Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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Tips on the Importance of Laughing even During Tough Times

Hello Dear Readers!

Do you know about the importance of laughing?
When’s the last time that you focused on something humorous?
Are you ready to smile – even just for a moment?

If so, please stay right where you are to take a quick moment to use your smile muscles.  I know you can do this! 🙂

Many of you know that most of my writings and coaching are about communicating through conflict. A hidden gem is that HUMOR has always been an important part of my life. I’m NOT a humorist! I am an individual who fights daily to find something positive even during low times in my life. I’m a realist and see that many people have forgotten to look at the good that is also happening right now even during the pandemic. A few of you asked me to write some upbeat articles for the next few articles. Your wish is my command.

The next few posts will be taken from a new site that we’re creating.  The site will give readers FREE quotes and Action Steps on communication, dealing with conflict, positive mindsets, motivation, etc.
The vision is that people who sign up will receive FREE tips and positive news delivered to their email once/week for one year.

You will find 2 of the tips below.  Please comment and answer the questions so we can start communicating with each other on these safe and fun ideas.
I’m all about reducing drama and finding more peace and respect in our life.  I’m not asking for much, right? 🙂

Tips To Be Happy #1 on The Importance of Laughing

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Realize that humor is all around you. You simply need to give yourself permission to find it. Take a moment to think of something that made you smile or laugh recently.
Write down this memory on what made you smile or laugh.

“Humor is a skill. We need to train ourselves to look for and find it.”
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Master Coach & Communication Strategist

The photo is of my grandson Dylan who is now 20 and an engineering student.  It was fun for me to include this crazy photo. I used to dress as a clown and do magic tricks at reading rallies in Detroit.  No, I will not share a photo of me in a clown suit! 🙂

tips to be happy Tips To Be Happy #2 on The Importance of Laughing

Keep a daily humor journal, with a cartoon or story that made you smile. This will help you start looking for cute or funny things that happen every day.
Cut out or download a cartoon or write a story that made you laugh this week.
Send me an email HERE with a cartoon or photo that made you smile and I will send you a surprise!  Can’t tell you what it will be, or it won’t be a surprise. 🙂

Let’s Stay Connected

Let us know if you find these 2 tips helpful or not. I’m here to serve my Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update readers.  If you like these tips you will see more in future posts.
If you like the deeper information that I send, let me know that too. It’s all about making this Blog engaging and something you enjoy receiving weekly.

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Master Coach and Communication Strategist
Queen of Conflict Resolution

Have a GREAT Week!

Remember, You Get What You Tolerate!

PS Stay tuned for a new course that I’m creating on “No More ZZ’s During Your Virtual Meetings.” The back story is alumni from my course Kick Conflict to the Curb asked how I created such engaging meetings (not bragging, just science on how to craft powerful and engaging meetings.) Let me know if this sounds interesting to you.

PPS Check out our updated website JoyceWeiss.com to find out how I can create positive and engaging virtual meetings or master coaching for your team, please reach out to Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com and cell: 248.310.6998
Just imagine –  NO MORE BORING VIRTUAL MEETINGS! 😉

 

 

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My Favorite Quote on Inspiration by Rapper Nipsey Hussle

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Welcome to our new blog readers! Welcome back to my loyal blog readers!

You will find information about the Weiss Success Communication Plan plus so much more in Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Newsletter.  

My favorite quote from Nipsy Hussle is more important now since we have time to evaluate our relationships and life during this pandemic.

I’m no longer a member of several networking associations because there are new groups that are more relevant to my new career in the virtual training world. I joined Video Rock Starz with Gina Carr in February. This group of like-minded coaches and speakers has given me new hope and skills.

Many of you know that I launched a new virtual communication course; Kick Conflict to the Curb; Get the Respect YOU Deserve. These classes have supported participants to evaluate their communication skills and relationships. This is powerful for all of us. I’m launching a new class in January 2021 and if you are curious about it, please send me an email and I will send you information about the launch

WBECS is another group (World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit) that I joined because the top coaches in the world teach us the newest coaching techniques. The benefit for you is that I share the best information that my loyal readers will learn and use in their own life.

