Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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September 2, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Find out Why Respect is So Important to Me. Are You Finally Ready to Get the Respect YOU Deserve?

As a Master Coach I hear the struggles of clients who experience bullies, poor performance, gossip, clicks, low morale, direct reports with no people skills, miscommunications, can I stop now? 🙂

After taking 4 courses on how to create and present engaging online programs, I decided to create a new online class that is rocking my clients. The video will give you information about our online course: Kick Conflict to the Curb that starts September 15th. The beginning of the video shares a “lesson” on verbal aikido – a strategic communication tool to help you gain control when others push you.

Take out the popcorn and enjoy it. Make sure and check out my story below on why getting respect is so important to me. You’ll get an inside look about your Master Coach.

Here’s my story on why respect is important to me.

A TV host found me online through my trademark, “Be Direct with Respect®.” He asked me to appear on his show, sharing why respect is so important to me. For once, I, the communication strategist, couldn’t think of a thing to say. Suddenly, I remembered a turning point I’d buried years before.

At 21, fresh out of college and a brand new teacher, I moved out on my own. While my parents had imbued me with a belief in hard work and persistence, I was still a free spirit with my self-esteem intact. Or so I thought. Then I met Jerry.

After a one-year courtship, we married. Then we argued—just like any couple. The problem was that Jerry is a talented attorney. Each time we disagreed, I felt like we were in court. Since I had no training in argumentation, I was no match. My outlook had always been positive and focused on fairness, but that situation was neither positive nor fair. I didn’t have a clue how to stand up for myself. After several months, all my energy was gone and I felt invisible and voiceless —as if I’d been zapped by the Dementors from Harry Potter. I didn’t want to leave him but I couldn’t continue as we were.

Instead, I became a woman on a mission. Assertiveness was my Holy Grail. Somehow, I would make my husband behave. However, reading The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner really opened my eyes. Dr. Lerner points out that when one person in a relationship changes the steps of a dance, the other follows. It became so clear! All that time, I had been trying to fix Jerry, and nothing had ever changed except my frustration level. Now I realized I had to alter the steps of the dance. It was me who needed to change. I’d have to take a risk and have a tough conversation the next time we disagreed.

The argument that broke this passive pattern involved my decision to go back to school and pursue a career in counseling and coaching. I was thrilled, and of course, I thought Jerry would be as delighted as I was. I couldn’t wait to share my new ideas with Mr. Lawyer. Imagine my shock when Jerry told me that it would be a waste of time. He wanted me to go into sales since he knew how focused and hardworking I was.

At that moment, the old Joyce disappeared. I kept calm, drew in a breath, and took a huge risk. “I am frustrated when I share my excitement about becoming a counselor because my ideas are discounted.” I had done it—I’d changed the dance steps! Jerry was surprised by my direct statement but realized I respected him and was not sarcastic. Most importantly, I’d respected myself by standing up for what was important to me.

That one conversation changed our entire relationship. It took many more books and months of coaching for both of us to change our steps, but it worked. We are still happily married. Of course, we still disagree, but now we interact as equals and there is no winning or losing. When people ask why I specialize in conflict management, I tell them that I married a lawyer. They laugh and think that I’m joking. You know the rest of my story.

What did you think of my story about respect? Can you relate?

I’d love to hear from you. Why is respect important to you? What’s your story?
Please send me a private email if you have a question about your conflict challenges. I will get back to you because connecting with my clients is #1 plus its so much fun to get to know each other better. You can always call my cell; 248.310.6998.

There’s more! Click HERE for our Kick Conflict to the Curb landing page which describes the new online course in detail. Feel free to contact me to see if the class is right for you or your team.
I’d love to save you a seat!

Have a GREAT week,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Queen of Conflict Resolution

 

Filed Under: bullies at work, Kick Conflict to the Curb Online Course
Tagged With: resolve conflict and interpersonal issues, Respect in the Workplace

June 2, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Are You Ready to Join Me in an Exciting New Online Virtual Class?

My clients have been asking me to create a new online course to help them or their direct reports advance their communication skills.  They share their frustration about colleagues or employees who are bullies, negative, hot-headed, or rude. Some clients want to be taken more seriously and get noticed and want to become a stronger communicator.

They also asked me to make the course easy, affordable, results-oriented, and have time with me as their online coach.  The last couple of months have been very productive because I took a few courses on how to engage and train successful virtual experiences.  All the years as a workshop trainer and keynote speaker are being put to use along with these new and exciting strategies to create online experiences for clients.  I’m ready to help anyone who wants to join me on this powerful journey.

I started a BETA class to cover these issues a few weeks ago.  It was such a success that led me to go the next step and create Kick Conflict to the Curb:  Get the Respect YOU Deserve.  The new class will be starting the week of June 8.  It is 6-weeks long and clients will be working with me and the other communication rock stars to practice new strategies and discuss their communication or conflict issues that they want to resolve.  It’s all about improving relationships at work and home while feeling more peaceful and reduce all the drama!

Please reach out to me to find out if this class is right for you or anyone who could benefit from becoming a master communicator.  I would love to see you as a Founding Member because the investment will never be this low after this first class.  Call 248.310.6998 (cell) or 800.713.1926 (office) to get you started.  The video will give you more details.

