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July 26, 2022 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Is Imposter Syndrome Affecting Your Success? Video

Imposter Syndrome affects our success in such a negative way.

Do you constantly compare yourself to others?
Is doubt keeping you stuck? Even though you have an impressive resume?

Find out how HR Professional Lisa transformed from self-doubt to feeling confident.

Additionally, she was the only female in her department.

See how she re-discovered her strengths and what skills she offered to the team.

Lisa took the Conflict Dynamic Profile, which showed how she dealt with conflict before, during, and after her conversations.

The short video below gives you more details.

Have you experienced Imposter Syndrome in your life?

So what about you?

Please share how you stopped feeling stuck.

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s Stay Connected

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a 20-minute exploratory session on any frustration or conflict you want to resolve. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.

Are you ready to discover how you react before, during, and after conflict?
Do you want to reduce your inner stress by discovering blind spots and what triggers set you off?

Send me an email, and let’s discuss how the Conflict Dynamic Profile can help you resolve your conflict and improve relationships.

I’m always looking for engaging guests on my newly launched LIVE BROADCAST: Kick Conflict to the Curb. Let me know if you want to discuss the possibility of being a guest. I’ll showcase your skills and expertise. The theme is resolving conflict – what a shock, right? 🙂

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

March 12, 2019 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Motivational Quote on Courage and Respect

#motivational quote
#Teneedwards
#courage

Tene Edwards has it right! The moment someone devalues you, run don’t walk!

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you protect yourself when others are disrespectful to you.

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂 You are always welcome to send me a private email with your concerns that you are experiencing at home or work.

June 19, 2018 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Lessons Learned From Our Fathers

This week many of us celebrated Father’s Day. Some of our fathers are not living, yet their influence and memories live on forever. We learned lessons because of, or in spite of, our experiences with our dads. I decided to honor my father, Joseph Morris, and the positive influence he made in my life. I am who I am because of his gentle spirit and total acceptance of me – even when I dyed my hair orange when I was a teen! 🙂

The text below is the introduction from my book, Take the Ride of Your Life! Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth, and Joy. I hope you enjoy a bit of my history. I’d like to hear your stories about how your father influenced you in the comment section below.

When people ask me how I got the idea for Take the Ride of Your Life!, I tell them that the inspiration was simple.  A few years ago, I went to Dallas to meet with Juanell Teague, a professional speaker’s coach.
She gave me an assignment before my session with her: Make a list of the turning points in my life and
figure out how they have impacted who I am today.

One turning point I identified was a lesson I learned when my father taught me how to ride my two-wheel
bike — without the training wheels. I remember the day I got that bike. It was red with white streamers flowing from the handlebars. I was so excited; I was also scared out of my mind. You see, I wasn’t as physically coordinated as some of my friends. I was always — I mean always — the last one chosen for kickball.

Fortunately, my father understood me. He knew how embarrassed I would be trying to learn to ride my bike with all my friends watching from their front porches on Kentucky Street in Detroit. He wanted to take me to a place where I would be comfortable. So, every night after he came home from work, we would walk my new bike to the empty parking lot next to the bank. There were no cars or people in sight.

Then he would give me a pep talk: “Falling is okay. I know you will eventually learn if you trust yourself. Are you ready? Get on that bike. Pedal . . . pedal . . . pedal.” Inspired, I eagerly hopped on the bike and, just as quickly, fell off.

My dad told me, “Remember, I said you might fall. It’s okay. Just get back on.” I got back on and fell
again.  “Remember, I said to trust yourself, honey?” my father coaxed. “Practice makes perfect!”
determined, I got back on. And I fell once more — and not for the last time.

Still, my father was right. I finally did learn to ride my bike. He knew I could do it. Through all my spills,
I always heard his message: “Trust yourself. It’s okay to fall. Just get back on and pedal. Practice makes perfect.”

Juanell immediately responded to my story and suggested that it was deeply related to who I am today. I started sharing my bike story with my audiences. They connected with me like never before in my fifteen years as a professional speaker! Many thanked me because my insights gave them the hope that they could find their own “bike stories” to help them move ahead.

