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July 23, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

What is the Most Important Part of a Strong Team?

The answer is … TRUST.
Trust is an Important Part of Building Strong Teams

Have you heard your team complain about the lack of trust?
If a horse can trust a goat on its back, surely your team can trust each other to help with the workload!
Building trust on teams is continuous work.

Use the following guidelines to build trust on your team:

Attract and keep a team made up of the most outstanding people in the industry.

Create and maintain an atmosphere of mutual trust and respect.

Listen to the people who do the work.

Build and maintain a spirit of “all for one and one for all.”

Encourage every team member to take risks and never be afraid to make mistakes.

Hold team members accountable for results.Click here for an article on Tips to Create a Winning Team

Click here for more information on Tips to Create a Winning Team

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July 16, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Do You Remember Your First Bike Ride?

I hope you enjoy another story taken from my book, Take the Ride of Your Life!

Monica’s Story

Monica, a freelance web designer, has an incredibly positive outlook
today, especially as a woman who overcame depression.
She tells of her first bike, a blue one. Her dad taught her how to
ride and she learned very fast. “Dad was always very cautious, whether
it was when I learned to ride a bike or when I started to date.”
When she learned how to ride a bike it helped her gain more independence.
“I remember riding farther and farther away, toward more forbidden places.”

Monica’s Bike Lessons

As a parent, she enjoyed teaching her sons to ride their bikes.
“My older boy learned to balance on his bike when we removed the pedals.
He would get up really early and practice before school.
Once he found his balance, we reattached the pedals.
Now he’s off exploring with his friends and even going off-road.

What to do When You Fall Off your “Bike“

“Sure, he’s had some bad falls.
But what is so fascinating is that before he learned to ride, he was very cautious.
The occasional scrape would reduce him to tears.
Now, he races up to the house, hops off the bike, puts on a Band-Aid, and he’s gone again.
He’s become so much braver — and tougher —since he got his ‘wheels.’

Joyce’s Bike Lesson Tip of the Day

I challenge you to ask yourself if you are a coach helping others grow
or a negative roadblock stopping any progress.
The choice is always there how we move forward.
So, get on your bike, enjoy the ride and slap on that Band-Aid to keep moving!

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Please send me your bike story. Place your comments in the comment box at the end of this post.
Who taught you how to ride?
What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.
Feel free to share this post. Just make sure and give credit to:
Joyce Weiss Training & Development LLC > www.JoyceWeiss.com
Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…who could benefit from
the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the Ride of Your Life!
It is an easy summer read.

July 9, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Different Does NOT Equal Wrong

This blog post is the 2nd in the series taken from my book,
Take the Ride of Your Life! Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy.
Dealing with conflict in the workplace takes a lot of courage at times!
Especially when you may be the only one with an opinion and your entire team disagrees with you.

Different equals different. Different does not equal wrong.

Click here to find out how to receive your FREE poster on Fast Help for a Tense Workplace

ALYCE’S Story

Even on a broken old Schwinn, Alyce learned the importance of freedom and helping others.

Alyce is a crisis counselor for abused women. She understands the power of asking for and giving help.
She spent her earliest childhood in a Louisiana migrant camp.
She remembers watching her mom pick tomatoes, cucumbers, strawberries,
apples, peaches, and cherries under broiling southern skies.

Alyce’s First Bike

“My first bike did not even have wheels.
It was a real old Schwinn.
Everybody took turns pushing each other on it, because it didn’t pedal,” she recalled.

“It had a big seat on it, and we pretty much taught ourselves to ‘ride’ it.
All the kids took turns holding the bike and pushed each other until we skinned our knees.
We had a ball.”
It wasn’t until Alyce turned eleven or twelve and moved to Michigan
that she got her first new bicycle.

Trouble in the Neighborhood

The family experienced racism in their new neighborhood,
but young Alyce and her sisters bounced right through it.

“We were the first black people to move in.
For a long time, the other parents wouldn’t let us play with their children,” she says.
“Eventually the kids outgrew it; we didn’t scare easily and we didn’t know any better.
We’d still go over to play even if they yelled at us.”

Learning Tolerance

Despite the pain racism caused, Alyce’s mother never allowed her daughters
to behave that way in return. “The prejudice made me a stronger person.
It made me realize that no matter what color a person is, you treat them
the way you want to be treated.”

Different Does Not Equal Wrong

Today Alyce’s home has become a shelter for the homeless.
“I always have a house full of children,” she says matter-of-factly.
“They’re people; something I do or say may help them.
Why should I be the one to turn them away?
I want everyone to remember and say, ‘She helped me.’ ”

Alyce’s Bike Lessons

When Alyce thinks about her bikes she has some keen insights.
“That first bike wasn’t complete. Yet, a bunch of kids got together
and supported each other so we could all play. Then all of a sudden, I
had a bike that I could ride myself. It’s like my life.
I love doing things with people, for people.
I’m much more content with this than being by myself.
I’m happy with my life.
Now I have a full bike with everything on it — and I’m sharing it.”

