Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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So, You Want to do it ALL? Burn Out May Be Good For You!

Some of you sent me a message stating that the radio show link was not working on your system from the blog post that I sent last week.  I decided to resend this blog with a new link so that you can experience a very spirited and powerful interview with host Jim Blasingame who created the Small Business Advocate Radio Show.

I do hope you were intrigued by the title:  Burn Out May Be Good For You!

Do you…

  •      Find it hard to delegate?
  •      Wonder if you will ever catch up?
  •      Crash at the end of the day without doing something that you want to do?

If you answered yes to only one of these statements, please continue reading this article.

Jim Blasingame, founder of the Small Business Advocate has invited me to be a guest on his radio show numerous times each year.  Both  of us have upbeat and VERY interesting conversations about how to succeed in business.  I decided to share a personal story that happened to me this summer.  He loved the idea on how I turned burnout into something positive.

Click HERE to listen to Jim Blasingame’s interview with me on How Burn Out May Be Good For You!

JIM BLASINGAME is the creator and award-winning host of The Small Business Advocate Show, a syndicated columnist, and author of Small Business Is Like A Bunch Of Bananas, Three Minutes To Success, and The Age of the Customer: Prepare for the Moment of Relevance.  He is one of the world’s foremost experts on small business and entrepreneurship.  You can reach Jim at jim@jbsba.com. 

Thoughts From Joyce

I learned the following valuable lessons when I burned out this summer:

  • Sometimes the body is smarter than our brain.  Start looking at the signs when you get sick.
  • Think about what change you need to make when you don’t enjoy what you do (at home or work).
  • Decide what you need to delegate or get rid of to let you do what you want to do.  (I decided to refer some of the lower paying programs to speakers bureaus
    or other colleagues.  This is a win/win.  I can then concentrate on the clients who I WANT to work with in the future).
  • Take time to reflect why you are burning out.  Are you sleeping enough, eating right, or taking time for YOU?  If not start a small list of what you can change.  You may need to change how you think about work or home.  This is the biggest hurdle that I see when I consult others.  Whose life is it anyway? 
  • High Achievers break (not over achievers…that sounds negative)…they don’t bend.  That is why we break down physically. 
  • Start listening to our relatives or friends when  they tell us how we are burning both ends of a candle.  Don’t become defensive…thank them!

 Click here for my short article on Why Burnout Can Be Good For You.

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A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, accountability coach, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
Visit her website at JoyceWeiss.com to sign up for your own FREE video series and Communicate with Impact Weekly to Resolve Conflict in the Workplace.

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Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 PS  Click here for my short article on Why Burnout Can Be Good For You.

PPS  See you next week!

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Why Burnout Can be Good for You

conflict frustrated man with paperI hope that I got your attention with this title.  We all know that burnout can be very harmful if we don’t pay attention to our stress levels.  We get sick or even chronic illness “suddenly” appear in our life.  There are times when burnout can be a positive indication… to listen to your body and most importantly…decide what you NEED to change in your life.

I’m starting Arianna Huffington’s new book, Thrive:  The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating A Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder.  She talks about the importance of looking at our life and the time that we actually spend taking care of our needs.  I will report back to you after I read it.

In the mean time please look at my short video on “New Facts About Stress.”  Click here to view the video.  Let me know what speaks to you and how you have learned to take care of yourself after you have burned out.  All you have to do is go to the bottom on this blog post and there is a comment section for you to place your words of wisdom. 

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A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, accountability coach, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
Visit her website at www.JoyceWeiss.com to sign up for your own FREE video series on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace.

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Please send me any comments that you may have for this article. Hit the link at the end of this post to share your ideas or questions. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients get a better night’s sleep!
The next time you need a consultant for a company retreat or meeting, think of Joyce Weiss Training and Development LLC.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS  Do 3d_taketheride_cover_lrgyou want a good read for the summer?  If you have not experienced my book, Take the Ride of Your Life:  Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy, this is a good time to get your own copy.  It is an easy read and clients and friends have used this little green book for book clubs and employee incentives.  Click here to review and order Take the Ride of Your Life . 

 

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What Has Life Taught YOU? Why Hardships Teach Us the Most Important Lessons!

joyce on bike reading book

Several Years ago I wrote a book, Take the Ride of Your Life!:  Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy.
This blog is a perfect place for me to share some of my favorite “inspirational and life changing stories” from people who I interviewed.
I’m hoping that you will identify with some of the stories to reduce conflict in the workplace and home.

The Theme of Take the Ride of Your Life

We are who we are today because of that turning point in our life when we learned how to ride our first 2 wheel bike without training wheels.