Audience members immediately started telling me their most cherished childhood memories of their bikes. I heard vivid tales about long-ago Schwinn Phantoms, Roadmasters, Huffys, and Evan Colsons. Others remembered muscle bikes, Stingrays, ten speeds, mountain bikes, and the rat-a-tat sound of playing cards flapping in the spokes. Banana seats, high-rise handlebars, and fenders were all fondly remembered.

Soon the “bike stories” themselves started rising to the surface.  I discovered that many people, like me, gained their first real sense of self-reliance and responsibility while learning to ride a bike.

“Who taught you?” “What lessons did you learn?” and “What about you is the same now as when you were a little girl or boy?” became part of these conversations. The deeply personal impact of each person’s bike-riding lesson was so interesting and enlightening, these stories naturally became a rich and exciting part of this book.

You’ll hear stories from people who share their own “Take the Ride of Your Life” experiences — the dreams, the growing pains, the “Take the Ride of Your Life” triumphs, the many falls, and what made them get up and try again.

The subject of each chapter came from the themes and patterns that emerged in these interviews. At the end of each chapter I have included exercises, which I call Gear-Shifting Action Steps, that helped me when I was on my discovery journey with Juanell. I hope you will be inspired to use them, too.

Do you remember pedaling your bike up a hill? You reached the top and then started down, faster and faster. The wind blew in your face as trees, houses, and cars whizzed by. It was an unforgettable ride.

Come take that “ride” again. This book gives you the tools and inspiration you need to climb the hills, maneuver the twists and turns, and experience the thrill of your own journey — no matter where your ride in life may take you.

I want to hear from you

What is your bike-riding story? Add a comment to my blog on how your father influenced you. You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂 I will send my booklet, 19 Surefire Ways to Bring More Joy and Harmony into Your Life to you when you send your story or experience. You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work or home.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Here’s the link which takes you to my bookstore where you can purchase your own copy of Take the Ride of Your Life! I will send you two books for the price of one. You can share the second copy with a friend or relative. I will be happy to write a personal message on each book: just send me the names to my email. The bookstore sends me your information and I will send the books to you immediately.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Get on your bikes and enjoy the ride! 🙂

April 3, 2018 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

A Good Night’s Rest Can Reduce Workplace Conflict

Workplace conflict is a topic that I cover almost every week. Clients share that the lack of sleep gets in their way at work. In comes my guest author, Kelly N, an expert in healthy sleep. I hope you enjoy her words of wisdom. The 5 strategies are tested and will improve your job performance and workplace satisfaction.

If you constantly find your thoughts feeling foggy and you notice yourself yawning at your desk or throughout meetings, it can’t always be an easy blame on Monday or just a long week. It shouldn’t surprise you to hear that a lack of sufficient sleep can negatively affect your overall daily performance, including your success at work. When you’re fatigued, both your body and mind suffer, hindering peak professional performance. A lack of quality sleep is not only harmful to your physical wellbeing but also your mental performance. Creativity, reaction times, focus, motivation, information processing and retention are only a few aspects of professional success that become inherently neglected by a lack of rest.

5 Ways Better Sleep Reduces Workplace Conflict:

Better quality sleep is linked to improved emotions and fewer stressors.
An increased perception of positivity.
Low-stress workplaces have higher rates of employees who don’t encounter sleep discomfort/challenges.
Restfulness plays a key role in self-management and emotional control.
A lack of sleep can make us over-reactive and conflict/negotiation adverse.

It’s no secret that ideal sleep can be a challenge to achieve. Most of the workforce reports feeling tired throughout their regular workdays. This sleepiness hinders productivity for both employees and employers resulting in sub-par work performances on a regular basis. More than 1/4 of professionals are aware that their daytime drowsiness interferes with daily activities multiple days each month. It’s important to remember that even modest amounts of sleep loss will accumulate, so a few nights of inadequate sleep can result in an overall impact on daily functioning.

Workplace Conflict #1: Sunday Night Insomnia

The night before the long work week often feels like the most restless night of the week. Avoid your acute insomnia by establishing a regular sleep/wake schedule. Try to go to bed and wake up within an hour of the same time each day of the week (weekends included). If you’d like to see if you have developed an unhealthy pattern, consider monitoring with a sleep tracking app.

Workplace Conflict #2: Discomfort
Your bedtime necessities play a bigger impact on your ability to get effective rest than one might assume. A well-designed and supportive mattress and pillow can alleviate many physical discomforts associated with body pains and aches. Innovative foam layered mattresses are best for spinal alignment and support.

