Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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5 Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team: Part 1

Do you want to learn a powerful secret from my team coaching toolbox?  If so, you are in the right place:  Create Your Team’s Code of Conduct.

This is part 1 of a 5-part series on creating your code of conduct.
Make sure and look for parts 2-5 in the next few blog posts.

This article contains an exciting exercise that I use in my training sessions on Resolving Conflict and Employee Engagement.  Clients enjoy using this strategy.  They implement the ideas during and after the session.  I hope that you see the value of using this powerful training secret.  It can help you reduce conflict in the workplace and improve your working condition.

 You may be asking yourself, “What is a code of conduct?”  A code of conduct is a powerful set of rules that govern the internal behavior of any team.

 Team Coaching Secret #1:  Strategies to use a Code of Conduct

  • The rules are made by the team.code of conduct |team coaching
  • Team members are willing to stand and defend the code.
  • Each team member is personally responsible and accountable for his or her behavior.
  • It allows everyone to do their best work.
  • Everyone must play by the same rules.
  • The team agrees to put in the time and energy – not just show up for work.
  • Everyone helps finds the unique talents of team members.

Thoughts from Joyce

Here are examples of my client’s code of conduct that we created together:

  • Everyone needs to come to the meeting on time.
  • No side conversations during the meeting.
  • Cell phones are turned off.
  • Everyone needs to participate.
  • The team supports members when harassment occurs and confronts bullies and other difficult people.

The idea is for the entire team to come up with its own code.  Leaders can’t persuade others what direction to take.  I’ve seen miracles happen when this exercise is done right.  The team can change the code to fine-tune their goals. 

I find that clients get better results when they have a coach help them create the code of conduct so leaders and team members are equal during this strategy session. It doesn’t take long to do this because I’ve got my secret sauce when it comes to team coaching. Just saying! 😉

Look for parts 2-5 on Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team in the next 4 blog posts.

CLICK HERE to learn more about how Joyce can help your company create team synergy through team building consulting.

I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me your questions about creating your own code of conduct. 

What is your experience when you created one with your team? 

Feel free to call me at 248.713.1926 if you want to explore options on how I can come to your organization and facilitate a meeting (face to face or virtually) for you to create your own code of conduct.  This is a perfect exercise for any board meeting or retreat. Human Resource Professionals find this exercise a time saver for them.

Do You Want to See How Your Communication Impacts Your Success at Work?

CLICK HERE to take the easy and fun Kick Conflict to the Curb Assessment. You will get your results immediately and learn more about setting boundaries to be more effective at work and in your life. Sound good?
Here’s the LINK

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP

Conflict Resolution Coach

You can start tackling tough conversations with bullies, different generations, and even narcissists once you learn the powerful strategies. I will do whatever it takes to help you improve your quality of life.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

P.S.  I work with Human Resource Professionals, individuals, and small groups to make sure everyone feels heard and respected so they Kick Conflict to the Curb.

 

 

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Think Like Buddha: 1 Easy Lesson to Use Now

Buddah's Quote

Buddha’s quote is one of my favorites when working with growth-minded people.

We all have a  choice on what thoughts we put into our minds.  

At times they are positive and nothing will stop us from reaching our goals.
Then there are those negative thoughts that seep into our minds about anger, negativity, insecurity, or doubt.

Buddha’s quote is perfect for anyone who needs a friendly reminder – we can stop ourselves from feeding ourselves such toxic thoughts.

A couple of years ago I knew that one of my TRIGGERS (let’s call her MS. TRIGGER) was attending the same social event.  My past behavior was to prepare myself so that her sarcastic and toxic tone wouldn’t affect me. This time I did an experiment and decided no matter what this person said to either me or the other guests, I wouldn’t open my mouth.  
I don’t always have to take on the conflict.  

Buddha’s quote was my friendly reminder. I would do my best to control myself when MS. TRIGGER opened her mouth.

Sure enough, MS. TRIGGER didn’t stop talking all night.  There was a “one-versation.” 
Normally I would put on my conflict resolution coach hat and try to change the conversation to include others in the dialogue.

Not this time.  It was amazing to watch the other guests look uncomfortable because MS. TRIGGER didn’t take a breath all evening.  She interrupted everyone and was rude to anyone who tried to add his or her opinion.

1 Easy Lesson I Learned and Used From Buddha’s Quote

The moment I entered my car, a friend called me and didn’t stop complaining about MS. TRIGGER.  
The great news is that I wasn’t upset because I told myself,   “NOT TO GET INVOLVED.”  

It’s that simple, dear readers.  

My friend couldn’t sleep that night because she was so riled up about MS. TRIGGER.
I had a great night’s sleep because of this successful experiment.
All I had to do was keep silent.

I know those of you who have been following me know that I encourage clients to speak their voice. 
There are times when it’s better to stay silent especially if you don’t want to create more inner stress for yourself.

How Does Buddha’s Quote Speak to You?

Have you experienced a time like this when you attempted to control a conversation and it went sour?
Hopefully, you learned an important lesson – not to get involved in every little drama that appears in our life.

Please share how Buddha’s quote speaks to you in the comment section.
When did you decide to stay silent with an irritating person?  How did this work out? 

The next time you know that a Trigger will be at the same meeting or social gathering, what message can you feed yourself?

