I’m creating a new workshop on 2 difficult people who are creating a lot of stress for my clients.  Think for a moment who these may be.  If you guessed Bullies and Narcissists you’re correct.  The next few blogs will contain new information about these 2 personality disorders with “possible” strategies on how to deal with them.  I said possible because at times there are NO solutions if the bully or narcissist is high on the personality disorder charts.

I started thinking about my own life and if I was ever a target.  I was surprised when I realized that I was a target not too long ago.  I didn’t even realize this until I started doing research for my clients.  Stay tuned because I will share my story to start you thinking IF you have also been a target. 

Facts About Bullies

Bullies don’t have to throw a single punch to do lasting damage to another person’s health…or your business’s fiscal health.

• Bullying is experienced by more than 1/3 of the US workforce
• Bullying is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment

The majority (68%) of bullying is same gender harassment
 

What is it? Bullying is VIOLENCE

• Verbal abuse, intimidation, humiliation
• Sabotage over a significant amount of time
• Could be bosses, coworkers, friends, relatives, or clients
  
• Mistreatment is severe enough to compromise a worker’s health
• Interpersonal destruction

It’s All about the Bully’s personal agenda

Kinds of Bullies

• The screaming or verbal bully: screams or throws things:
        words hurt & they humiliate the target
• The constant critic: Bullies say how incompetent the target is which can cause career destruction
• The 2 headed snake: destroys by spreading rumors with work teams
• The gatekeeper: controls by withholding resources necessary for targets to succeed
• The sadistic or narcissistic bully: lacks empathy towards others
• The physical bully: action oriented
• The serial bully: bully seems charming while the target is looked upon as a whiny victim
• Gang bullies: enjoy being part of the gang

   

   AM I Being Bullied?

• You are miserable
• Your work is sabotaged
• You’re caught off guard and think about the ramifications later on
• Lack of scars make others think you (the target) is exaggerating

   

  
  Why me?

• The best and brightest are targeted
• You pose a threat somehow to someone who is not developed as a moral human being

   
  Who Gets targeted?

• Unlike schoolyard bullying, you were not targeted because you were a “loner” without friends to stand up to the bullying gang
• You’re not a weakling
• You were targeted because you posed a threat to him or her
• This is in the mind of the bully
• Targets are more technically skilled than the bully
• Targets are better liked and have better social skills
• Targets have a sense of integrity

Stay tuned for the next blog which will explore why employers make Bullying worse and what the best and brightest companies are doing to put a stop to this epidemic.

 I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me when you were targeted by a bully.  Did you resolve the situation or not? 


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Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

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Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

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