Spite is punishing yourself for someone else’s actions.
I hope that the title grabbed your attention! As you know I usually coach clients to use communication strategies when others push their button. You may be surprised by this new post because I am suggesting that at times we need to keep silent. You read this correctly.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- Why do you exercise so much?
- You don’t like bananas?
- Why do you pack so many suitcases for such a short trip?
- You’re a moron if you vote for …
We all are judged by others at some time in our life. I use Be Direct with Respect® or other tools during more serious scenarios and conflict in the workplace. At times we are caught off guard when people use comments like the ones described above.
Here are the Powerful Words to use to Keep Sane
What others think of you is NONE of your business. Read this again to understand the depth of these words. The next time someone judges you repeat these 10 words...What others think of you is NONE of your business (say these words internally…not to the person.) You will remind yourself that their critique is their opinion and their opinion only.
Verbal Aikido is another powerful tool to use when others push your button
Watch my video #2 from the series 20 tips to Reduce Conflict in the Workplace. It will show you how to gain control with more serious scenarios and especially with bullies.
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