so poorly at work that they fear even the smallest conversation with their boss.  

Professional Development Strategy #3:  How to work with an explosive boss

Some of my clients have left companies because the pressure of working with a horrible boss caused them physical and mental stress.  I’m not suggesting that you suffer in silence.  I’m asking you to look at all options.  Go to other leaders in the company who you trust and ask them what you can do.  CAREFULLY plan the conversation with your boss when the time seems safe.  You can always start the conversation with, “I was caught off guard at the meeting when I was scolded how I treated a customer.  I want to hear how to improve my communication and would appreciate any future constructive feedback told to me in private.”  I know some of you are saying that you would never say this to your boss.  So, don’t.  Then think of another way to speak to him or her.  Suffering in silence is not an option. 

Professional Development Strategy #4:  How to speak to a boss who shuts down the conversation

This is very common and again there are options besides not doing anything.  You can say, “I am frustrated when the team makes suggestions about improving the systems and our suggestions are ignored because our customers are demanding these changes.  We all want to make improvements and hope to make productive changes so we can help resolve our production challenges.”  Again, there is a risk with this kind of communication especially if you have a BAD boss.  Figure out what you and your team need to do in order to be heard.   

Professional Development Strategy #5:  Thoughts from Joyce

Remember, “You get what you tolerate!”  We all need to look at how to communicate differently when we aren’t getting the desired results.  Always seek out support from trusted leaders within your company.  You’ll feel better about yourself and get the respect that you deserve when you take the initiative to have these tough conversations. The good news is that my clients who move into leadership roles do what they can NOT to behave like their poor bosses.  They learned what not to do with their team! 🙂  

I want to hear from you!
CLICK HERE to send me your questions about your experience with bad bosses. Do you have any tips on how to initiate a conversation with a poor boss?

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach

You can start tackling tough conversations with leaders, bullies, different generations, and even narcissists once you learn the powerful strategies. I will do whatever it takes to help you improve your quality of life.

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, and on line professional growth coaching.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

PS CLICK HERE to learn a powerful tool to plan your next tough conversation.    

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Filed Under: Career Development, Increase Respect in the Workplace, working with a bad boss
Tagged With: career development, improving communication skills

February 7, 2016 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

A Secret to Gain Control In Tough Conversations

Have you ever responded to a person and wished that you did not hear what came out of your mouth? We can ALL answer a loud, “YES, Joyce!”  I have done the same thing at times.  The good news is that this post describes a secret tool that I share with my clients and it really works.

The video below is # 18 from my video series:  20 Tips to Reduce Conflict in the Workplace. 

 We all hear the words stimulus and response.

  • The stimulus is something that happens to us…
    For example when someone speaks in a sarcastic way.
  • The response is how we react to something.
    In this example it would be how we react to the sarcasm.

 I’d like to add creating a gap to our equation. This is where you decide how to react. I always suggest that we take a breath and pause for a quick moment to decide what you want to say to the person.

 You can react in the following ways when you create a gap:

  • Use sarcasm
  • Ignore them
  • Take revenge
  • Let it go
  • Thank them

The Rake Story

One of my favorite stories is the rake story. You go to a neighbor to ask him to borrow his rake and he says, “No.” Next week he comes to your house and asks to borrow your shovel. You can either:

  • Say “You’ve got to be kidding.”
  • You can give it to him with a sarcastic comment such as, “I’m better than you.”
  • You don’t say anything and give him a mean look.
  • Or you can ask him the reason why he did not give you the rake and give him the shovel without any hesitation.

What is a Good Answer?

I recommend that we ask ourselves, “What is the best way to respond so that we feel good about ourselves?” It does help to let go of things that happened yesterday and to give up revenge. Keeping score takes too much energy.

We usually have more ways to respond. We don’t have to get defensive, be sarcastic, take revenge or suffer in silence. Of course we don’t always respond the best way we can. Take a moment and ask yourself what you learned about your response so that you don’t repeat this pattern. It is better to pull back and not push someone when they attack you with sarcasm.

I hope that these tips will help you take your communication to a new level.

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Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is a recognized expert on working with clients to build leadership and communication skills that make them top performers in their industry.  Joyce is an author, Communication Strategist, and a Certified Speaking Professional.  Call 800.713.1926 or email:  Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com and explore options on working with Joyce to learn powerful techniques on tackling tough conversations.

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Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach

I share powerful techniques on tackling tough conversations to build employee engagement, accountability, and improve my client’s quality of life.