Stay Connected to Joyce

What message do you hear from Nipsey Hussle’s motivational quote?

Do you need to work on your “cages” to find new people or groups that fit your new life during these crazy times?

What new groups have you found to satisfy your personal and professional growth needs?

These times are both positive and negative. I encourage all of you to look for new groups or classes to give you hope and even excitement to do and learn something new.

We want to hear from you. Add your comments to the blog or send me a private email at Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com.

 

Have a GREAT Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Master Coach and Communication Strategist

Queen of Conflict Resolution

 

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 

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Even More Coaching Strategies to Improve Your Communication – Part 3

Thanks for the feedback about enjoying parts 1 and 2 of the series “Coaching Strategies to Improve your Communication – Big Time!”

I received this great information from Michael Bungay Stanier who is part of the World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit.  I share the best information from the Summit with you because if I find it fascinating, I sure hope you do too. 🙂

Week 1 is about the Tell It Communicator.  Week 2 describes the Save IT Communicator.  The links to both of the articles are below:

Week 1: The Tell It Communicator Article
Week 2: The Save It Communicator Article

Coaching Strategies #1:  Description of Control It Communicators

Control It Communicators maintain their control 100% of the time.  Tell It Communicators give solutions and are all-knowing. They don’t maintain control as much as the Control It Communicators.
My class – Kick Conflict to the Curb enjoyed an energetic discussion on the difference in all 3 communicators. They had to decide which style was most like them. Last week I revealed that I’m more of a Save It Communicator and rescue family and friends from getting hurt. I now know that they don’t need or appreciate rescuing! Who knew? I thought it was a good thing. Each person has at least one style and could use all 3 at different times. We went deep during the class and discovered that every participant learned that their style had both prizes and punishments.

Coaching Strategies #2:  Punishments of being a Control It Communicatorcoaching strategies

  • You won’t get to the real issues because there is no discussion
  • Bottlenecks are formed due to a lack of open communication, trust, and creativity
  • People who are controlled end up closing down and resentment appears

Coaching Strategies #3:  Prizes of being a Control It Communicator

  • Control It Communicators think that their power will make others feel safe
  • Time is saved because there is not a discussion – not really a prize. 🙁
  • Control It Communicators feel strong and efficient

So Joyce, What Do You Think About Tell It, Save It, and Control It Communicators?

I highly recommend Michael Bungay Stanier’s book, Taming The Advice Monster. It’s a great read. The information from this article came from Michael’s lecture at the Coaching Summit.
At times in our life, we can be all 3 communicators.  We usually use one communication style more than others.

Here’s a great exercise that you can use with your family, work team, or friends – that is if they are open to these kinds of discussions.  First, describe all 3 communication styles.

  • Have everyone decide what kind of communication style they use
  • Ask them to write down what communication style they think the other members use
  • This is the moment when you need to act like a coach
  • Let them know that this discussion needs to be positive without blaming and judgment
  • Hopefully, the discussion will be light-hearted
  • Start discussing the prizes and punishments for all 3 styles.  You will find details in the 3 articles and the 2 links at the end of this article
  • Next comes the best part. Everyone shares how they can change their style and what awareness they learned about themselves

You can always ask me to help you with this exercise during an online customized training for you and your team.  We will have an engaging experience and you will get long-lasting results.  Sound good? Call me at 800.713.1926 or send me an email HERE.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share which communication style you “own!”

  • What did you learn about yourself?
  • How will you use this information to grow professionally?
  • How do you think this style has held you back?

Send me an email HERE if you have a communication issue that you want to resolve.  You are not imposing if you send me information or ask questions. I love connecting with all of you.

