Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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Career Development Tips: Be Your Own Best Advocate |Video

Are you ready to discover career development tips to use for yourself or your direct reports?

Certified Professional Coach, Lori Shook presented the ideas I’m sharing in this video to the World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit.

So how can you help yourself or your direct reports discover how to be their own best advocate?
Here’s a possible strategy:  Discover their internal inner board of directors.

I have used the exercise with coaching clients and the results are stellar.

Human Resource clients consider me their partner: especially when they have no time to coach:

  • Emerging leaders to grow
  • Employees who need to use their voice without losing their cool
  • Managers who need to control difficult team members

The video below gives you ideas to get you started with this unique exercise. 

Here are EASY career development tips to help you identify your internal board of directors

I call this our internal wisdom.

We all have internal voices or characters that influence our behaviors. When we name them, we will be able to use them as resources.

There are NO good or bad board members. Some will be more useful than others at different times.

Here are several of the inner boards that my clients discovered:

  • The energizer
  • Frankenstein
  • Am I good enough?
  • Risk-averse
  • Cheerleader
  • Enjoy the journey
  • Leader
  • Controller

Start by asking these questions to add to your career development tips toolbox: 

  • What is an inner voice that you really trust?
  • Which inner characters help you succeed?
  • What are the inner impulses that get in your way in important situations?

Define your board of directors and give them a name

  • Which of your inner board will help you/hurt you/stop you?
  • Invite the board members you want to use more often
  • Find ways to manage the uninvited ones
  • Take ownership of your behaviors

Look for my video next week which will cover more ideas on your Inner Board.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Here’s my calendar. 

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders, and so much more.

Thanks for reading and watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

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An Inspirational Quote to Start the New Year

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An Inspirational Quote to Start the New Year 

I saved this quote for the beginning of the year because it’s reflection time. inspirational quote | live the life you deserve

As a result of writing this post, I thought about my own answers to the questions that I ask you at the bottom of the page.

  • 2021 was the year of learning many video strategies to make them better for social media. Editing on Camtasia is now easy {it’s a learning process :)}.
  • Online classes were abundant in my life to create new ideas and challenge my brain.  There were so many options to select from and I’m prioritizing which ones will be the best projects to implement.
  • 2022 is the year to start numerous projects.  
  • You will see the relaunch of my live online 6-weeks course: Kick Conflict to the Curb. 
  • There will be Executive Round Tables to brainstorm conflicts shared by like-minded leaders.
  • The 3rd program is a 3-month group coaching and mastermind program.

It took me 2 years to plan all of these projects. No more spending money on learning for now. It’s action time.

How Does the Inspirational Quote Impact YOU?

  • What did you learn from 2021?
  • How will you change as a result of what you learned and reflected?
  • What do you hope will happen in 2022 with these new opportunities?

Happy New Year to you and your family. There’s a lot of hope for 2022. I vote to concentrate on the possibilities while staying safe.

Let’s Stay Connected!

Please share your thoughts about Einstein’s inspirational quote. 

How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s brainstorm any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.
Here’s my calendar. Let’s reduce your inner stress!

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?

Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email: to discover how easy this process is. Plus these packages fit with anyone’s budget and schedule.
 Here’s the link to explore the packages.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

P.P.S. I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

 

 

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Exciting News For You About Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update!

Hey Loyal Readers!

Some of you have been reading my articles and viewing videos since 2010 when I started blogging!  Now that’s called loyalty!

It’s an honor to have so many of you return each week to learn how to become a master communicator and resolve conflict.

Make sure and read the P.S. at the bottom.  Let’s have some friendly competition.  You can be one of the winners!  Read more at the end of this article. 

Here are Some of the Changes:

  • The new title is Kick Conflict to the Curb: Stomp Out Your Stress (My son, Ron came up with the title!)
  • You will see monthly themes such as bullies, narcissists, mindset secrets, coaching strategies, professional growth strategies, motivational posters, + some cool surprises
  • There will be more videos that are new and improved on topics that YOU ask me to create
  • I’m developing a format to send you audio links that you can listen to while you walk, jog, or bike ride

Do You Want a Sneak Peek?

