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February 19, 2013 By Joyce Weiss 2 Comments

How to Thrive on Change in the 21st Century

I will be including articles from some of my colleagues who do GREAT work in the Professional Growth and Customer Service Areas.
The topic of change is one that always comes up in the workplace.  At times people say that things change too quickly and at other times they tell me that change is too slow.  This week’s article is by a colleague of mine who is in my mastermind group.
Tom Borg is a Sales and Marketing Expert and I suggest that you visit his blog which is in his bio at the end of his article.

Thanks, Tom for allowing me to share your words of wisdom!

How to Thrive on Change in the 21st Century
By Tom Borg©2013

As the famous folk/rock singer Bob Dylan once said, “the times they are a changin’.” And changing they are!

In the last 25 years we have witnessed many historic and life altering changes that have taken place. The crumbling of the Berlin Wall, 9/11, the quantum leaps of the internet, a stock market crash, tremendous downsizing by the big three US automakers, huge layoffs, the iPhone, the country of China emerging as a huge economic leader, the BP oil disaster and the list could go on and on.

People love change and they hate change. They want to see the models of the new automobiles for the next year, but they hate the fact that they have to change their area code on their telephone number (and everything else that has their telephone number on it). They love the fact that their new cellular telephone has the latest upgrades on it, but they dislike the chore of having to sort through their trash and put recyclables in a separate container. They like the idea of ATM machines but fear the loss of their job due to a downsizing of their company.

The right amount of change in a person’s life is similar to the sun rising on a new day. It’s full of possibilities and opportunities. It is that special something that adds to the magic of life. Like a fresh diaper, some changes are needed and wanted. If not, it’s the same old stuff.

It would be boring (for most of us) to see the same old reruns of the Monk TV show week after week. We want the all new comedy program. Many of us would not want the same redundant meal, night after night; we need and want a variety of delectable and healthy foods. Change is predominantly good and of course, change will always be with us.

So how do we deal with the issue of change? Are there some guidelines that will help us through the maze of confusion?
The answer is a resounding and emphatic YES!

A famous success philosopher, Kop Kopmeyer, once suggested a system for dealing with adversity that has served me well. He called it “The Four A’s for Dealing with the Challenges of Life”. Let me share with you my interpretation of them and how they can help you deal with the challenge of change.

 The first A stands for Admit. We must first, admit to ourselves, that change is inevitable. It is going to happen. It has been, will be, and is part of every facet of our lives. So, when faced with a change at hand, the first step is to simply admit that this change, whatever it might be, is or has happened. To admit or acknowledge that this change is real is the vital first step.

The second A stands for Accept. It is important to accept the shift that is taking place. Not lip service, but a true acceptance of this modification of our present existence is needed. It means recognizing things will never be the same again. We don’t have to like the change, but we do need to embrace the reality that has occurred. The job is gone; the child is now an adult, or the strength and quickness we knew as a youth has been diminished.

Since the door to the situation as we knew it, has been closed, we must seek entry through a new door, down the hall that is now open. In order to be able to pass through that door we must first accept the change that has taken place.

The third A stands for Adapt. What are we going to do about it? What kind of a plan can we create to help us make a successful transition into this new reality? What type of help or professional assistance will we need to seek out? What kind of knowledge or skills must we acquire to help us turn this potential loss into a win?

After we have deployed the creative resources to come up with a plan to adapt, we must take the next step which is to take Action. As the saying goes, “you can’t get to second base if you leave one foot on first”.

All the planning in the world is useless, unless we take action. What happens to some people is that they go through the first three steps of this formula, but hesitate to take action. A good example of this is when Chrysler, Ford and General Motors created an electric car but failed to totally commit to marketing and selling it. In the meantime, automakers like Toyota and Honda did, and gained a huge head start on the big three. The key here is take action.

Another example, on an individual level, is when a person loses his or her job. The first move might be just a telephone call or simply doing some research on the internet about the change he or she is contemplating. It may mean securing the services of a career planning specialist, doing some informational interviews, or enrolling in a training program to begin the process of upgrading ones’ skills. The important thing is to get moving; like the saying goes “the universe rewards action.” It is vital to move in the direction of our goal. Once we get moving, adjustments and corrections can be made.

In summary, the four steps to successfully deal with change are:

Admit – admit that the change has happened or is about to happen.

Accept – accept the change, and welcome it with open arms.