Here are the 2 links to the previous articles;
Week 1: The Tell It Communicator Article
Week 2: The Save It Communicator Article

Hope You Have a Great Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Master Coach and Communication Strategist

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

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More Coaching Strategies to Improve Your Communication – Part 2

Are you ready to hear about more coaching strategies?
Do you wonder if your communication patterns get in the way of creating trust with others?
Would you like to see if you are a rescuer who could hinder progress in others?

Ouch! Hopefully, the questions above piqued your interest. 🙂 If so, you are in the right place. 🙂

Last week you read about the work of Michael Bungay Stanier on the TELL IT Communicators. I described the TELL IT Communicator from Michael’s class during the World of Executive and Business Coaching Summit.

Here’s a link to Part 1: Coaching Strategies to Improve Your communication – Big Time!
Michael Bungay Stanier shared that there are 3 types of communicators: Tell IT, Save IT, and Control IT

This article is about the SAVE IT Communicators.

Coaching Strategies #1: SAVE IT Communication Challenges

  • Save IT Communicators are rescuers
  • They keep others from making mistakes
  • Listeners resent SAVE IT Communicators because they become codependent and don’t know how to stop the SAVE IT Communicator
  • They have all the answers

Coaching Strategies #2: SAVE IT Communication Benefits  

  • They are heroes because their purpose is to save everyone from imperfections
  • SAVE IT Communicators think they are helping others from making mistakes

Coaching Strategies #3: SAVE IT Communication Solutions

  • Stay curious and do your best to stop rescuing everyone from making mistakes
  • Realize that success consists of falling down and taking risks
  • Think before you open your mouth
  • Ask yourself if your words help or hinder the success of others
  • See how your new behavior encourages self-growth and autonomy

Joyce, What Do You Think About SAVE IT Communicators?

Full disclosure.  Drum rolls, please.  I am a SAVE IT Communicator. I discussed this awareness with a couple of coaching colleagues.  We discovered that all 3 of us are Save It Communicators. We also realized that it’s time for a change. I am NOT any of these communicators when I coach with clients or in my virtual courses.

My personal life is another story. I decided to make a change and took this awareness as a gift to myself. The last couple of weeks have been more relaxing for me and my family.  I have stopped saying, ” It’s going to be cold, so you better take your jacket.” No More Mrs. Nice Gal!” Let’s face it, it’s up to us to take care of ourselves. Our family consists of all adults. No more babies or teens to rescue for this MASTER Coach! My family has started taking their own jackets. They appreciate the fact that I’m changing – of course, I told them about this and we discussed their patterns also. Hey, it’s only fair, if I change they need to work on their growth also.

Self-awareness is a great first step towards progress.  The good news is once we discover our communication style, we can then make important changes.  Some of them are easy while others are not. I promise, there will be more information on these important coaching strategies to add to your toolbox.

Let’s Hear From You

Let’s hear how you feel about these coaching strategies. Do you see SAVE IT Communicators in your workplace or home? If so, please share your awareness and how this communication style stifles creativity, trust, and growth.

I suggest that you talk about the 3 communication styles after I describe the last one next week.  This can be a great exercise for your department or family. When you have open-minded people, this will work really well. If you have one negative person, wait until that person is not present, or else he or she can ruin the results with their sarcasm and negativity.

The comment section is working! Let’s hear from you.

You can always send me a private email with questions or concerns about the communication conflicts that you are experiencing.

Let’s Stay Connected

Do you want to go deeper and grow professionally to your next level? If so, I have several coaching packages and memberships to fit anyone’s schedule and budget.  I’d love to work with you.
Give me a call to see how coaching can help you or your direct reports to improve relationships, careers, and personal peace!

office: 800.713.1926
cell: 248.325.8101

Just think: No more

  • Drama
  • Silence
  • Not being heard
  • Unresolved tough conversations

Have a great week.

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Here’s the link to part 1 of the series Coaching Strategies to Improve Your Communication

 

 

 

 

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Coaching Strategies to Improve Your Communication – Big Time!

