Do you experience some of the situations at work or home when the same person…
- Always has drama in his or her life?
- Constantly criticizes others and never accepts responsibility?
- Shows anger if he or she doesn’t get his or her way…just like a 2 year old child?
- Takes up your time only with their issues and impedes your boundaries?
If so you may be working or living with a narcissist. This person is a tough one to work with and is always a challenge for participants in my Resolving Conflict in the Workplace Trainings. My clients have tried to deal with the selfish and critical team player with no success. I tell them that this disorder is one that some people NEVER are able to figure out and resolve issues. It is worth the effort to look for options in order to make your life easier. 🙂
Description of the Narcissist Personality Disorder
You will learn the characteristics in this blog post. Next week you will discover how to deal with them.
Most narcissists don’t exhibit all of the characteristics described in this article. 1 in 100 exhibit all these descriptions according to the American Psychiatric Association. Recognize when you are with someone who repeatedly evokes shame, anger, or idealizes others. You can then figure out your next step to protect yourself. Try NOT to personalize since they treat others the same way!
- Narcissist injury or intense sensitivity to shame
They don’t experience shame and things are never their fault. They feel assaulted and will show rage and blame others. Please do your best to resist confrontation until you read next weeks suggestions. - Devaluation of others
Their charm draws others into their web until they drop their victim abruptly. They repair themselves by criticizing others. - Envy
They never admit that they are envious of others and feel self righteous and contempt with their colleagues or relatives. They are actually VERY insecure. - Entitlement
Their feelings and needs are all that matters. There’s no room for negotiation or reciprocity. They feel rage if they don’t get their way…just like a 2 year old. - Violation of your boundaries…detach yourself
They don’t know when they are being too personal or invasive since everything evolves around their schedules or interests. Start documenting their excuses and abuses to protect yourself since they don’t recognize that they have boundary issues. Awareness will not change the reality but it changes YOUR perspective.
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Joyce Recommends a Very Helpful Book on Narcissists
If I have peaked your interest and want to learn more information, I suggest that you read Why is Everything Always About You? Sandy Hotchkiss does an excellent job giving suggestions on how to cope with this tough individual. Look for more information next week giving you concrete suggestions on dealing with a narcissist who you may work with or live with at home.
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This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
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I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
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