Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior | Video 2

Are you ready to discover how to ask strong coaching questions to those difficult people who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior?

If so, this video is for you.

I’ll share a few coaching questions that you can begin using with the person with this difficult condition.
Plus, you’ll learn action steps to take.

You’ll find the link to video 1 in the series “Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior” below this post.

Let’s get real: This conversation won’t be easy. I suggest that you start out easy. This may be a good time for you to bring up coaching to this person If the communication backfires.

Here are a few questions to get you started with those who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior:

  • Do you put off doing things as a way to punish others?
  • What is the truth that needs expressing?
  • What effects does this have on your life/work/relationships?

I use these questions when coaching clients who exhibit passive-aggressive behavior and seek my guidance.
I repeat you can start off using 1 question just to test the water.

Passive-Aggressive Behavior is Usually Tough to Handle on Our Own

  • It isn’t easy to change passive-aggressive behavior
  • Standing up for yourself is difficult
  • Passive-aggressive behavior is an easier way for them to deal with emotions without having to confront the source of their anger.

I hope these strategies will help you to effectively deal with passive-aggressive behavior.

I’m here if you want a private session or to help you create a successful plan and practice the skills you learned in this video.
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send me an email and we can set up a couple of sessions that will reduce your inner peace.

The video below is #1 in the series “Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior. 

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool to feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

Be Well and Happy
and Remember, you get what you tolerate!

The video below is #1 in the series “Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior. 

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2 Ways to Effectively Deal with Passive-Aggressive Behavior | Video 1

Do you work or live with a person who exhibits passive-aggressive behavior?
Are you ready to find out how to communicate with this person in a productive way?

If so this video below is just for you.

Several coaching clients have discussed their challenges dealing with passive/aggressive behavior with either family or colleagues.
I need to be clear that there is passive-aggressive behavior, not people.
This makes it less personable and more manageable.

Definition of Passive-Aggressive Behavior 

Passive-aggressive behavior is expressing negative feelings indirectly instead of openly talking about them.
Additionally, they may feel angry, resentful, or frustrated. But they act neutral, pleasant, or even cheerful. Plus they find indirect ways to show how they really feel.

Do these 3 examples sound familiar to you?

1. A girlfriend was mad at her boyfriend, Bruce. She didn’t tell him that she was upset.
Her passive-aggressive behavior was blasting the volume of the music which was unbearable for Bruce to hear.
Bruce is my client and we discussed this challenging behavior. He now realizes that he needs to speak directly to his girlfriend when she shows these tendencies.

2. An aunt said the following to her niece, Kate: “Kate, I like your new haircut because it makes your face slimmer.”
During our coaching session, Kate practiced how to answer her aunt in future conversations. Kate now understands this behavior. She communicates with her aunt directly and lets her know that comments about her weight are hurtful.

3. Lisa, An HR professional discussed her frustration with a direct report, Jim who was always late to meetings. We explored Jim’s passive-aggressive behavior.
Additionally, Lisa told Jim that he is not invited to future meetings because his behavior is demoralizing to the team. Jim was given one more chance and he caught on very quickly.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

Please comment on how you deal with passive-aggressive behavior in your life.

What are your questions about this frustrating condition?

Stay tuned for the next week’s video which will cover the reasons why people become passive-aggressive, coaching questions to ask them, and how to deal with them.

Thanks for watching

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit with anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Be Well and Happy!
Remember, You Get What You Tolerate!

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You’ve Got to Laugh: Why a Sense of Humor Helps in Dark Times

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I learned why a sense of humor helps in dark times during the death and dying course during my coaching program.

Our professor invited several parents whose children died to speak to our class. 

All of them shared how the one thing that got them through the grieving process was remembering funny events when their children were healthy.

Knowing that the role of humor during dark times had a huge impact on my life when my parents passed away.

I didn’t wear black to their funerals. Additionally, I did what I could to remember the fun times that I shared with my parents. It took a while to get the horrendous thoughts about their illness out of my mind. Once that happened, I was able to concentrate on all the good times that we shared.

Of course, it takes time to grieve for all of us. Humor helped me heal.

Mark Twain is one of my go-to authors when I need to unwind after work. 

His words make me smile and it actually stomps out my stress.

  • What about you?
  • Does humor help you during dark times?
  • How does this post resonate with you?
  • Let’s celebrate humor as much as we can!

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Here’s my calendar. 

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit with anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

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Career Development Tips: Be Your Own Best Advocate |Video

Are you ready to discover career development tips to use for yourself or your direct reports?

Certified Professional Coach, Lori Shook presented the ideas I’m sharing in this video to the World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit.

So how can you help yourself or your direct reports discover how to be their own best advocate?
Here’s a possible strategy:  Discover their internal inner board of directors.

I have used the exercise with coaching clients and the results are stellar.

Human Resource clients consider me their partner: especially when they have no time to coach:

  • Emerging leaders to grow
  • Employees who need to use their voice without losing their cool
  • Managers who need to control difficult team members

The video below gives you ideas to get you started with this unique exercise. 

Here are EASY career development tips to help you identify your internal board of directors

I call this our internal wisdom.

We all have internal voices or characters that influence our behaviors. When we name them, we will be able to use them as resources.

There are NO good or bad board members. Some will be more useful than others at different times.

Here are several of the inner boards that my clients discovered:

  • The energizer
  • Frankenstein
  • Am I good enough?
  • Risk-averse
  • Cheerleader
  • Enjoy the journey
  • Leader
  • Controller

Start by asking these questions to add to your career development tips toolbox: 

  • What is an inner voice that you really trust?
  • Which inner characters help you succeed?
  • What are the inner impulses that get in your way in important situations?

Define your board of directors and give them a name

  • Which of your inner board will help you/hurt you/stop you?
  • Invite the board members you want to use more often
  • Find ways to manage the uninvited ones
  • Take ownership of your behaviors

Look for my video next week which will cover more ideas on your Inner Board.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Here’s my calendar. 

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders, and so much more.

Thanks for reading and watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

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2 Surprising Tips to Make Your Relationships Better |Video

Are you ready for two easy and surprising tips to make your relationships better?

This week’s video shows you how to get better results even during a difficult conversation.

Coaching clients get powerful results after practicing these strategies with me. It’s surprisingly easy.

Stephen R. Covey said, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand: they listen with the intent to reply.”

Improve Your Relationships Tip #1: Explore From the Other Person’s Shoes

Here are two examples:

  • “I’d be pretty mad if I were in your shoes.”
  • “I can see why you may say this.”

These statements show that you are listening deeply. Your relationships will improve when others see that you are really with them.

Make Better Relationships Tip # 2: Propose a Harmonious Outcome

The following examples show you how easy it is:

  • “What bothers you most about the person?”
  • “How can you explain your reason for acting this way?”

You are not judging, just asking two exploratory questions to help the other person resolve his or her situation.

Joyce, What Are Your Thoughts? 

I’m glad you asked. 🙂
Just listen to others communicate. It won’t take long for you to figure out that most people listen only to reply. They are not with the other person and it’s so evident.

Remember Stephen Covey’s quote:
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand: they listen with the intent to reply.”

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.  

Here’s my calendar. 

Let’s reduce your inner stress!

I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. And coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is.

Here’s the link that describes packages that fit with anyone’s budget and schedule.

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

Subscribe to my youtube channel for more communication tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to get great results

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, interviews with thought-provoking HR Professionals and leaders.

Thanks for watching and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831

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