Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind!
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Being honest might not get you a lot of friends, but it will always get you the right ones
A Career Coach Challenge: How to Select the Best Candidate
A few months ago leaders from a professional organization asked me (Career Coach Joyce) to rank a few people who would be the best candidate to receive a scholarship for the winner’s future education. I was honored and felt that this was going to be an easy assignment. The process sure caught me off guard! I was faced with a huge challenge. I read all the applications and thought each candidate would be an excellent choice. How would I make a good decision? The 3 Career Coach challenges will help you look at your own career to discover how you can grow professionally.
Career Coach Challenge #1: Are the candidates’ goals realistic?
I needed to decide who had the most realistic, practical, achievable, and logical goals. This sounds like a basic idea. At first, it seemed like each person wrote very realistic expectations. As I went deeper, I saw how some candidates expressed how they overcame issues with childcare, financial challenges, or moving from another country. They had to face these challenges and figured out how to achieve their goals no matter what issues they faced daily. Other candidates described similar challenges yet were not as action oriented.
Here’s my Career Coach challenge for you:
Are you facing your challenges and moving forward so you can achieve your goals no matter what is standing in your way? This is the time to stop blaming the economy, your boss or family to find solutions so you can live your life like you want to. There is usually a solution to our conflicts when we open our eyes!
Career Coach Challenge #2: How much of an impact will the scholarship have on the candidate’s life?
Improved status, home environment, and self-esteem would impact each candidate. How in the world could I decide who to rank as the #1 candidate after reading why they thought they deserved the scholarship?
As I delved deeper into each person’s philosophy and background, patterns started to appear. Improved self-esteem and home environment were apparent for all candidates. Each person expressed how they would feel personally if they received the scholarship. Improved status is what showed me which candidates could achieve their goals to help themselves, their family, and give back to the community.
I realize that we must start with ourselves first. This is not a selfish way to think. It is survival of the fittest. Life is not fair at times. This was a tough one for me because each candidate expressed deep reasons why they “deserved” the scholarship.
My role was to select the best person who would use the money to reach their goals. None of us know what the future holds for us. This Career Coach knows that we need to look beyond ourselves as we grow professionally and give back and support others on our success journey.
Here’s my 2nd Career Coach challenge for you:
Let’s envision that you are either interviewing for a new job or a promotion, why should the company select you? What characteristics have you shown others that you are the best candidate?
Career Coach Challenge #3: Which candidate received the best letters of reference?
There is no surprise that each reference letter expressed glowing remarks about all candidates. Again, who do I select since these candidates impressed their professors or bosses? Stability, initiative, work ethic and character were apparent for all of the well-deserved candidates. I read and reread these letters and finally saw one candidate who shined above the others in this area. This person’s boss and professors expressed how supportive this candidate was with classmates who needed extra support.
Here’s the 3rd Career Coach challenge for you:
We are all competing for jobs, awards, promotions and need to go that extra mile to stand out from the competition. Ask people who have written your letters of reference why they feel you stand out and what your unique quality is to make the organization better. It’s a great question for you to ask to discover hidden characteristics and behaviors about yourself.
Career Coach Solution: I finally selected a candidate
The reason why this process was so difficult for me was that all the candidates deserved the scholarship. The candidate who I selected had the most realistic goals, would be impacted the most, and had natural leadership traits.
This was the first time I was on a scholarship committee. I hope that you get a chance to experience the same challenges as I faced to select the best candidate. It will not be an easy decision. You will have to go deep within your own value system. I’m glad that there’s another group of impressive judges who will go through the same process. It will be interesting to see who they select.
I want to hear from you
Send me your questions or comments on what is and what isn’t working with your own career path.
This is Joyce Weiss, Communications Strategist and Coach
I provide personalized coaching and Premier Programs for individuals and groups.Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of communication and leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address career skills here.
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Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”
A Communication Strategy That Really Worked with My Family
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCOH-8Z-fs8
Would you like to learn a communication strategy to use the next time you initiate a family dinner or business meeting?
