Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Discover How to Control Your Stress During These Chaotic Time

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  • Do you want to control your stress?
  • Have you been frustrated about being home 24/7 with your family during the pandemic of 2020?
  • Are the negativity and judgment starting to drive you crazy?
  • Do you want to find time for yourself between all the zoom meetings?
  • Is it time to change this?

If so please keep on reading!  There is a solution, I promise!

A friend and colleague of mine, Tom Borg owner of  Tom Borg Consulting, just gave me a stress quotient assessment from TTI.  Find out more about the STRESS Quotient below:

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This is an easy assessment and I found it very helpful!  Reach out to me if you want to discover what you need to change in order to control your stress. Call my cell: 248.310.6998 or send an email:  Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com

What did the assessment say about Joyce’s stress?

There was NO surprise with the results yet the evaluation was necessary for me to see how I could control my stress better. The stress quotient showed that I’m in control of my day except in one area – meetings.  I don’t know about you, the last few months I’ve been on at least 3-6 zoom meetings each day.  I wanted to be in most of the meetings.  I took online courses on how to improve videos, engage clients during my online courses, 2 mastermind groups, plus connecting with clients.  These are all good reasons to be on zoom calls.

Once I saw the results I knew I needed to make a change.  I was starting to feel the pressure at the end of the day.  I figured out what I needed to change when I talked to Tom about my results.  I had to change directions.  One of my mastermind groups met daily at noon.  I was starting to resent the daily meetings even though they were always productive.  I took a risk during one of the sessions and shared my concern about being on these mastermind meetings daily.  The other members felt the same way and were in agreement to meet only 2 days per week.

The secret?  Boundaries

My challenge to you is to figure out where you need to set boundaries in your personal and professional life.   I already shared mine with you.
What conversations do you need to have to discuss setting boundaries and control your stress?  Please share what you need to do to take care of your time for you.

Let’s have a great discussion by including your thoughts in the comment area.  You know I will respond.  😉  Feel free to send me a private email if you want to go deeper.

Until next time,

My name is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

I coach clients how to reduce drama and find more peace by kicking conflict to the curb! Now let’s go do it. :)

 

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A Motivational Video about Inner Stress

Have you ever watched a motivational video that spoke to you?  Where the story seemed personalized just for you?

It seems that the best motivational videos appear on my screen at the right times.  I’m writing this article during the pandemic in May 2020.  We are all living in fear yet there are opportunities happening all the time if we just look for them.

  •      Cooking innovate meals with the family
  •      Eating meals together
  •      Dividing chores up while listening to our favorite music
  •      Zoom parties with family or friends
  •      Spending quality time outside
  •      Taking an online course

The motivational video below is one of my favorite stories about a Cherokee grandfather talking about life with his grandson.  Hope you enjoy it also.

Motivational Video Story

A Cherokee grandfather was having a deep conversation with his grandson about life.  The grandfather said, “There is an inner fight going on within me between the bad wolf and good wolf.  The bad wolf is mean, selfish, negative, and a bully.  The good wolf is caring, supportive, positive, and generous.  There’s the same inner fight going on within everyone including you.”  The grandson asks, “Which wolf wins?” The grandfather says, “It depends on the one you feed.”  motivational video

Motivational Video Interpretation by Joyce

I’ve told this story many times to clients who are stuck either with relationships or careers.  They see the meaning immediately when the realization is that most of the time they are feeding the bad wolf.  We then discuss their action steps on how to start feeding the good wolf.  A great first step is to realize how much time we spend feeding the bad wolf.

We can all stop our inner fights as long as we are willing to change this pattern.  It’s not easy to do because there is so much negativity in the world.  It’s hard work to concentrate on the “good wolf.”  Don’t let the negative ones influence you.  Remember, “Don’t walk from negative people – RUN!”

Stay Connected with Me

Add a comment to my blog on how you either feed the good or bad wolf.  How do you protect your “good wolf?”  How does this motivational video speak to you?

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email
with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Do you Want More Info on Inner Stress?

Read more articles and listen to podcasts at our Conflict in the Workplace Knowledge Page https://www.joyceweiss.com/resources/knowledge-base/conflict-resolution-in-the-workplace/

 

Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Career Advancement is like riding a bike. Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!
Find your voice with Joyce!

 

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One of My Favorite Quotes About Life

Jeannette Walls – American author and journalist widely known as a former gossip columnist for MSNBC.com wrote a powerful memoir,  The Glass Castle. She describes her nomadic childhood and kept this lifelong secret of growing up with her three siblings and having to eat butter for dinner, make her own braces, and suffer the whims of her artistic mother and alcoholic father.  It took her a while to release the book because she feared that she would get ostracized once it was revealed.  The total opposite happened.  The Glass Castle is a New York Times bestseller.

Jeannette Walls was asked if she forgave her parents.  This is her answer:  “It’s finding the good and being able to leave the bad behind.  It’s not even a matter of forgiveness.  It’s more a matter of acceptance because I’ve had the life I’ve had and nothing is going to change that, it wasn’t so bad.  There were wonderful things and there were horrible things, and you accept it.  My parents had lovely qualities and maddening qualities.

The quote below is from Jeannette Walls.  Please share your reaction to her words and what they mean to you.

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Secrets From a Career Coach to Gain More Control at Work and Home

As a Career Coach, several of my clients wanted me to help them identify how they can do more with less in a new way…to change their status quo. They described how they felt like gerbils constantly running on a wheel…going no where! After doing a couple of pilot programs, we discovered key questions that people enjoyed answering on how to change their routine.

