Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Exclusive Communication Skills at Work™ #3-Protecting Yourself When Others Push Your Hot Buttons

 

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Hi there and thanks for joining me to read my latest blog post!

Check out the links below that I shared last week on the powerful ideas clients will learn from
Week One:  The Importance of Be Direct with Respect® in the Work Place
Week Two:  Use Constructive Feedback to Get Necessary Results.

As you may know, I have created a premier program called Communication Skills at Work™ that helps people “own their own career.”

This week I would like to give you a preview of the third chapter of this program: Protecting Yourself When Others Push Your Hot Buttons.

In addition to the program manual and self-study guide, I offer full phone coaching depending on your budget and time frame. Read more here for all the details.

Now, let’s dive in and talk about why it’s so important to Protect Yourself when Others Push Your Hot Buttons.

Learner Objectives for Week Threecommunication skills at work

  • Master Verbal Aikido and understand the concepts behind it
  • Regularly practice empathy and put yourself in the other person’s shoes
  • Be accountable when things go wrong and avoid the need to explain or defend yourself
  • Take risks and be confident when speaking up
  • Learn how to respectfully say NO

What do you do when someone says something that pushes your button or is unkind?

Do you:

  • Defend yourself?
  • Become silent?
  • Think about the perfect response on the way home?
  • Say something you wished you hadn’t said?

Week Three will help you protect yourself and prepare your for the next time someone attacks you verbally.

Verbal Aikido is the Key Communication Skills at Work

Verbal Aikido is like verbal martial arts.  The winner pulls away and is the stronger one.  Using Aikido helps you diplomatically deal with difficult people.

Here’s a classic story that illustrates this powerful strategy.
When Senator Robert Kennedy was selected to be Attorney General, he knew that the press was going to push him.

A journalist asked, “Senator Kennedy, what gives you the right to be Attorney General of the United States?”  Senator Kennedy responded by saying, “That’s a great question.  You have to go to a good school, know a lot of people and have a brother who’s President of the United States.”

The press pulled back and laughed.  Robert Kennedy was prepared.  The idea is not to push back the person by getting defensive.  Take a deep breath and think about how to respond in a positive way.  You will be in the driver’s seat!

Week Three consists of several activities to give you the ability to say NO so you can set boundaries for yourself.  I receive a lot of positive feedback on this strategy.

People who take the course use their own case scenarios, and we practice together until they feel confident to use this valuable strategy on their own.  I am here 24/7 via email.  This coach is dedicated to each client’s success! 😊

Thanks again for taking the time to read my blog. Please feel free to send your questions or comments to me.  I love hearing from you!

And again, if Communication Skills at Work™ sounds like something that could help you or your company, check out this link for more information or contact me here.

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Career Advancement is like riding a bike:  Shift gears from coasting to owning the road!

 

 

 

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2 Motivational Ideas to Renew Your Vigor and Energy

This is a great time of the year to use motivational ideas to renew your vigor and energy!  Make sure to take some time to reflect on what is and what is not working in your professional or personal life.  Hopefully, the 2 motivational ideas below will help you get you started!

Motivational Ideas #1 to Renew Your Vigor and Energy

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe-German poet, scientist, and statesman said, “We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise, we harden.”

I’m sure that you know people who are bored, depressed or stuck in a rut.  A good indication is when you ask someone how they are doing and in a dull voice, they say, “Oh you know, the same old life.”  Make sure that this isn’t you, and if it is, decide what you need to do immediately to change this mindset!  It can be as easy as reading an uplifting book or going to the movies to enjoy your favorite actor’s talent.

Movement is my middle name.  I recently purchased a desk where I can sit or stand.  It has made a difference in how motivational ideasI feel.  As many of you know, bike riding is one of my favorite things to do during all the MI seasons except the winter.  There is a great tool that makes my bike stationary and I can ride during the winter in the basement.  Movement is something that most of my coaching clients hear me discuss because the benefits are impressive.

Here’s my first question for you:

What have you done or need to do to change, renew, and rejuvenate yourself?

Motivational Ideas #2 to Renew Your Vigor and Energy

I recently saw an ad on TV and wrote it down immediately.  “Five o’clock meetings come and go.  First home runs last forever.”

My son told me years ago, “Mom, we make time for the things we really want to do.”  This hit home when I was going in circles during a  busy time in my career.  I told him how frustrated I was that I couldn’t do all the things that I wanted to do or spend time with my friends.  His strong message was timely.  I thought about the things that were important to me and at that moment made some changes.  I was blinded by my busy schedule and didn’t see that I had choices on how I could spend my precious hours during that busy part of my life.  Setting boundaries is a message that I now share with all of my clients.

Here’s my 2nd question for you:

What is a personal boundary that you need to set for yourself to make sure that you make time to do the things that you want to do?

Let’s Get Real About These 2 Motivational Ideas!

I realize that these 2 ideas are obvious and very basic.  I also know that at times we need to return to the basics to make changes in our life.  Take some time to reflect and ask yourself the 2 questions.

1.  What have you done or need to do to change, renew, and rejuvenate yourself?

2.  What is a personal boundary that you need to set for yourself to make sure that you make time to do the things that you want to do?

I want to hear from you

Send me your questions or comments on how these motivational ideas “speak” to you.  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my loyal readers! 🙂

Please share this and any article that you enjoy.

My advocates like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

P.S. Do you want to discover how our services can help you improve your quality of life?
Read more articles and listen to podcasts at our Executive Coaching Strategies Knowledge Base https://www.joyceweiss.com/resources/knowledge-base/executive-coaching-strategies/

Until next time, Remember…“You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

 

 

 

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My Favorite Quote by Jazz Musician, Miles Davis

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It took me 30 years to become an overnight success.  I figured out that facilitating  HR-related topics including workplace bullying, handling difficult conversations, and offering career advancement coaching are all topics that are part of my DNA! 🙂

I am more focused than ever before and it’s easier for clients to relate to my message.

