Buddha’s quote is one of my favorites when working with growth-minded people.
We all have a choice on what thoughts we put into our minds.
At times they are positive and nothing will stop us from reaching our goals.
Then there are those negative thoughts that seep into our minds about anger, negativity, insecurity, or doubt.
Buddha’s quote is perfect for anyone who needs a friendly reminder – we can stop ourselves from feeding ourselves such toxic thoughts.
A couple of years ago I knew that one of my TRIGGERS (let’s call her MS. TRIGGER) was attending the same social event. My past behavior was to prepare myself so that her sarcastic and toxic tone wouldn’t affect me. This time I did an experiment and decided no matter what this person said to either me or the other guests, I wouldn’t open my mouth.
I don’t always have to take on the conflict.
Buddha’s quote was my friendly reminder. I would do my best to control myself when MS. TRIGGER opened her mouth.
Sure enough, MS. TRIGGER didn’t stop talking all night. There was a “one-versation.”
Normally I would put on my conflict resolution coach hat and try to change the conversation to include others in the dialogue.
Not this time. It was amazing to watch the other guests look uncomfortable because MS. TRIGGER didn’t take a breath all evening. She interrupted everyone and was rude to anyone who tried to add his or her opinion.
1 Easy Lesson I Learned and Used From Buddha’s Quote
The moment I entered my car, a friend called me and didn’t stop complaining about MS. TRIGGER.
The great news is that I wasn’t upset because I told myself, “NOT TO GET INVOLVED.”
It’s that simple, dear readers.
My friend couldn’t sleep that night because she was so riled up about MS. TRIGGER.
I had a great night’s sleep because of this successful experiment.
All I had to do was keep silent.
I know those of you who have been following me know that I encourage clients to speak their voice.
There are times when it’s better to stay silent especially if you don’t want to create more inner stress for yourself.
How Does Buddha’s Quote Speak to You?
Have you experienced a time like this when you attempted to control a conversation and it went sour?
Hopefully, you learned an important lesson – not to get involved in every little drama that appears in our life.
Please share how Buddha’s quote speaks to you in the comment section.
When did you decide to stay silent with an irritating person? How did this work out?
The next time you know that a Trigger will be at the same meeting or social gathering, what message can you feed yourself?
This stuff works. I only share real scenarios with you that clients have experienced.
This time, I added my story as a coaching moment for you. 🙂
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Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution
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