Think About These Questions

Who taught you how to ride your first bike?
Was it a positive or negative experience?
What memories do you have of that time in your life?
What kind of person are you today as a result of that ride?

David’s Story

David, an accountant, related this story:

“As a boy, I knew my father was proud of me. Unfortunately, he didn’t know how to show it.
There wasn’t a whole lot of positive attitude in my house.”
David remembered the dictum, “You must behave,” was drilled into him and his siblings time and time again.

“In school I was the class clown. I couldn’t talk at home,” he said, “so I had to express myself elsewhere.”

David was around ten or eleven years old when he learned how to ride a bike.
“Some friends taught me. I used a neighborhood boy’s bike; I didn’t have one of my own.
I fell down, and got up again right away.

I felt good whenever I was on a bike, as if anything was possible.”

David’s wife has helped him focus on keeping a positive attitude.
Before they were married she told him: “I won’t marry you if you become like your father.”
Today, David is grateful. “I didn’t want to raise my kids the way my father raised me.”

Click this link to read testimonials and order your own copy of the book of Take the Ride of Your Life!

Quote from Actress Mary Tyler Moore

You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.
As I look back on the times in my life that taught me the most, they were the difficult times.
By surviving them, I gained a confidence in myself I never could have achieved if I’d led a totally happy life.

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       Who taught you how to ride?
       What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
       What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

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Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life. 

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

    I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the  Ride of Your Life!  It is an easy summer read.

 

 

 

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Is Stress in the Workplace Killing YOU?

I recently received this interesting message from MastersDegreeOnLine.Org who gave me permission to use their image in my blog.

My clients ask me how they can reduce stress at work and gain more control in their life.
This blog post will give you some new facts about stress that may encourage you to see how important it is to take care of YOU!!

YES…even at work.  Hey, if you don’t take care of yourself…who will?  Got you there, didn’t I? 🙂

Let me know what kind of stress you experience at work. 
I will create a new article from your comments.

Master Your Stress
Created by: www.MastersDegreeOnline.org

If you found this post interesting, click here for a blog post on New Facts About Stress

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YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE! 🙂

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Add 26 Days to Your Year: Reduce Conflict in the Workplace

“If only I had more hours in the day.” How many times have you uttered those words?
If you’re like most people, you either think it or say it daily.
The good news is that we all have more time accessible to us.
The bad news is that we often let others steal it from us.

Consider this: International Communications Research in New York surveyed over 1,000 people on how many minutes per day
they are interrupted with things that they don’t want to do.
Over 42 percent of those surveyed admit that they spend 100 minutes or more every day on interruptions.

This breaks down to the following:

100 minutes (1-2/3 hours) per day
11-2/3 hours per week
26 days per year
5 weeks of vacation

While you can’t make up for lost time, you can have more time to do what you want to do – starting today!
The secret is to use Be Direct with Respect® principles.

Here’s how.

  •  When someone asks, “Can I have five minutes of your time?” the natural response is to say,
    “Sure,” even though you really don’t have  five minutes…and you know those five minutes will grow into 15, 20, or even 30 minutes. A better response is, “Sure, I’d love to help you.   Let me call you when I’m done with this project and we can talk then.”
    Now you’re still engaging the person, but you’re doing it on your terms and your timeline, not theirs.
  •  When someone tries to start a friendly conversation with you or engage in small talk and you don’t have the time,
    the usual response is to stop what you’re doing and talk to the person. After all, you don’t want to be rude.
    A better response is, “I’d love to hear more about your grand kids (or your new project, the new clients, etc.),
    Right now I have a meeting (or a deadline to meet, a report to finish, a doctor’s appointment, etc.).
    So let’s talk about this later today when I’m available.”
    Again, it’s just a matter of redirecting the person to your timeline.
  •   When you have a planned one hour meeting with someone and the hour is almost up but the other person shows no intention of leaving or ending the conversation, most people would let the meeting run over, which then disrupts their entire day’s schedule.
    A better approach is, “Our time is just about up. Why don’t we use the remaining few minutes to decide when we’ll meet again to complete this discussion.”
    At that point the person may suddenly be able to sum up all the key points. And if additional time is needed, now you’re doing it according to your schedule.

Take Back Your Time

Being Direct with Respect® is a skill that enables you to stop interruptions at work and home in order to do the necessary tasks.
It is an art to tell others that you can’t take care of their needs without sounding like a selfish person.
When you’re direct with respect, you can do what you need and want to do and get the respect from others at the same time.

Check out our new Communicate with Impact: Be Direct with Respect ON DEMAND Course.

Click here to Discover how WE can work together to help YOU become a master communicator so that you can add 26 days to your year!

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This is Joyce Weiss
and remember…YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE!

 

 

 

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Phone: 248-681-5831