Adapt – come up with a plan to help you adapt and make the best of the situation.

Action – take the necessary action and follow through to insure your get the desired results.

By implementing the above formula for dealing with change in our lives, we can grow and benefit from the myriad of challenges and transformations that are sure to come our way in the months and years ahead. Not only will the times be a changin ‘, but so will we.

To learn how to help your company succeed contact Tom Borg and request your free e-copy of his white paper report entitled: “The Five Biggest Customer Service Mistakes Small Business Owners Make and What to Do about Them.”

Tom Borg is president of Tom Borg Consulting, LLC. He is a business consultant, speaker, coach and author. His consulting company helps companies and organization become more profitable by increasing their value and lowering their costs through the professional development of their business owners, managers and employees. You can reach Tom at 734-404-5909 or visit his website:

Check out my article How to Feel Empowered to Reduce Conflict in the Workplace.
You will learn secrets on empowering others.

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February 5, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Team Members Got NO Respect? How to Fix Team Communication

conflict man holding out hand..stop

Are your team members losing R-E-S-P-E-C-T for others on the team?
How can you increase team communication and get people refocused?

If there are unresolved issues festering below the surface, they eventually cause energy to be diverted from your team.
Learn how to Be Direct with Respect®.

 

Here are some ideas to start your team opening up with each other:

  • By standing up for our rights, we show that we respect ourselves and achieve respect from others.
  • It’s a form of selfishness when we don’t let others know how we feel and think.
  • Sacrificing our rights results in training other people to mistreat us.
  • We all have a natural right to courtesy and respect.
  • When we use Be Direct with Respect®, everyone involved benefits.

Do you want more detail on how to implement this powerful tool… Be Direct with Respect®?
Check out this video…Direct Communication to Reduce Conflict in the Workplace

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Until next time…This is Joyce Weiss
and Remember…YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE! 🙂

Filed Under: Communication, Conflict in the Workplace, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Increase Respect in the Workplace, Miscellaneous
Tagged With: how to improve communication skills, resolve conflict and interpersonal issues, Respect in the Workplace

January 29, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Do You Want to Eliminate Workplace Irritations?

cartoon women boxing in long dressesSuccessful teams know that workplace irritations exist…no matter how perfect the team seems to be!
At times I hear leaders tell me that there is NO stress
at their workplace and everyone gets along  just fine.

Even successful teams need to listen to all team members to insure that they are heard and understood.  There are always issues to discuss since things change constantly.   As long as trust is established, discussing workplace conflicts works like magic.  They can be small such as having everyone come to meetings on time or cleaning up the kitchen.

A colleague of mine, Marilyn Suttle wrote a wonderful book – Who’s Your Gladys?  How to Turn Even the Most Difficult Customer into Your Biggest Fan.

You are in for a GREAT read after you experience Marilyn’s interesting article directly below on Do You Know What’s at the Top of Your Customers’ Irritation Lists?
Enjoy and make sure and check out her website which is at the end of her article.

As part of an experiment, I got out a pad of paper and pen, and walked through each room of my house finding things to add to my irritation list. Anything that bugged me got put on the list. The chipped paint in my dining room, the small rip in the lining of my lamp shade, the disorganized storage area in the basement – no matter how big or small, I wrote it down.

At first, my irritation list was long, and … irritating. Prioritizing and delegation changed all that. After a family meeting, the who, what, and by-when’s were added to the list.  (I admit this idea got a cold reception at first, but my husband and son got on board, adding some of their own irritations to the list and negotiating responsibilities.)
One by one, over the next six months, the house shaped up. As the list grew smaller, my energy and enthusiasm skyrocketed.

Consider what might happen if you were to create a customer irritation list at your place of business. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day running of your business and lose sight of the irritations that ultimately undermine your success.
It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day running of your business and lose sight of the small things that ultimately undermine your success.

Do you know what’s at the top of your customers irritation lists? Over time, those irritations may be the deciding factor that pushes customers toward your competitor.

Points to help you break through irritations:

  • Be eager to learn what’s on your customers’ irritation lists.
  • (Don’t forget the people inside your company, aka your internal customers. Their irritations ultimately spill over onto your paying customers.)
  • Notice your role in creating the problem or allowing it to continue.
  • For each irritation, brainstorm several ways to handle it and pick the best one.    Divvy up or delegate.

Enjoy the results!