  • Are you ready to hear about new communication and coaching strategies?
  • Do you wonder if your communication patterns get you in trouble without even knowing it?
  • Would you like to know how you can get better results in your communication with just a minor tweak?
  • If so, this article can be a good step for your professional growth journey.

I’m a proud member of WBECS (World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit). Learning from the top master coaches and top communication gurus is something that I cherish.  The benefit for my readers and clients is that I share the BEST coaching strategies that they can put to use in their life. My clients who are taking our virtual communication course: Kick Conflict to the Curb: Get the Respect You Deserve benefit from the latest information that you will find in this article.

Michael Bungay Stanier shared his research for his book, Taming the Advice Monster with the 2000+ Master Coaches during his session. The content is compelling for people who have a growth mindset and know that the “best can only get better!” You are in this category because you signed up for our Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update, plus I know many of you who never stop learning.
Here we go. 🙂

Coaching Strategies #1: There are Three Types of Communication Categories

  1. Tell It
  2. Save It
  3. Control It

You’ll learn about Tell It in this article. Save It and Control It will be covered in the next two weeks. Make sure and read the next two articles to see which style seems more like you. We will go over all three styles so you can see how you can become a master communicator.

Coaching Strategies #2: Tell It Communication Challenges

  • Tell IT Communicators actually stop learning for the listener
  • Listening is nonexistent because the communicator tells others what to do
  • The listener has little confidence because the Tell It communicator only cares about talking and telling-there is no clear intent to support

Coaching Strategies #3:  Tell It Communication Benefits

Tell It Communicators:

  • Look brilliant
  • Save time because solutions are given and not discussed
  • Boost their ego while stopping others from growing

Coaching Strategies #4:  Tell It Communication Solutions

  • Stay curious and do your best to listen and not tell others what to do (this is NOT easy to do – BUT possible :))
  • Slow down your action and advice
  • See how this change in the Tell It Communication encourages self-growth and autonomy

Joyce What Do You Think About Tell It Communicators?

30+ years of coaching clients have shown me that we have many Tell It Communicators. Tell It Communicators are fortunate when their supervisor points out this communication weakness. Self-awareness is a great first step towards progress. The first question I ask new clients is “How do you see yourself as a communicator?” I share the 3 choices of Tell It, Save It, and Control It. At times we show all 3 communication styles. There is usually one choice that we use more often.

Full disclosure: My communication style is NOT Tell It. I will share mine as we continue this discussion for the next 2 weeks. 🙂

The good news is once we discover our communication style, we can then make important changes. Some of them are easy while others are not. I promise, there will be more information on these important
coaching strategies.

Let’s Hear From YOU

Let’s hear how you feel about these coaching strategies. Do you see Tell It Communicators in your workplace or home? If so, please share your awareness and how this communication style stifles creativity, trust, and growth. The comment section is working! It wasn’t for a few weeks until one of my loyal readers let us know.  Thanks! You can always send me a private email with questions or concerns about communication conflicts you are experiencing.

Let’s Stay Connected

Do you want to go deeper and grow professionally to your next level? If so, I have several coaching packages to fit anyone’s schedule and budget. I’d love to work with you.
Call: 800.713.1926
Text: 248.325.8101
Email; Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com

For more information visit my coaching services HERE and let’s go Kick Conflict to the Curb together.  Coaching is also perfect for your direct reports, emerging leaders, and family members who you feel will benefit from working with me for only a few sessions. Clients find that we work hard and fast. My communication system is proven, trademarked, and so darn results-oriented. ;

Don’t take my word, read what a satisfied client has to say:

Joyce is committed to helping you achieve whatever goals you set for yourself. I am very pleased with the results that she has helped me to achieve in both my professional career and my personal life in just three months. It was a great experience working with Joyce and I absolutely recommend her!

– Yadira Batlle-Gomez, Generalist & Spanish Linguist

Have a Great Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

PS Remember, You get what you tolerate!

 

 

 

 

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6737 Oyster Cove
West Bloomfield, MI 48323

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Phone: 1-248-681-5831

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