Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Managing Upward to Develop Your Career

One of my favorite parts of my job as a career coach is to help clients develop their career.  I was just hired to create a workshop for a client who wants me to work with her emerging leaders.  The group has been together for a few years and some of them have been promoted into leadership roles.  This blog post will cover three strategies that I will share with this impressive group.

Develop  Your Career Strategy #1:  What Leaders Have Influenced You?

Take a moment and ask yourself the following questions: Develop your career growth | Joyce Weiss
1.  Who is the most dynamic leader who has influenced you?
2.  Why did you select that person?
3.  What did you learn from this person?
4.  What challenges have you experienced as a leader or with your own leaders?

Once you answer these questions you will have a good idea on who has influenced you.  Take the positive experiences and add them to your toolbox.

Develop Your Career Strategy #2:  Assess the Quality of Your Relationship with Your Boss

  1.  What do you get from each other?
  2. Do you consistently get what you expect from him or her?
  3. To what extent do you enjoy this person’s company?
  4. How much do you respect him or her as a person?
  5. How much do you trust him or her with personal matters?
  6. What conversation do you need to have with your boss to help you develop your career?

If you are fortunate to have a good relationship with your boss, you will be able to share ideas on how to save money or improve productivity.  It’s time to get noticed.  If you don’t toot your own horn, who will?
Once you have your own team, remember these questions so you can develop an open and trusting relationship with them.

Develop Your Career Strategy #3:  Change Your Negative Self-Talk so You Can Move Forward code of conduct | develop your career growth

  1.  Change the following sentence from, “I have a mean boss” to “I need to discuss how my boss could help me be more effective.  I need to let my boss know what I need from her so I can give her what she wants.”
  2. Change the following sentence from, “I can’t motivate my people” to “I have to determine what I need to do to engage my team.”
  3. Change the following sentence from, “I don’t receive promotions” to ” I need to find out what I need to do to receive a promotion.”

People stay stuck when they constantly feed negative thoughts into their mind.  Listen to your self-talk and ask yourself what you need to start saying to yourself so you can develop your career.

Who can you speak to when you don’t have a good working relationship with your boss so you can learn what you need to do to develop your career?  We are in charge of our careers and it’s up to us to work around challenges that may be stopping our promotions or professional growth.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you have developed your career.  How have you worked around a negative boss who tried to stop you from developing your career?  What stories or expressions help you?

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

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Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, Career Coach & Corporate Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What You Tolerate!  

 

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Why Work with a Career Coach?

This article describes reasons why clients work with a career coach.  The question below is a good way to start! 🙂

Are there people who drive you crazy?  You know who I’m talking about!

  • Narcissists who are full of drama –  it’s always about them
  • Bullies who start gossip threads, tease others, or control meetings
  • Your boss whose a micromanager
  • Lackluster direct reports
  • A team that’s jealous of your promotion
  • And so on and so on!

This blog post will give you ideas either for you, your direct reports, or colleagues on the benefits of working with a career coach.

Why clients work with a career coach

  • To develop their leadership skillscode of conduct | career coach
  • To reduce stress and resolve conflict
  • To become a master communicator
  • To find a better place to work to hone their skills

I want to make sure that people feel comfortable working with me.  We set up a FREE introductory session to explain how career coaching works.  They also have a chance to describe their conflict and expectations.  I encourage people to ask questions to make sure that we are a good fit for each other.

Here are a few comments on why clients work with a career coach

  • I avoid problems and don’t like conflict
  • I wish I could handle tough situations better
  • I dodge certain people
  • I stop myself from promotions because my fear of risk gets in the way
  • I need to become a stronger leader

Who are good candidates to work with a career coach?

  • Senior-level executives
  • Managers
  • Directors
  • Emerging leaders
  • Individuals who want to develop their career

What to expect when working with a career coach?

  • Sessions are conducted on the phone to fit the clients’ schedule.  We create sessions that last 30-60 minutes
  • Clients can check in with me as often as they want via email between sessions to ask questions
  • Clients develop their individual communication plan to fit their specific needs
  • Behavioral assessments may be used to reinforce their communication strengths and areas of improvement
  • Clients set accountability goals with the career coach to ensure productive actions are taken

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on questions about working with a career coach.  How have you or your company used career coaches?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address career advancement skills here.

 

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

 

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Next week I will share inspiring stories of people who worked with me and the results that they achieved.  I received permission from all of them that I could share their experiences! 😉

 

 

 

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Communication Strategies to Use with Someone who Didn’t Receive a Promotion

Communication strategies will be the topic for the next few posts.  You will find case scenarios taken from recent Be Direct with Respect® workshops.

The following Topics will be covered:

  • How to deal with someone who constantly complains about being passed over for a promotion
  • How to have a tough conversation with a direct report who brings problems from home to work
  • Having a direct conversation about mediocrity
  • How negativity lowers morale

Have you dealt with any of the following issues?

  • A colleague didn’t receive a promotion and you don’t know what to say.
  • You want to tell a productive direct report that she needs to develop a couple of skills.
  • A friend is dwelling on how he was passed over a promotion.  You want to suggest that he moves on in order to look for more opportunities and not be so negative.

This article has 2 communication strategies to help you support a friend, colleague or direct report.

