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February 23, 2021 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

A Powerful Interview with Kristie Stocker About Leadership and Purpose

Hey, Dear Readers of Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update! 🙂

Are you ready to learn information that you can share at work about leadership and purpose?

I met our guest speaker at a National Speaker’s Association meeting a few years ago. I knew our paths would cross because she was full of energy, leadership skills, and so much fun.  Pop some popcorn and learn from Kristie Stocker – success coach and leadership speaker.

Here’s the video.

Here are the Questions that I asked Kristie About Leadership and Purpose:

{You will find more details on the video – this is the readers’ digest portion. :)}

1.  The word purpose is thrown around all the time, it seems a bit “woo”. Is it really that important to weave into the business world?
Kristie’s Answer:  “Purpose for the team AND company is necessary.”

2.  Can someone’s purpose change?
Kristie’s Answer:  “Yes! Different life experiences, situations, and happiness equals innovation.  Individuals and companies change their purpose due to so many factors.

3.  What happens when they don’t have a sense of purpose?
Kristie’s answer:  “Tell-tale signs like turnover, lack of engagement, no sense of community, and even mental health are all influences on purpose.

4.  What can leaders do to connect more with their purpose?
Kristie’s answer: “Don’t be afraid to ask the tough questions and go deep.”

5. How can leaders help their employees?
Kristie’s answer: “Understand motivators, personalities, pair their strengths, coach them to grow, and don’t be afraid to let them go.”

About Kristie Stocker

Kristie comes with 20 years of past experience in corporate communications for a multi-billion dollar corporation and has been coaching driven professionals since 2002 to advance their self-leadership skills to unbelievable levels.  Her clients like Bosch, Lockheed-martin Leadership Association, Institute of Management Accountants, and National Management Association know Kristie as the expert in helping them become excuse-breaking, fear-crushing, goal-exceeding leaders.

When she’s not mentoring high-achievers to be rock star leaders or hosting her leadership show, “Kristie TV” on YouTube, she’s helping clients connect with their powerful purpose.

Here’s how to get in touch with Kristie:
https://KristieStocker.com
HTTP://Kristietv.com

Let’s Stay Connected!

What are some of your questions about the interview?  Those of you who share either in the comment section below or send me an email will receive a new video (that I have not posted yet) about using props to engage your virtual meetings. It’s short and contains tips to liven up your virtual meetings.

Hey, Dear Readers, I’m here for you when you have questions about your own communication or relationship “challenges.” Feel free to send me an email. Full disclosure here:  I don’t charge anything when people send me questions or comments via email. Staying connected is what it’s all about for me.

Have a Great Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Career Advancement is like riding a bike: Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!

P.P.S. Here’s a link to a past post that pairs well with this article on The Importance of Humility

P.P.P.S. If you need more clarity and direction on becoming a more confident and purposeful leader, book a FREE 50-minute leadership session with Kristie. You’ll discuss your current challenges, goals, and exact next steps you can take to be the leader you’re meant to be. Spots are limited for these sessions so book it here: https://kristiestocker.as.me/leadership50

 

 

 

Filed Under: Coaching Strategies, Collaboration Strategies, Leadership Consulting
Tagged With: career development, leadership

March 26, 2019 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Managing Upward to Develop Your Career

One of my favorite parts of my job as a career coach is to help clients develop their career.  I was just hired to create a workshop for a client who wants me to work with her emerging leaders.  The group has been together for a few years and some of them have been promoted into leadership roles.  This blog post will cover three strategies that I will share with this impressive group.

Develop  Your Career Strategy #1:  What Leaders Have Influenced You?

Take a moment and ask yourself the following questions: Develop your career growth | Joyce Weiss
1.  Who is the most dynamic leader who has influenced you?
2.  Why did you select that person?
3.  What did you learn from this person?
4.  What challenges have you experienced as a leader or with your own leaders?

Once you answer these questions you will have a good idea on who has influenced you.  Take the positive experiences and add them to your toolbox.