We can even set up a private class with your employees to fit their specific schedules.

Thanks for reading and watching the video.  I’m here to answer all your questions to get you started- less tension and stress!

Have a great week,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Filed Under: Professional Development, Resoving conflict in the workplace
Tagged With: resolve conflict and interpersonal issues, Respect in the Workplace

January 7, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Video #8: More Stories on Verbal Aikido to Help You Gain Control

Do you want to hear real examples of how you can use Verbal Aikido to gain control during tough conversations?

Welcome to video #8 in the series on working with bullies in the workplace. Today I will share real stories from my clients who practiced and perfected verbal aikido and put this powerful communication tool to use.

At times bullies leave us alone when we stand up to them because they know we’re up to the test when we pull back from their sarcasm or cruelty.  Are you ready for the two examples?

Example #1 on how to use verbal aikido to gain control of bullies

Sue told her bully, “Beth, don’t even start.” And Sue walked away.  The bully got the idea and didn’t bother her in the future.  Sue reached gain control | communication strategiesher bully!  It looks easy yet the reality is that it takes real courage just like Sue showed.  I’ve used this example several times and it works like a charm because I’ve practiced just like clients do with me.

Example #2 on how to use verbal aikido to gain control of bullies

A teenager who was shorter than most of her classmates was picked on by the mean kid in school when she said, “give me your sandwich shrimp.” My client told her bully, “Pick on someone who is your size” after she was ridiculed.  The mean guy stopped bullying her after this.

Joyce, let’s get real!

I know some of you are thinking that this sounds too good to be true.  At times verbal aikido works and at times it doesn’t.  You know by now my conviction – we need to plan and prepare for things to get worse or better.  It’s worth the risk when things improve after the tough conversation.

If you missed the previous videos in the series visit my youtube channel, blog or LinkedIn.  You will find previous videos in the series below.

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?
Video#5:  The Gap and Triggers to Gain Control
Video #6:  Changing Our Attitudes to Protect Ourselves from Bullies
Video #7:  Verbal Aikido to Stop Letting Others Push You

Stay Connected with Me

Feel free to send me a private email if you have a question on how you can deal with your bully.

Add a comment to my blog on how you deal with negative people on your team.  What stories or expressions help you?
You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email
with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 or send me a text at 248.310.6998 to explore how career coaching could be a great action step for your career development. There are many options to fit your budget and time schedule! 🙂

Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Until next time

Have a great week

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 

 

 

Filed Under: bullies at work, verbal aikido
Tagged With: gain control, Respect in the Workplace

December 17, 2019 By Joyce Weiss

Video #7: Verbal Aikido to Stop Bullies from Making You Feel Defensive

#bulliesintheworkplace #coach #verbalaikido

I have an important question for you:
Do you want to add an easy strategy in your tool-box to gain control with difficult people and bullies in the workplace?

Welcome to video #7 in the series “Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace”:  Verbal Aikido to gain control with bullies and difficult people. Today I’ll share how you can pull back when others push you with their negativity

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #1:  At Times we Need to Bully the Bully

You heard me right.  Bullies admire those who speak with strength and don’t let bullies get away with their negative behavior. bullies in the workplace

Here’s an example I used with my coaching client who was tired of feeling defensive all the time when a bully constantly pushed her.

The bully said, “All our managers don’t know anything about how hard it is to work with our demanding clients.”  My client used to push back by saying, “How can you say that?” – pushing back.  She learned this new approach below after only a couple of sessions.

She agreed with the bully.  For example, “You’re right.  We may not understand how tough it is with these unhappy clients – please let me know how we can support your efforts.” This is an example of Verbal Aikido.  Pulling back and not pushing back.  I always say that it’s a huge risk using these strategies with bullies.  I also know that when it works out, it’s worth the risk.

Stay tuned for more examples of how clients gained control by using verbal aikido.

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #2:  Work with a Communication Strategist

You may be ready or you know someone who wants to explore working with a career coach or communication strategist to go deep and bullies in the workplaceresolve communication challenges with difficult people or bullies in the workplace.  If you want to explore options working with me as your private coach or anyone who you feel could benefit from a few sessions – call me at 800.713.1926.  We will send you a new brochure that describes how coaching could be a good next step.

Find your voice with Joyce

Do you know how your communication impacts your success at work?  Take the FREE Communication assessment HERE and you will receive your scores immediately.  I will send you an email after you take the assessment with ideas that you can use to improve your communication skills.

Let’s connect on LinkedIn HERE.  You will find my article on Verbal Aikido on my LinkedIn profile HERE

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A. CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Have a great week
Remember…you get what you tolerate!

 

Filed Under: bullies at work, bullying in the workplace, verbal aikido
Tagged With: bullying in the workplace, Respect in the Workplace

March 12, 2019 By Joyce Weiss

Motivational Quote on Courage and Respect

 

motivational quote | Joyce Weiss | Career Quote

#motivational quote
#Teneedwards
#courage

Tene Edwards has it right!  The moment someone devalues you, run don’t walk!

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you protect yourself when others are disrespectful to you.

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with your concerns that you are experiencing at home or work.

 

Filed Under: favorite quote, Personal Development
Tagged With: favorite quotes, respect at home, Respect in the Workplace

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