You will find powerful information on the following subjects:

  • Unresolved conflict is costing you more than money!
  • How to support employees from spending too much time on conflict.
  • 3 easy secrets to reduce stress at work now.
  •  How to empower your employees to reduce stress with colleagues.
  •  3 easy secrets to feel heard at work.

Here’s My Ask! 🙂Joyce Weiss | Kick Conflict to the Curb

Please send me the burning questions that you would ask me if we met for coffee or a glass of wine.

What topics would you like to learn concerning your own conflict or communication challenges?

I will do the research since I’m a geek when it comes to these topics.  Can’t help myself.

Let others know about Kick Conflict to the Curb: Stomp Out Your Stress by sharing the content or website where they can sign up at JoyceWeiss.com

 

Let’s Stay Connected

Please add your thoughts about this week’s post. Hey, I want to make sure you feel heard! 🙂
You can share your ideas in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution Coach – Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. This will be interesting to see who reads this last part.  Here’s a little contest:  Let me know how long you’ve been reading Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update?
Once I receive this information, there will be a few amazon gift cards sent to 3 lucky winners.  All you have to do is let me know how long your think you’re been visiting this site.

P.P.S. I can’t say how much I appreciate all of you – the newbies and long-time readers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Why Humility is So Important These Days!

  • Do you know why humility is so important these days?
  • Have you thought about how others need to use humility more in their life? {Not sounding judgmental here, just asking. :)}

The video and article below describe the characteristics of why humility is so important. I will ask you a couple more questions at the end of this post. Sound good?

Why Humility is so Important Strategy 1:  Humility is NOT a Weakness

Humility is:

  • Knowing that you don’t have all the answers. This is a sign of strength!
  • Realizing when you need help. Another sign of strength!
  • This leads to Mastery because it’s all about self-improvement.

Zoom is a perfect example. I became a Certified Virtual Presenter through e-speakers.  They taught me how to use all the gadgets like breakout rooms, chat, camera skills, and knowing what to do when you get kicked out due to power issues. We’ve all seen leaders on zoom and other platforms who crack under pressure if the screen isn’t’ shared or they don’t how to control the mute button when there are dogs barking or babies crying.

I now know why humility is so important after becoming certified. I’ve experienced the following challenges:

  • the screen froze
  • share screen function didn’t work
  • the microphone wasn’t working
  • the internet was weak and kept on kicking us out of the meeting

In the past, I was not in control of the meeting and let the technology issues take over the entire training. This was a hard lesson to learn. If I can do this, so can you! Now, the reality is that I laugh during virtual training when IT issues happen. I’m not in charge of the internet – neither are you! We can still be human and when this happens. People are very forgiving. When we are in control of a meeting, we need to be role models for those who may not understand why humility is so important. We need to show them that we are not perfect. Imagine that!

Why Humility is so Important Strategy 2:  Joyce’s Challenge for YOU

I challenge you to:

      1. Know when you need help. Remember this is a sign of strength. Masterminds are hotter than ever because they work. I’m in 2 and they have helped me and all the mastermind members grow constantly.

     2. Stay curious.  Keep taking classes. There is the BEST training on youtube.  Online courses are easy to find. My click funnel experts, Doresa Ibrahim and Shasta Grifka are testing my humility at this time. They are teaching me a new platform to host our new online courses and contacts. It’s new, hard, and not fun to learn. Even though I realize that we will get through this after becoming more familiar with the A-Z client system, BUT it’s hard and I’m kicking all the way to the finish line. I’m being real here, dear readers! The good news is that being curious is what started us to find a better platform. Humility is kicking in for me for sure. It’s also hard to be patient. Thanks to Doresa and Shasta for being so understanding and it’s great that I trust both of them. Hopefully, they won’t fire me as a client for being so darn real.  🙂 Does this sound familiar to any of you?