Develop Your Career Strategy #2:  Assess the Quality of Your Relationship with Your Boss

  1.  What do you get from each other?
  2. Do you consistently get what you expect from him or her?
  3. To what extent do you enjoy this person’s company?
  4. How much do you respect him or her as a person?
  5. How much do you trust him or her with personal matters?
  6. What conversation do you need to have with your boss to help you develop your career?

If you are fortunate to have a good relationship with your boss, you will be able to share ideas on how to save money or improve productivity.  It’s time to get noticed.  If you don’t toot your own horn, who will?
Once you have your own team, remember these questions so you can develop an open and trusting relationship with them.

Develop Your Career Strategy #3:  Change Your Negative Self-Talk so You Can Move Forward code of conduct | develop your career growth

  1.  Change the following sentence from, “I have a mean boss” to “I need to discuss how my boss could help me be more effective.  I need to let my boss know what I need from her so I can give her what she wants.”
  2. Change the following sentence from, “I can’t motivate my people” to “I have to determine what I need to do to engage my team.”
  3. Change the following sentence from, “I don’t receive promotions” to ” I need to find out what I need to do to receive a promotion.”

People stay stuck when they constantly feed negative thoughts into their mind.  Listen to your self-talk and ask yourself what you need to start saying to yourself so you can develop your career.

Who can you speak to when you don’t have a good working relationship with your boss so you can learn what you need to do to develop your career?  We are in charge of our careers and it’s up to us to work around challenges that may be stopping our promotions or professional growth.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you have developed your career.  How have you worked around a negative boss who tried to stop you from developing your career?  What stories or expressions help you?

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

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Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, Career Coach & Corporate Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What You Tolerate!  

 

Filed Under: Career Development, Professional Development
Tagged With: career development, communicate with your boss, leadership

November 13, 2018 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Do Your Leaders Know How to Stop Bullies at Work?

Do you hear the following comments?

  • There are no bullies in our department 
  • Women have to learn how to play with the “boys”
  • People are too sensitive these days

These are all red flags that need to be taken seriously.  Just because you don’t hear colleagues or employees complain about bullies, doesn’t mean that bullies don’t exist at work.  As a trainer, I’ve discovered that bullies are lurking in the halls.  They may not be loud as on a playground.  I report on the reality about bullies and promote respect in the workplace.

You will find strategies to use when you hear the 3 comments above in your workplace.

Dealing with Bullies Strategy #1:  Look deeper when you hear, “There’s nothing wrong in our department.”

If you are a leader ask your team members individually if they have observed or have been a victim of bullies in your workplace.  Hopefully, your team will be honest.  It’s another story if you are one of the bullies!

I ask the question before my Be Direct with Respect® workshops.  More than often, the answer is “Yes”.  There are bullies and nothing ever gets addressed.”  I share the interviews during the training (only when 3 or more people respond the same way).  Many times people don’t even realize that they shake their heads up and down when I ask if they experience bullies at work.

Dealing with Bullies Strategy #2:  How to respond when there are prejudicial comments at work. bullies

Leaders need to stop people when they hear team members harass others concerning gender, minorities, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.  Besides preventing lawsuits, how about creating a respectful workplace!

I find that some leaders don’t have the skills to stop these comments.  They may even ignore them or discount employees who make a complaint.

Leaders are role models.  I suggest that they contact their HR department or review legal documents to tell their team that discrimination can’t be tolerated.  There is no gray area.  One of the most rewarding parts of my career is helping leaders become better at what they do.  Direct communication and expressing expectations are part of their job – no compromise on this!

Dealing with Bullies Strategy #3:  How to deal with others who discount the harassment. sarcasm | bullies

If a recipient feels that he or she is being bullied – they are telling their truth.  Period.  It has nothing to do with being too sensitive.  Some people think that sarcasm is their culture.

If everyone is sarcastic on your team, it may work.  I’m very sarcastic.  I also know that sarcasm can’t be used when someone finds my comments hurtful. There is a fine line in teasing and being mean.