Have you ever attended a family gathering or business meeting and it seemed like the stars were lined up – where everyone spoke and had a chance to share his or her thoughts? If so, did you ever analyze why it was such a successful time for you and others? This article is about one of those perfect family dinners.
My story starts during an evening where everyone got along and the communication flowed as if was a well-directed play. A cousin of mine was in town visiting his mother. He and I enjoy lunch or coffee each time he visits her. This time he expressed an interest in getting to know my grown children and their kids. I invited my family to come to dinner. They all accepted the invitation because they knew that I’m a huge fan of this cousin.
Here’s the hard part of my story. I decided to sit back and not speak as much as I usually do because this night was about the family getting to know each other. It was not about me interjecting my own opinion about our family history. Remember I told you that keeping silent is a tough behavior of mine! The good news is I’m glad that I observed the magic happening right before my eyes.
The communication strategies below can help you the next time you initiate a family gathering or business meeting.
Communication Strategy #1: It helps if everyone is motivated to attend
Of course, this is tough for meetings at work but, it can be done when leaders create a positive environment for everyone. Food and a focused agenda help. You can invite colleagues and direct reports who you feel have the right attitude to attend the meeting.
I don’t know about you, some of our family gatherings aren’t picture perfect. The timing may not be right or family members were tired. Well, this time everyone was eager to be there. It worked because my cousin reached out and my kids were thrilled that he wanted to get to know them better.
Communication Strategy #2: Leaders need to sit back at times and let the conversation flow
Leaders usually start the conversation, ask questions, and follow his or her agenda. The magic happens when leaders don’t give their opinion but, observe and listen to others. People are open when they want to be there and when they feel valued. The quiet ones feel more comfortable and contribute when they see the leader relaxed and not micromanaging the meeting.
Of course, I wanted to interject a story here or there and I chose not to. Instead, I let the family make their own conversation. Again, this was not easy but so enjoyable to watch.
Communication Strategy #3: Ask questions about others that show you are interested in them
This communication strategy is so basic yet is one of my secrets to success. My grandkids always hear me express how important it is for them to ask questions to others. Making other people feel important is something I find missing from many communications. I know you know what I mean. It’s usually all about the speaker – a one-sided conversation.
Back to my story: Each person asked questions about the other person during the entire dinner. The result was that everyone felt appreciated. The laughter and positive atmosphere were apparent and I was smiling internally during the entire evening.
Now for some reality
The communication strategy is simple yet so hard to do when there’s a narcissist or bullies at the event. You know I had to bring these two characters up since they seem to follow me and my loyal readers around. 🙂 It’s still possible to use the communication strategy.
Just remember to concentrate on the people who you want to speak with during the event. You read this correctly. Ignore the bully or narcissist. They will either get the idea and move to another target or try to sabotage your communication. At least you tried to stop the bully from taking over.
You need to remain in control. Don’t let these negative behaviors stop you from enjoying others. Remember, “You get what you tolerate!” Tell yourself that you are in control and that you’re not going to let the “negativos” ruin your time. Believe me when I tell you this is very hard to do. It’s also possible because I’ve worked on this behavior many times in my own life. My clients thank me for supporting them to gain control with these toxic people.
I want to hear from you!
Send me your questions or comments on what is and what isn’t working with your family or business gatherings.
This is Joyce Weiss, Communications Strategist and Coach
I provide personalized coaching and Premier Programs for individuals and groups.
Learn how Joyce Weiss can leverage her 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address and discover communication strategies HERE
Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”
How Executive Coaching Saves Time for Leaders
Executive Coaching is a topic that interests many leaders who I meet at networking events. They always ask about benefits for either themselves or their team members. Their eyes start to brighten the moment they hear that Executive Coaching saves time!
Debra Levantrosser, hostess of The Leaning Edge Radio Show from MI Business Network invited me to speak on “Revealing Blind Spots with Lean Strategy.” You will find more information about Debra and all the great things that MI Business Network does at the end of this article.
