At times my clients share stories about how their parents influenced them
either in a positive or negative way. It is amazing how many details many of
us remember-both the good and bad.
We all have our own stories and the content of this post is taken from my book,
Take the Ride of Your Life! Shift Gears from More Balance, Growth and Joy.
Hope that you enjoy it.
Tom’s Story
Tom’s dad drilled the classic “you’re a loser” mentality into his head at an early age.
But that doesn’t mean Tom became a loser.
Tom, a successful salesperson, was told at an early age not to believe
in himself. “You are a loser. You will never amount to anything.
You will never learn to ride your bike, either,” his father said.
Those cruel words pounded into Tom’s subconscious and took root.
Despite the expectation of failure and the utter lack of love and support,
Tom was determined to learn.
As an adult, he became obsessed with success at work.
“I cannot fail!” he would tell himself.
This became the entire focus of his life, affecting his family and even his health.
Rather than relishing his success, he was afraid of “falling off the bike” of his youth.
He did not realize he was a winner from the first time he “pedaled” with determination
to succeed on his own.
Hope for Tom!
Eventually, Tom was able to see all the positives in his life and discovered
that he trusted himself all along.
He realized he was not only strong and determined — he was a success!
Questions from Joyce
When did you turn a negative message into something positive?
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Margo says
I was always the organized one – told to stay in the background. I didn’t have the skills to be a real leader. My role was to get the supplies, research the topic, set up the room, whatever it was to make the event or group function. As the organized one, my opinion and view didn’t matter. I had a job to do. When I did speak up, my words were discounted and I was always wrong. So, I never did public speaking. Then someone pointed out that all public speaking involved was organizing your thoughts and presenting them. Organizing I could do… a new world opened for me. Now I own a business, have my DTM in Toastmasters and have been an officer in many organizations. Now I use the label as my dais, not as a rock to stand behind.
Joyce Weiss says
Thanks for responding, Margo! Your story is perfect for this blog post. You will receive the free booklet shortly. Please feel free to comment on future posts from me. What do you do for a living? I sounds like you are quite a speaker!
Margo says
I own a winery. I spend my days pouring wine and telling ghost stories. Looking forward to the book.
Joyce Weiss says
Sounds amazing! Where is your winery?
Margo says
Western NY, near Niagara Falls. http://www.MarjimManor.com is the website; or you can check us out during the Bottled Spirits episode of GhostHunters
Tom Borg says
This is a good example of how self esteem is affected at an early age.
It takes awareness and a willingness to break that kind of pattern.
Joyce Weiss says
Thanks for responding Tom! You are right about your comment. So many of my clients share their childhood messages that were negative and how they are still working on breaking the cycle. Keep your comments coming! I will send you your free booklet.
Joyce Weiss says
Thanks, Margo. If any of my followers are in your area, maybe the can visit your winery. It sounds so interesting and please do send more comments because I’m sure you have many stories to share!