Please let me know how you relate to this important quote by Miles Davis. 
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Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

 

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Warning:  Use These 6 Tips to Gain Control at Your Own Risk

The Challenge:  How to gain control when the demands on your time seem to never ease up. We’re all struggling to make time for ourselves, maintain friendships, and keep the spark in our love lives. Gain control

How can you determine what you need to be happier and more productive?

The Solution:  Start with these 6 tips to achieve better balance in your life:

Tip One: Gain Control by Searching out a Flexible Employer

Job flexibility is the number one desired corporate benefit. If your company gives new meaning to the word rigid, you may need to look elsewhere – flexible employers do exist!

Pay attention to articles profiling companies that are particularly family-friendly or rated as the best place to work. These companies are a great place to start your job search.

 Tip Two:  Gain Control by Asking and You Shall Receive (Maybe)

If you want a more flexible work arrangement, whether it’s flex time, job sharing, or a shorter workweek, try asking for it – but make sure you’ve done your homework.

For example, if you’re a really productive person, highlight this strength to your manager. Show her you’re worthy of this special consideration. Be prepared to give your boss the details of the new arrangement so he knows you’ve thought it through.

Tip Three: Gain Control by Forming a Work-life Balance Committee Gain control

Form a group to survey coworkers to determine their needs. Gently inform your leaders that creating a flexible environment will be a benefit to the company because their employees will be happier, more creative, and loyal.

Tip Four: Gain Control by Scheduling ‘ME’ Time

If it’s important to you to do a thirty-minute workout three times a week, mark it with permanent marker on your calendar.

There will always be some ‘more important’ work projects that compete for your time, but you need to realize that your personal commitments are just as valuable.  I enjoy looking at my health app at the end of the day to see how many steps I took.

Tip Five: Gain Control by Realizing a Temporary Lack of Balance is Acceptable

Sometimes, you may feel your life is out of balance. Sometimes it’s worth it, like when you go back to school or take the time to care for a child or parent.

If the benefit is bigger than the drawback, then accept it – because you have a new important, temporary priority. In time, you can shift back to a better balance with a new sense of accomplishment.

 Tip Six: Gain Control by Recognizing the Signs of Burnout

When life remains out of balance for an extended period of time, you can suffer from burnout. Are you as tired when you wake up as you were when you went to bed? Do the little pleasures of life fail to satisfy you? Is your productivity waning?

Refresh yourself! It could be something as simple as taking a weekend vacation-or as major as changing careers. The first step is recognizing it, so you can put your life back in balance.  Many of my coaching clients discover that their job is actually killing them from all the stress.  They either have tough conversations with the boss or decide to look for another job.  Burnout is an obvious sign to take seriously.

Gain Control by Reaping the Rewards of a Balanced Life Today!

Determine what your personal and professional needs are and decide if your workplace is meeting them. If it’s not a match, then review the six tips and make the necessary changes. When all the puzzle pieces of life fit together, you will be a better friend, parent, employee, and person.

Do you want more info on how to gain control in your life?

LEARN MORE how Joyce can transform your life and teach you work-life balance through her personal life coaching.

Read more articles and listen to podcasts at our Life Coaching Strategies Knowledge Base https://www.joyceweiss.com/resources/knowledge-base/life-coaching-strategies/

Let us hear your thoughts! 
Please send me your questions on how to improve your working condition.
Share an example on how you have gained control in your life.
I will send you a free personal growth e-workbook when you send me tips that you use.

Career Advancement is like riding a bike:
Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach
And Remember…YOU GET WHAT YOU TOLERATE!

 

 

 

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Life Coaching Strategies: Falling Down Isn’t the Problem

Would you like to learn life coaching strategies the next time you make a mistake or feel stuck in your life?  If so, you are in the right place.  Life is fraught with uncertainty. No matter how hard we try to avoid the potholes, there’s always another obstacle looming on the horizon.

I just coined this quote, Resolving Conflict is just like riding a bike:  Shift gears to successfully navigate life’s potholes, ruts, and obstacles. 

How we recover from our personal and professional mistakes makes all the difference in the world. This article contains information from my second book, Take the Ride of Your Life!  You will find useful tools for making that graceful recovery.

Life Coaching Strategies # 1:  Look at those old patterns life coaching strategies

The obvious mistakes are easy to correct … it’s what we don’t see that causes the most damage. Have you ever noticed certain situations keep popping up? And some problems just get worse?

Start observing your rituals. This will help you decide which patterns are working and which ones are keeping you down.

Life Coaching Strategies #2:  Get some positive feedback

The most valuable and underused tool we have is input from our true friends. Who else can you trust when you’re stuck in a rut?

It’s difficult to recognize our own shortcomings, but a trustworthy friend can gently introduce areas for improvement. Open yourself to hearing what they have to say, and drop the defense mechanisms!

With your eyes newly opened, look for new ways of dealing with habitual mistakes, write down an action plan, and see how it works.

Life Coaching Strategies #3:  Forgive yourself

Our inner voices can be merciless! Forgive yourself. Quit carrying the guilt and shame around like a heavy suitcase. Torturing yourself with past failures helps you achieve … nothing.

Blame is another reason we don’t always get over our mistakes. We blame others for our mistakes, thinking this will shrink our guilt.

Once you get beyond guilt and blame, you can start enjoying the ride.

If you want to gain more tips on new facts about stress, check out the link for your own copy of the
life coaching book, Take The Ride of Your Life! 

I want to hear from you

Send me your questions or comments here on what you do to overcome your mistakes.
You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my loyal readers! 🙂

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve their quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help your organization address life coaching strategies here.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831