Asking for Help During Conflict

Many of us don’t ask for help because we think it is a sign of
weakness. Asking for help is a strength. It is a sign that you are
taking care of your own needs. Sit down and create a list of people
who can help you feel less pressured. Problem-solving gives you
control of the situation; it allows you to create your own positive
environment amid the stress of everyday chaos.

Problem Solving

Problem-solving is another technique that moves people into action.
It gives control, versus staying stuck and complaining about the same old things.

Life means getting into or out of a crisis most of the time.
Instead of lying in bed feeling angry, hurt, or worried, take the
stress associated with crisis and turn it into positive energy.
Figure out what you need to do to create a more fulfilled life.
Problem solve, be innovative, and don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Gear-Shifting Action Steps

1. Write the name of a negative person who brings you down.
Problem-solve a plan to protect yourself.

2. Who is a cheerleader in your life?
What does this person do to encourage you?

3. Who are you a cheerleader for?
How do you encourage this person to be the best he or she can be?

4. On the left side of a paper, make a list of the situations that troubled you last year.
On the right side, list the effects of each situation.
Hopefully the items on the right side won’t seem so important.

5. What worried me one year ago?
What are the consequences?
At work?
At home?
With relationships?

6. Now make a list of the troubles you’re facing today.
Visualize how they will turn out one year from now.
What worries me today?
What will be the consequences?
At work?
At home?
With relationships?

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Please send me your bike story. Place your comments in the comment box at the end of this post.
       Who taught you how to ride?
       What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
       What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.
Feel free to share this post. Just make sure and give credit to:
Joyce Weiss Training & Development LLC > www.JoyceWeiss.com
Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…
who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the Ride of Your Life! It is an easy summer read.

PPS Click here to find out how to receive your FREE poster on Fast Help for a Tense Workplace

July 2, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

What Has Life Taught YOU? Why Hardships Teach Us the Most Important Lessons!

Several Years ago I wrote a book, Take the Ride of Your Life!: Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy.
This blog is a perfect place for me to share some of my favorite “inspirational and life changing stories” from people who I interviewed.
I’m hoping that you will identify with some of the stories to reduce conflict in the workplace and home.

The Theme of Take the Ride of Your Life

We are who we are today because of that turning point in our life when we learned how to ride our first 2 wheel bike without training wheels.

Think About These Questions

Who taught you how to ride your first bike?
Was it a positive or negative experience?
What memories do you have of that time in your life?
What kind of person are you today as a result of that ride?

David’s Story

David, an accountant, related this story:

“As a boy, I knew my father was proud of me. Unfortunately, he didn’t know how to show it.
There wasn’t a whole lot of positive attitude in my house.”
David remembered the dictum, “You must behave,” was drilled into him and his siblings time and time again.

“In school I was the class clown. I couldn’t talk at home,” he said, “so I had to express myself elsewhere.”

David was around ten or eleven years old when he learned how to ride a bike.
“Some friends taught me. I used a neighborhood boy’s bike; I didn’t have one of my own.
I fell down, and got up again right away.

I felt good whenever I was on a bike, as if anything was possible.”

David’s wife has helped him focus on keeping a positive attitude.
Before they were married she told him: “I won’t marry you if you become like your father.”
Today, David is grateful. “I didn’t want to raise my kids the way my father raised me.”

Click this link to read testimonials and order your own copy of the book of Take the Ride of Your Life!

Quote from Actress Mary Tyler Moore

You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.
As I look back on the times in my life that taught me the most, they were the difficult times.
By surviving them, I gained a confidence in myself I never could have achieved if I’d led a totally happy life.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.
Feel free to share this post. Just make sure and give credit to:
Joyce Weiss Training & Development LLC > www.JoyceWeiss.com
Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the Ride of Your Life! It is an easy summer read.

June 25, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

So, Do You Think You Have a Strong Team?

Skip the morning donuts and see your team get stronger!

Many people “think” that they have a strong team, yet reality does not always match this perception!
There are usually hidden agendas and conflict in the workplace.
Employees and leaders need to have an open forum to make sure that the team is as strong as possible.

You probably know that my role in all of this is to stir up conflict.
That’s right, I’m not kidding.
I find that some people don’t have these important communication skills.
I help people have tough conversations and give them the tools to improve conflict in the workplace.
There are many reasons why people don’t like to be open.

Check out this article link: Tips to Create Winning Teams

Do you see constant improvement as part of your team culture?

Here are more ideas how to make your team even stronger:

Leaders and people at all levels have opportunity to show what they can do.

Most work is done by small teams of peers, led by people who are knowledgeable about specific areas.

People are continually challenged – as well as supported – in ways that enable them to meet those challenges.

Managers coach instead of dictate.

Status is replaced by ability and valuable involvement.

Rewards are based on actual contribution.

How do you make sure that your perception matches your team’s reality?
Specifically how do you create an open environment for people to talk to each other?
Please send me how you do this in the comment section below.

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Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant
and remember…
YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE

PS Remember to check out this article link: Tips to Create Winning Teams

What is the Most Important Part of a Strong Team?

Do You Remember Your First Bike Ride?

Different Does NOT Equal Wrong

What Has Life Taught YOU? Why Hardships Teach Us the Most Important Lessons!

So, Do You Think You Have a Strong Team?

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