Communication Strategy #1:  Make the conversation safe

Make the conversation safe by starting it out with I do want – I don’t want.executive coach| communication strategies

Here are a few examples:

I don’t want to minimize the effort that you are making.
I do want to discuss how to improve your performance.

I don’t want to discourage you.
I do want to help you with your career.

I don’t want to dwell on what didn’t happen.
I do want to encourage you to look at this as an opportunity to refocus on career development.

I don’t want to lose you as an engaged member of our team.
I do want to discuss efforts to improve your future opportunities.

I don’t want to downplay the importance of what the promotion meant to you.
I do want to remind you of your strengths and all the things you bring to the team.

I hope that you get the idea.  You can make the conversation safe by using this strategy.  You can also change the words around by using I don’t want at the beginning or start out with I do want.  Everyone’s comfort level is different.

Communication Strategy #2:  Use Be Direct with Respect®

Be direct with respect® is a powerful communication strategy that allows you to be direct in a respectful way.  It is a communication strategieslearned skill; a willingness to risk rejection by communicating directly, yet gently.  It deepens relationships and resolves issues.
I am  ___________________
(Your emotional response)

When I __________________
(Non-judgmental)

Because __________________
(How it affects you)

I am concerned when I see you so down about not getting promoted because I believe you can get past this and achieve your goals.

I am concerned when I see your frustration because you can move forward in the organization.

I understand your situation when I see you disappointed because I want to see you keep going in the right direction.

These 2 communication strategies will give you a plan on how to approach this delicate subject with someone who may need some support.  Find more communication strategies in the search option of this blog.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you have helped someone who didn’t get a promotion.  Let me know what other communication or conflict resolution topics you want me to write about to fit your specific needs. You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email HERE with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

 

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address conflict resolution in the workplace here.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

 

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One of my Favorite Quotes about Excellence

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#excellence

Many people ask me how I define success.  Success is being prepared, working smart, not giving up, surrounding yourself with open-minded people, and constant learning.  Excellence is part of the equation.

We all work with people who do things just to get by.  There are times when certain people just can’t push themselves to be the best that they can be.

Leaders have the tough job of deciding who stays and who needs to be dismissed. I help leaders manage mediocre employees who need that extra motivation.  Training is definitely an answer for some employees.  At times nothing seems to help.

How have you turned around a mediocre employee to become the department’s star?

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Exclusive Communication Skills at Work™ #4-Use Certain Words to Help You Be Direct with Respect®

 

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Hi there and thanks for joining me again to read my latest blog post!

As you may know, I created a premier program called Communication Skills at Work™ that is designed for anyone on the corporate ladder for career advancement or resolving conflict in their workplace.

Below you will find links to the last three blogs, I shared about powerful content clients will learn from Communication Skills at Work:

Week One:  The Importance of Be Direct with Respect® in the Work Place

Week Two: Use Constructive Feedback to Get Necessary Results

Week Three:  Protecting Yourself when Others Push Your Hot Buttons.

This week I’ll preview the fourth chapter of the program: Use Certain Words to Help You Be Direct with Respect®.

In addition to the program manual and self-study guide, I offer full phone coaching depending on your budget and time frame. Read here for all the details.

Now, let’s dive in and talk about why it’s so important to Use Certain words to Help You Be Direct with Respect®.

Learner Objectives for Week Four

  • How to ask for what you need, build self-esteem, and Analyze childhood messagesCommunication Skills at Work
  • How to change a negative self-image to use Be Direct with Respect
  • Questions to ask to Be Direct with Respect
  • Build trust to use Be Direct with Respect

My favorite quote about communication is one from Martin Luther King Jr.
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

The following guidelines will help you strengthen your communication:

  • Remove but and replace it with and.
  • Use I statements as often as possible and forget about using YOU statements.  I promise not to turn you into a narcissist using this strategy!  Using the word you tends to make the other person defensive.
  • Don’t get sidetracked. Here is an example showing you why Be Direct with Respect is so powerful:

     The Aggressive Approach:
“You embarrassed me in front of our department when you told them about my speeding ticket.”

     The Be Direct with Respect Approach:
“I was embarrassed when the group heard about my speeding ticket because I told you that in confidence.”

Be Direct with Respect helps participants feel more confident because the technique is easy to learn and the results are long-lasting.  People use this strategy to build trust and earn respect from anyone on the corporate ladder.

Week Four consists of several activities to help you discover your communication strengths and areas of improvement.

Week Four ends with a Final Project that we plan together

Communication Skills at Work

This is where we take all of the skills learned in the course and put them into practice.  We explore a tough situation that needs to be resolved and design a realistic course of action.

Participants who take the course use their own case scenarios and we practice together until they feel confident to use this valuable strategy on their own.  I am here 24/7 via email.  This coach is dedicated to each client’s success! 😊

Thanks again for taking the time to read my blog. I love receiving questions and comments, so please feel free to contact me or leave a comment!

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

And again, if Communication Skills at Work sounds like something that could help you or your company, check out this link for more information or contact me here.

I look forward to assisting you in your Communication Skills at Work learning experience and watching how you grow your new skills to create the positive changes in your life you deserve!

Reducing conflict is like riding a bike:  Shift gears to successfully navigate life’s potholes, ruts, and obstacles.

 

 

 

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831