Are you a leader or employee who works with a workplace bully? Do you want to learn easy ways to deal with this person? Great! This article will provide 3 techniques that you can use immediately to resolve conflict in the workplace.
Workplace Bullies Create Stress for ALL of Us
This bully could be your colleague or boss.
The bully can also exhibit traits of narcissists which causes MANY communication and relationship issues.
The narcissist can exist at home or work and suffer from the “I” syndrome.
They are the drama kings or queens who feel the world exists just for their needs.
Video Interview with International Hall of Fame Social Media Marketing Speaker – Terry Brock
My colleague and friend Terry Brock interviewed me on how to deal with these difficult people. Terry is a syndicated columnist with business journals and author of Klout Matters. He brings a passion for technology, a sense of history and real world business strategies. You can reach him at 407.363.0505 and Terry@TerryBrock.com. Enjoy the video and start thinking about who creates stress for you at work or home. It could be a workplace bully.
How to Deal with Workplace Bullies and Narcissists
Set boundaries with bullies and narcissists.
People fear workplace bullies. No one may have tried to stop these harmful behaviors.
Believe me when I say that they impede on your time and self-respect!
What if the Workplace Bully is Your Boss?
I suggest that you wait until the next day to have the tough conversation so you can create a results oriented discussion. You can always start with one of my favorite expressions: “I was caught off guard”
along with “I don’t want” and “I do want.”
“I was caught off guard when we spoke yesterday. I don’t want to cause stress. I do want to have an important discussion to improve communication in our department.” If your boss is listening to you, this could be a great way to continue the conversation. If your boss has numerous bullying behaviors it may be hard to obtain the results that you want.
Step into the GAP to Gain Control
The GAP technique is helpful to use when you don’t have the luxury to wait until the next day.
Step back from the conversation and ask yourself how you want to respond. You can ignore the comment from the workplace bully, ask a question, or even ask the bully what suggestions he or she has to move forward to resolve the conflict since this is very important to the morale at work.
Want to Learn More?
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I Want to Hear From You
How have you dealt with a workplace bully? Was this bully your boss? If so how did you resolve this issue without being fired? CLICK HERE to share your experience.
Until Next Time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach
Feel free to call me at 800.713.1926 concerning your own team, executive retreats or leadership development.
Remember…You Get What You Tolerate!
See you next week.
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