Workplace Conflict #3: Busy Mind
An anxious or wandering mind can be the one thing leaving you distracted and unable to easily doze away. It is important to establish familiar and consistent nighttime patterns to let your mind slow down and prepare itself for rest. Avoid overstimulating your mind too closely to your bedtime.

Workplace Conflict #4: Hunger
When hunger strikes after you’re tucked away under your sheets, it is hard to resist temptations. Resisting this temptation can be more of a distraction than its worth. Consider a light, carb-heavy snack. If you face hunger based distractions each night, consider adjusting your dinner time and avoid these foods that steal from your slumbers.

Workplace Conflict #5: Temperature
Temperature is often framed as a bedtime preference or opinion, like a number of blankets, pillows or nightlights. To progress into deeper sleep cycles your body temperature will naturally decrease. A toasty room or an overactive AC unit will impair your ability to get quality rest. The ideal bedroom temperature sits just around 65 degrees Fahrenheit.

Kelly N. is a Sleep Enthusiast from New York. She spends her time researching sleep and the effects that it has on our daily lives. When she is not planning her next nap, she can be found sipping her favorite latte.

I want to hear from you

Please let me know how you enjoyed this article. What topics would you want me to research? I will be including interviews and articles from my colleagues to add more variety to you.

Add a comment to my blog on how sleep contributes to your workplace conflict. What habits do you use to get a good night’s sleep? You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, have a great week.
Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

January 29, 2017 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Bullying Strategies Video to Improve Personal Relationships

Bullying Strategies is a topic that my clients constantly ask me to speak about to improve morale. Sure bullies exist in the workplace. My question is do you deal with a bully who happens to be your friend or relative? If so the video and article below will give you 5 strategies to help you gain more control. You will learn how to deal with a bully who may be in your personal life. Are you ready for 5 strategies to help you gain back control and most importantly…your respect? These strategies will support you especially when there are disagreements about politics.

Bullying Strategies #1: Make the conversation safe

Start out the conversation with the bully by using “I don’t want to…I do want to…”
“I don’t want to create stress between us.
I do want to have an open and honest conversation with you.”

Bullying Strategies #2: Use the power talk formula

“I was upset at the party when I was attacked in a critical tone of voice because I was sharing my opinion. I was pushed and became defensive. I was caught off guard and thought about what happened later on in the evening. Friends don’t judge friends. We all disagree at times and that’s what makes our relationships stronger.”

Bullying Strategies #3: Be specific describing the bullying behavior

At times people are not aware when they roll their eyes or sound judgmental. There are times when they know exactly how they are acting! This is the time in the conversation that you give details on the bullying behavior that caused you to become defensive.

Bullying Strategies #4: If necessary talk about blind spots

If the person denies his or her actions, this is the time for you to talk about blind spots. Tread carefully with this strategy. This is an advanced coaching skill that can either bring you success or failure depending on how you spin this part of the discussion. It’s a great tool to use when the other person is open to your feedback. Don’t use this when he or she comes defensive and starts closing down.

I feel it’s worth the risk because this is when you can go deeper into the conversation.

Bullying Strategies #5: Try to remember that it’s usually a weakness of the bully when he or she attacks

It usually has nothing to do with the target. You can even ask the bully if he or she is ok since you have never experienced this behavior in the past from this person. This will take the focus off of you. The bully may open up or not. The main idea is that you expressed your concern and stood up for yourself.

Thoughts from Joyce

Many of my clients share that they experience bullies more and more these days. The good news is that there are many great books and resources on bullying. Don’t let the bully harass you. Set the stage immediately that the conversation will be safe, use be direct with respect®, be as detailed as possible to make your feedback clear, discuss blind spots if necessary, and remember that You Get What You Tolerate!

I want to hear from you!
CLICK HERE to send me your questions about bullies in your personal life. Please share how you have resolved these issues.

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach
I look forward to helping my clients resolve their communication issues either at home or work. The result is that they stop thinking about the stress at night and get a better night’s sleep! 🙂

READ HERE If you want to find out how about my services so I can help you or your team deal with bullies.

PS Do you want to read previous articles on Bullying Strategies?
Read more Top Tips on Bullying in the Workplace and Home