This stuff works.  I only share real scenarios with you that clients have experienced.
This time, I added my story as a coaching moment for you. 🙂

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP

Conflict Resolution Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media so other growth-minded people can control their inner stress.

PPS.  We are updating our blog and can’t wait to share Kick Conflict to the Curb: Stomp Out Your Stress with you soon. 

 

 

 

 

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Exciting News For You About Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update!

Hey Loyal Readers!

Some of you have been reading my articles and viewing videos since 2010 when I started blogging!  Now that’s called loyalty!

It’s an honor to have so many of you return each week to learn how to become a master communicator and resolve conflict.

Make sure and read the P.S. at the bottom.  Let’s have some friendly competition.  You can be one of the winners!  Read more at the end of this article. 

Here are Some of the Changes:

  • The new title is Kick Conflict to the Curb: Stomp Out Your Stress (My son, Ron came up with the title!)
  • You will see monthly themes such as bullies, narcissists, mindset secrets, coaching strategies, professional growth strategies, motivational posters, + some cool surprises
  • There will be more videos that are new and improved on topics that YOU ask me to create
  • I’m developing a format to send you audio links that you can listen to while you walk, jog, or bike ride

Do You Want a Sneak Peek?

You will find powerful information on the following subjects:

  • Unresolved conflict is costing you more than money!
  • How to support employees from spending too much time on conflict.
  • 3 easy secrets to reduce stress at work now.
  •  How to empower your employees to reduce stress with colleagues.
  •  3 easy secrets to feel heard at work.

Here’s My Ask! 🙂Joyce Weiss | Kick Conflict to the Curb

Please send me the burning questions that you would ask me if we met for coffee or a glass of wine.

What topics would you like to learn concerning your own conflict or communication challenges?

I will do the research since I’m a geek when it comes to these topics.  Can’t help myself.

Let others know about Kick Conflict to the Curb: Stomp Out Your Stress by sharing the content or website where they can sign up at JoyceWeiss.com

 

Let’s Stay Connected

Please add your thoughts about this week’s post. Hey, I want to make sure you feel heard! 🙂
You can share your ideas in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution Coach – Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. This will be interesting to see who reads this last part.  Here’s a little contest:  Let me know how long you’ve been reading Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update?
Once I receive this information, there will be a few amazon gift cards sent to 3 lucky winners.  All you have to do is let me know how long your think you’re been visiting this site.

P.P.S. I can’t say how much I appreciate all of you – the newbies and long-time readers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Growth-Minded People Rock!

 

growth-minded people

 

Growth-minded people understand the necessity of falling down and getting up to move forward. I’ve already written about a speech when over 3000 people walked out of one of my speeches during a high point of my career.  I will reshare that story with you next week.  Not my favorite story for sure.  It’s important to dig deep when we fall to learn from the situation.  I learned – BIG TIME! 🙂

Please share a time when you learned from a situation when you stumbled – yet got up to move forward. 

Reflection is so important and growth-minded people understand how to pick themselves up not play the victim {at least not for long}.  Fixed-minded people dwell on the mistake or failure and stay stuck longer.  

Let’s start a great discussion in the comment section so we can feel positive about ourselves!  We need to do this more than ever these days. 

During my membership meetings {Kick Conflict to the Curb Ninjas}, we start each session by sharing good things that happened during the week. This paves the way to then discuss our communication challenges. 

It’s natural to bring up negative situations first. We need to force ourselves at times to change this mindset to look at the good things in our life! 🙂

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post.

How does it resonate with you?

You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Learn how you can benefit from my 30 + years of communication and coaching experience to help you or your organization address workplace bullying here.

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach – Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Working with Rude People – Part 1

  • Do you work with rude people?
  • Are you ready to share your experience to reduce your stress?
  • Do you want to hear horror stories from my clients?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you are in the right place!  😉

The next few articles will be about adults who act like children not playing nice in the sandbox.  I am NOT making any of them up.  These are true incidents that my clients have shared with me.  I have changed the business settings to protect the innocent. 🙂 

Working with Rude People: Story #1 Rude people | Communication Strategies

Bob and Gary are two colleagues who don’t get along.  The tension got out of hand when the following happened in their workplace. 

Bob realized that no matter what he said or did, Gary would do his best to ridicule Bob at meetings. 

One day Bob was standing by his desk and Gary walked by him and actually stepped on Bob’s feet! 

Working with Rude People: Questions to Ponder

Here Are Two Questions for You:

1.  What would you do or say if you were Bob?

2.  What would you do or say if you were the boss?

Please put your answers in the comment section below.  I will share your ideas in a future article. 

Click HERE to read my article on Cruel Words Take Root in Us

I want to hear from you!

There is so much rage these days! It would be great to start a conversation about rude people and behavior that you have seen.  Please share your story in the comment sections below.
I will be sharing my own experiences also because it seems like rudeness is the new normal these days.  Just saying!

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach and Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. I will be doing an extra masterclass soon because there was a technical glitch last week. I take care of my loyal clients and readers! A few of you couldn’t get into the zoom room because of this technical issue. 🙁 I’ve got you covered!  Let me know if you want to be invited to join the next FREE master class:  How to Feel Heard when No One is Listening without Losing Your Cool. I will send you the registration link when I hear from you.  

 

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831