This article is a description of one of my programs – The New Normal: Doing More with Less. I hope that the information will help you solve some of your own issues at work. Leaders and their employees are maxed out with new demands on resources. I challenge you to think about important changes so you can gain control of your hectic life! Creative thinking is a necessity to keep up with constant change and expectations. We all have the same 24 hours in our day. We need to figure out how to work as productively as possible and change the way we have done things in the past. You will learn strategies to keep up with the workload without burning out. I look hearing your comments and questions! 🙂

Career Coach Secret # 1: Balance – I’m stuck in high gear

  1. What boundaries do you set for yourself at work to achieve balance in your personal life?
  2. What boundaries do you need to set for yourself at work?
  3. What systems do you use to identify what is important to whom and when?
  4. How do you weed out or stop things that aren’t working and recharge with a new program alignment?

Career Coach Secret #2: Fun -“Look, Ma – no hands!” Give yourself permission to have fun

  1. What issues/barriers are hindering you from creating a positive work environment?
  2. How do you keep your staff, team, and YOU from burning out?
  3. What does your organization do to encourage life prioritization?

Career Coach Secret # 3: Strategies from Joyce Weiss

  1. Which questions above speak to your specific needs?
  2. Select only 2-3 questions and decide what action steps you need to take to gain more control in your life.
  3. Discuss your new ideas with someone who you trust and set mutual goals and times to reconnect.
  4. Feel free to send your ideas to me at Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com and I will send you a response.
  5. What strategies do you use to gain control balancing your personal life?

I want to hear from you.
What action steps will you take as a result of reading this article?
CLICK HERE to send me your questions about your own work life balance.

Interested in More Resources to Watch Your Career Grow?

Check out my new Communicate with Impact Self-Study Program Workbook. This workbook is a compilation of 30 years of experience as a Career Coach and Communication Strategist.
I created this powerful step-by-step self-guided workbook to specifically help the hundreds of business people like you, who continually contact me for expert communication advice on:

  • Improving personal work relationships
  • Management’s interaction with workflows
  • Leadership’s ability to be clear and transparent abut their goals
  • Replacing stress points they face every day with positive outcomes.
    Career Coaching the Communicate with Impact Self-Study Program WorkbookWe just launched this powerful workbook and you will be among the first to review the content and possibly order it. CLICK HERE to learn how you can take a huge leap this year in your career. It’s a great way to learn the newest strategies very fast without having to go anywhere. You can learn at your own pace from anywhere.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Career Coach

You can start tackling tough conversations with bullies, different generations, and even narcissists once you learn the powerful strategies. I will do whatever it takes to help you improve your quality of life.

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, and on line career and life coaching.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

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Are YOU A Target for A Bully?

mean little boyI’m creating a new workshop on 2 difficult people who are creating a lot of stress for my clients.  Think for a moment who these may be.  If you guessed Bullies and Narcissists you’re correct.  The next few blogs will contain new information about these 2 personality disorders with “possible” strategies on how to deal with them.  I said possible because at times there are NO solutions if the bully or narcissist is high on the personality disorder charts.

I started thinking about my own life and if I was ever a target.  I was surprised when I realized that I was a target not too long ago.  I didn’t even realize this until I started doing research for my clients.  Stay tuned because I will share my story to start you thinking IF you have also been a target. 

Facts About Bullies

Bullies don’t have to throw a single punch to do lasting damage to another person’s health…or your business’s fiscal health.

  • Bullying is experienced by more than 1/3 of the US workforce
  • Bullying is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment

The majority (68%) of bullying is same gender harassment
 

What is it? Bullying is VIOLENCE

  • Verbal abuse, intimidation, humiliation
  • Sabotage over a significant amount of time
  • Could be bosses, coworkers, friends, relatives, or clients
  • Mistreatment is severe enough to compromise a worker’s health
  • Interpersonal destruction

It’s All about the Bully’s personal agenda


Kinds of Bullies

  • The screaming or verbal bully: screams or throws things:
          words hurt & they humiliate the target
  • The constant critic: Bullies say how incompetent the target is which can cause career destruction
  • The 2 headed snake: destroys by spreading rumors with work teams
  • The gatekeeper: controls by withholding resources necessary for targets to succeed
  • The sadistic or narcissistic bully: lacks empathy towards others
  • The physical bully: action oriented
  • The serial bully: bully seems charming while the target is looked upon as a whiny victim
  • Gang bullies: enjoy being part of the gang

     

     AM I Being Bullied?

  • You are miserable
  • Your work is sabotaged
  • You’re caught off guard and think about the ramifications later on
  • Lack of scars make others think you (the target) is exaggerating

     


    Why me?

  • The best and brightest are targeted
  • You pose a threat somehow to someone who is not developed as a moral human being

     
    Who Gets targeted?

  • Unlike schoolyard bullying, you were not targeted because you were a “loner” without friends to stand up to the bullying gang
  • You’re not a weakling
  • You were targeted because you posed a threat to him or her
  • This is in the mind of the bully
  • Targets are more technically skilled than the bully
  • Targets are better liked and have better social skills
  • Targets have a sense of integrity

Stay tuned for the next blog which will explore why employers make Bullying worse and what the best and brightest companies are doing to put a stop to this epidemic.


 I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me when you were targeted by a bully.  Did you resolve the situation or not? 


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CLICK HERE to take the easy and fun Communicate with Impact Quiz. You will get your results immediately and learn more about setting boundaries with bullies and to be more effective at work and in your life. Sound good?
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Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831