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, and on line professional growth coaching.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

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Filed Under: Continuous Improvement, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Professional Development
Tagged With: career development, improving communication skills, resolve conflict and interpersonal issues

January 24, 2016 By Joyce Weiss 2 Comments

A Proven Tip- Improve Your Communication Skills Now

Being honest might not get you a lot of friends, but it will always get you the right ones.  – John Lennon

John’s quote fits perfectly with today’s theme.  The toughest communication is one that you may have with yourself!

 Most of us think that we are great listeners and communicators. If we are as good as we “think” – why are there so many communication breakdowns at work or home?

The answer is…

Us! That’s right, you read this correctly. I am guilty of thinking the very same thing. I know this is true when giving directions for a group activity and the group looks at me like deer staring at headlights. It’s NOT them. It’s the way I gave the directions.  Believe me, I am continuously learning how to improve and I’m a Communication Strategist!

So, Joyce How Can I Start Becoming a Better Communicator?

Look at the list below and see what areas you need to develop in order to communicate better.

  • Be brief and concise-get to the point
  • Be forceful and definite rather than hesitant and apologetic
  • Talk in specifics-give examples and details
  • Talk in generalizations and explanations
  • Let others know when I disagree with them
  • Let others know when I am getting irritated
  • Listen more than I speak with others
  • Talk in group discussions

Now What, Joyce?

Select one or two areas and make a conscious effort to work on these skills immediately. If you need to talk in group discussions, start giving your opinions or even ask a question. Some of these areas could be holding you back from growing as a leader.

How Can I Get More Ideas Like This?

Glad that you asked! If you sign up at Tipstobehappy.com you will receive my weekly series to support your development in your personal life, career, or team.

 I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me your questions or concerns and how you have improved your communication skills. What communication or leadership issues are you experiencing at work?  I enjoy hearing from my readers plus they get their questions answered.

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A recognized expert on resolving leadership and communication in the workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, Communication Strategist,  and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com

Visit her website at ConflictInTheWorkplace.com to sign up for your own FREE video series and Communicate with Impact Weekly to Resolve Conflict in the Workplace.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach

I share powerful techniques on tackling tough conversations to build employee engagement, accountability, and improve my clients’ quality of life.

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

P.S. Sign up at Tipstobehappy.com to receive my weekly series to support your development in your personal life, career, or team.

Filed Under: Communication, Communication Skills, Communication Strategist
Tagged With: career development, effective communication, improving communication skills

June 14, 2015 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Can We Really Have Tough Conversations With Our BOSS?

cartoon criticize you in publicGlad that you decided to find out the answer which is…It Depends!  Some bosses are open and welcome constructive feedback while others are so full of ego and don’t encourage an open dialogue.  I just returned from presenting several workshops at the US Chamber Institute in Madison WI.  It was a real privilege speaking with men and women who work in chambers or associations throughout the USA.  

One of the sessions I conducted was “Managing Upward.”  I posed the following question to them…”What are some or your challenges with your boss or upper management?” 

Here are some of their responses:

  • The boss not being available
  • There is no follow up on issues that require swift action
  • Not dealing with conflict and letting things slide
  • Meetings which waste our time
  • No accountability with the team
  • Not setting expectations and no one knows what they need to be doing
  • Not having trust with my boss

Ouch!  Is that enough?  The list was a lot longer and you will find more scenarios in future posts.

What would you do if your boss gave you negative feedback in front of your team?

Would you…

  • Stay silent?
  • Say something that you wished you didn’t say?
  • Get the respect that you deserved by being direct with respect?

This is always a tough situation because it depends on so many variables when communicating to upward management.  Here is one option that we practiced in the session.

I don’t want to be disrespectful.
I do want to clear the air.
“I was caught off guard yesterday when I received negative comments in front of my colleagues because I would have appreciated the important feedback in a one to one meeting.”

Let’s dissect this formula.  I don’t want…I do want will make most communication safe.  The group came up with some realistic answers for their own situations using this one strategy. 
I am…when…because is the power talk formula that I have mentioned MANY times in my posts.  This works like a charm.  I was caught off guard is a statement that has NO judgment.  It is how you feel.  Try using this and let me know what results you receive. 

What will you say to your boss if he or she gives you negative feedback in front of others?

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A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, communication strategist, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
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Send me any comments that you may have about this article. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life. Let them know about the “Communicate with Impact Weekly” so they can sign up for their own weekly articles.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

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Filed Under: Communication Skills, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Conflict in the Workplace, Great Leaders, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Improving Communication, Increase Respect in the Workplace
Tagged With: conflict in the workplace, constructive feedback, improving communication skills

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