Leaders need to train the entire staff about respect.  This is the new normal.  Several weeks ago I presented to a group and an interviewee told me, “Joyce I hope you are not going to take our sarcasm away.  That’s how we operate  here.”  I told her that I won’t be wearing pearls or white gloves.  I will be sharing information from interviews that show that bullies exist and they need to be addressed.  After the training, this individual thanked me for bringing this to her attention and for educating her about the importance of knowing your audience when using sarcasm.

Joyce’s Thoughts

Leaders may not realize that there are bullies in their workplace.  They can see physical injuries yet can’t see emotional injuries.  Quiet colleagues or employees may not report bullying right away because they may fear retaliation.  Look for signs.  Are people more depressed or is their job performance going down the tubes?

Ask bullies to think of their kids, nieces, nephews or sisters:  how would they like it if bullies harassed them?
I ask bullies to put their mother or father on their shoulders (if they respect their parents).

This is the time for all of us to do a better job of paying attention to the workplace culture.  Bullies need to be addressed and victims need encouragement to express their concerns without the fear of retaliation.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your leaders address bullies. You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email HERE with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address workplace bullying here.

 

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…“You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

 

Filed Under: bullies at work, harassment
Tagged With: bullying in the workplace, leadership

September 18, 2018 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Be in Charge When Bullies at Work Attack You or Others

The title is a bold one.  The more research I do on bullies at work, the more convinced I am that we need to deal with these mean-spirited people.  I work with some leaders who admit that they are intimidated by bullies at work and just ignore them.  This occurs more than you may think.  Most people let bullies get away with their rude and dangerous behavior because it’s too risky to confront them.  I get this!  I really do.  I also know how important it is for me to continue to provide training to leaders on this critical matter.

Please let me know which of the strategies below speak to you.

Strategy #1 on Bullies at Work:  Understand What Makes Bullies Tick

  • Bullies reject kind words of collaboration
  • They want to win – not get along with their victims
  • They intentionally hurt others
  • Bullies believe in the philosophy:  It’s my way or the highway

Strategy #2 on Bullies at Work:  Bullies Pursue Their Targetsbullies at work

  • Bullies admire those who stand up to them
  • Bullies push to see how much you can take
  • People who bully the bully get respect

Strategy #3 on Bullies at Work:  Stop Being a Victim

  • Be aware that the bully may get angry when you speak up
  • Decide if it’s worth the risk to stand up for yourself
  • Prepare a response to address the bully if he or she calls you – or others humiliating names

Strategy #4 on Bullies at Work:  The Power is Yours if You are a Leader bullies at work

  • It’s your responsibility to speak up when a bully takes over a meeting
  • Suffering in silence makes things worse
  • You are a role model to your team and will earn their respect when you stop bullies from intimidating others

Let’s Get Real

A friend of mine told me that she didn’t go to her 30th high school reunion because she was the target of several bullies.  She is now a top-level leader and does an excellent job stopping bullies at work from intimidating others.  She is also human and still has scars from her high school days.

I’ve personally dealt with bullies in my adult life.  I’ve used each strategy that I’ve written about in these articles.  It was difficult to recognize that I was playing victim to these bullies at work.  Once I did, things changed immediately.

There you have it – be in charge when a bully attacks.  Stay tuned, I have more to share in future articles.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on a bully at work who still controls you or others.  How can you stop him or her from intimating others?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work HERE.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.  Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

 

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

P.S. Read an article on Is There A Bully at Work Who Makes Your Life Miserable? HERE

 

 

 

Filed Under: bullies at work, bullying in the workplace
Tagged With: bullying in the workplace, leadership

July 16, 2017 By Joyce Weiss Leave a Comment

Leadership Isn’t About Winning

#leadership

#winning

#John Maxwell

Your thoughts?

Joyce Weiss | Executive Coach| Leadership

Filed Under: Coaching as a Leader, favorite quote, favorite quotes
Tagged With: favorite quote, favorite quotes, leadership

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