What do you think? What workplace irritations are you committed to eliminating?

2012 Copyright Marilyn Suttle

Marilyn Suttle is the coauthor of Who’s Your Gladys? How to Turn Even the Most Difficult Customer into Your Biggest Fan. Marilyn travels internationally to deliver service excellence keynotes and workshops. Marilyn inspires her clients to excel by creating strong, productive relationships in every area of life.  She specializes in creating “Suttle Shifts” in the way people think and act to produce massive results. When you need a keynote speaker or success coach, Marilyn can be reached at  (248) 348-1023, marilyn@marilynsuttle.com or visit www.whosyourgladys.com
To access additional free customer service resources – including blog articles and video tips – visit www.whosyourgladys.com

I will be including several guest authors to contribute their articles on my Bold Solutions Blog.
Let me know how you enjoy their words of wisdom.

If you want more information on this subject make sure and check out my post on How to Create Strong Teams.

Let us hear what workshop issues drive you crazy.
Share your thoughts in the comment section below.

Until Next Time
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant
and Remember…YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE!

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Filed Under: Articles on Stress, Collaboration Strategies, Communication, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Conflict in the Workplace, Customer Service, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Improving Communication, Increase Respect in the Workplace
Tagged With: Customer complaints, employee morale, how to improve communication skills, Respect in the Workplace

January 22, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Improve Your Meetings from Boring to Creative!

cartoon concensus  boring meeting

Does this cartoon look familiar?  If so, you are NOT alone!
If you want to reduce conflict in the workplace and improve morale please read this blog post. 🙂

Many of my clients tell me that their meetings are long and unproductive.  We conduct a Code of Honor to make rules to change meetings from boring to creative.  I will cover more details on The Code of Honor in a future blog.

Here are 3 Brainstorming Stages to Improve Team Creativity

What are productive steps for a useful brainstorming session?
How can you accomplish what you really want to get done?
Try the following steps:

1. Blue area = IDEAS

  • The sky’s the limit
  • Ideas fall out of the blue
  • Look at the possibilities
  • What’s good about it?
  • Challenge your assumptions

2. Red Area = SELECTION

  • Discuss hurdles
  • How can we make it better?
  • Go back to the blue area

3. Green Area = ACTION PLAN

  • Implement ideas
  • Who do we need to back us up?

    If you want more information and exercises on how to improve morale and improve your meetings, read this blog post:
    Reduce Conflict in the Workplace by Creating Strong Teams.

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Filed Under: Communication, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Conflict in the Workplace, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Improving Communication, Team Synergy
Tagged With: Communication, conflict in the workplace, effective communication, employee morale

January 15, 2013 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Do you want to be a MASTER Communicator?

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My clients tell me that they really enjoy the Tough Communication     portion of my “Resolving Conflict in the Workplace” program.
This blog post describes a small portion of the training so that you can start improving your communication skills.

Let’s say that you need to have that difficult talk with Bob who is a great person on your team BUT he does not clean up after he uses the kitchen.  The team agreed that everyone was responsible to clean the kitchen.  The team talks about Bob and you want to stop the gossip.

Many times people don’t know how to have these “talks” and they use sarcasm like, “You are really a slob and we are sick of it.”  Obviously you won’t get very far with this comment and Bob will become defensive.  So what can you do?

The answer…Use The Power Talk Formula described in the photo.

Here is a possible response:  Bob, “I am frustrated when I come into the kitchen and see dirty dishes because everyone on the team agreed to clean up after themselves.”  Of course Bob can still get defensive.  If he does you can continue in a calm tone to make sure he really understands how this is about the team’s agreement to keep the kitchen clean and not about him.  This formula works like a charm after you practice, practice, and practice.

It took me a long time to get comfortable with this formula and it is a now a natural skill.  Remember, I said that it took me a long time to learn the skill.  I suggest that you practice this with your family.  You may thank me after you get some great results and PLEASE share your successes with me in the comment section below.

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Sign up for the FREE Video Series “20 Tips to Reduce Conflict in the Workplace” at my website.
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Until next time…This is Joyce Weiss
and Remember…YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: Communication, Conflict and Resolution Specialist, Conflict in the Workplace, How to Improve Communication in the Workplace, Increase Respect in the Workplace
Tagged With: constructive feedback, how to improve communication skills, resolve conflict and interpersonal issues

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