   3. Trust yourself when things are not perfect.  Mistakes are part of mastery. You already know this. It’s still not easy showing our humility at times. It’s worth having such a belief in yourself and others who may be coaching you that you will get through it.

  4. Be comfortable in your own skin.  There will be times when discomfort appears. That’s also a good sign. This could mean it’s a learning lesson or life is telling you something new about your own humility. Pay attention. Learn. Be curious. It’s all good.

Let’s Stay Connected!

1. What are some of your thoughts about this article and video? Those of you who share either in the comment section below or send me an email will receive a new video (that I have not posted yet) about using props to engage your virtual meetings. It’s short and contains tips to liven up your virtual meetings.

2. Please share a time when you were challenged by your own humility. We all have our stories!

3. Hey, Dear Readers, I’m here for you when you have questions about your own communication or relationship “challenges.” Feel free to send me an email. Full disclosure here: I don’t charge anything when people send me questions or comments via email. Staying connected is what it’s all about for me.

Have a Great Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

P.S. Career Advancement is like riding a bike: Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!

 

 

 

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Are You Ready to Implement Two of my Favorite Conflict Resolution Skills?

  • Are you ready to learn and implement 2 of my favorite communication tools?
  • Do you want to hear inside coaching secrets on how clients have improved their success at work after using these powerful conflict resolution skills?

If you saw my blog post last week, you read all about the September 15, 2020 launch of my online class – Kick Conflict to the Curb.  This week you will experience 2 of my favorite conflict resolution skills and tools.  It includes 2 videos on how to use Verbal Aikido and Be Direct with Respect®.  Please let me know how I can help you decide if the class is right for you or your direct reports.

Conflict Resolution Skills #1:  Verbal Aikido

Verbal Aikido is a conflict resolution skill that helps you gain control when someone pushes your hot buttons. The person who pulls back when he or she is pushed is the stronger one in the conversation.  Here’s an incident that happened to me during a conflict resolution program with first responders.  I was speaking about verbal aikido when an angry participant stood up and said, “Joyce, you seem like a nice lady, but this will not work on the streets.”  I said to myself, “Joyce, you teach this stuff, use verbal aikido!” I said, “You’re right, this strategy won’t work on the streets.  It will work in your office with your colleagues and direct reports.”  The participant relaxed and smiled and said, “Joyce YOU are right.  Thanks for setting me straight.”

You’re right are words that diffuse the hostile person.  We don’t need to agree with someone if they are NOT right.  If they are correct, try doing this next time and you will see the other person stop pushing back.  Hey, I know this stuff works, because I only coach skills that I’ve tried in my own life! 🙂  Check out verbal aikido in the search bar to the right to find more articles and videos on this important conflict resolution skill.

Conflict Resolution Skills #2:  Be Direct with Respect®

Be Direct with Respect® is my secret sauce.  Clients have been using this trademark of mine for over 30 years!  It’s powerful and easy to use.  This is the formula:
I am_____________________________________(your emotional response)
When____________________________________(non-judgmental)
Because__________________________________(how it affects you)

The story below gives you a perfect example that one of my clients used with her boss after he ridiculed her in front of her direct reports.  After practicing this tool during the online course – Kick Conflict to the Curb she felt comfortable with her new skill.  She was ready to speak to her boss.  “Ron, I was embarrassed when I was ridiculed in front of my direct reports because it discounted my leadership role.  I appreciate constructive feedback because that’s how I’ve grown professionally.  I would appreciate it if you speak to me privately in the future.”  Ron was impressed with her direct and respectful communication.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please let me know your questions about Kick Conflict to the Curb to see if the class is right for you or your direct reports.  The cool thing is that we can create your private course with your team – just think, less stress, drama, and MORE peace! Send me a private email on what stress or conflict issues you are experiencing and how I can help you learn and implement powerful conflict resolution skills.

Until next week,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Conflict Resolution Queen
Communication Strategist and Master Coach

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

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Phone: 248-681-5831

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