Listen to this link which takes you directly to the radio show: Executive Coaching Saves Time for Leaders.
Executive Coaching Strategy #1: What is Executive Coaching?
The main idea is for the coach to ask specific and focused questions and listen to the client who already has answers to the challenge. Clients answer the questions. They are thrilled when they hear their brilliance revealed on their own. Learning new awareness saves time for the client because professional development creates positive change in the workplace.
Executive Coaching Strategy #2: Conducting a 360 review
This strategy is one that clients appreciate because they get solid results and positive change which will enhance the work environment. I interview the client’s boss, colleagues, direct reports, and even customers. They are asked questions on how the client can improve communication and the strengths of the person’s leadership. This research is shared with the client even though no one knows who gave the statements.
This information can help with the stability of the organization. There is engagement from all levels of employees which creates the development of new ideas on saving time and money.
The 360 is powerful because we have data to move forward and plan how the client can take this information to grow professionally. It helps when the coach’s communication skills are strong especially when sharing constructive feedback in a positive way. The client needs to digest the information especially blind spots which he or she was not aware of before the 360. Powerful stuff!
Executive Coaching Strategy #3: The Importance of Revealing Blind Spots
Clients learn behavior about themselves such as:
- Constantly interrupting others
- Communicating with a low voice and not taken seriously
- Micromanaging a team
- Closed body language showing disinterest or defensive behavior
- Conducting poor meetings that people resented (ouch)
When the blind spots are revealed we can set goals on how to change these patterns. Once clients are aware of their blind spots they can start to coach their direct reports to find their own hidden areas. The client becomes the coach. This is a great goal to reach and will save time by communicating how these changes can improve the workflow and productivity.
Executive Coaching Strategy #4: Looking for Patterns
This is an important key during the Executive Coaching session. The idea is for the client to discover negative patterns and start breaking them one step at a time. I worked with my coach, Terry Brock, MBA, CSP, CPAE-
Social Media Marketing Keynote Speaker | Speaker Hall of Fame | Co-Author,”Klout Matters”.
We had to discover why my promotional videos were not representing my high energy and direct personality. Terry helped me discover a pattern that I didn’t see. I was speaking loudly into the microphone and it sounded like I was yelling at the webcam and the people watching the video. This is NOT a good thing since most of the Executive Coaches want to sound like caring and bold individuals. Once I lowered my decibels, the real me was revealed and I didn’t sound mad or mean! As you can see, I believe in Executive Coaching and walk my talk!
Executive Coaching Strategy #5: Clients Need to Want Coaching
This is mandatory and I share this strategy with coaches during the train the trainer workshops. People need to have the commitment to stretch their learning curve and be ready to have tough conversations with their Executive Coach. Clients must make time for the process because patterns are not changed right away. It takes constant practice. I know all about this because it has taken me a LONG time to break my pattern yelling into a microphone.
Here’s More About the Leaning Edge
The Leaning Edge, hosted by Debra Levantrosser, speaks with leaders, implementers, and believers in the lean philosophy to share their successes and struggles in hopes that they will help others in their lean journey.
The show focuses on the fact that lean is a mindset and a culture, not a set of process improvement tools, and shows how this approach can make your city, state and country an even stronger and more successful, stable place one organization at a time and one person at a time.
The “Lean” philosophy refers to engaging and involving all levels of employees in the development of ideas to provide value to customers by aiming for high quality, low cost and short lead time. A specific kind of leadership style is seen in successful lean organizations which include rewarding experimentation and developing people into problem solvers.
I want to hear from you
Send me your questions or comments on what has worked with your own Executive Coaching experience. How has it helped you save time and move forward in your career?
This is Joyce Weiss, Communications Strategist and Coach
Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”
PS Learn how Joyce Weiss can leverage her 30+ years of communication and leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address executive coaching strategies here.
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