My Blueprint for Conflict: The Power of “What Don’t I Know?”

• Are you ready to discover my blueprint for conflict?
• Did you ever ask yourself: “Why didn’t I think of this? – after a stressful situation?
• If so, you are in the right place.

Hi. I’m Joyce Weiss, Queen of Conflict Resolution & Communication Coach. I work with Department Managers, growth-minded individuals, and small groups tired of feeling invisible and ignored. And are ready to confidently use their voice without losing their cool. The result is their input is respected and recognized. 

This post has a short video describing a turning point in my career – and created a blueprint for conflict.

The video below is a signature story of how I learned a valuable lesson during a challenging facilitation. Hopefully, you’ll see the value of using curiosity questions after you hear my story. 🙂

You’ll find details on how you can reduce your conflict using this powerful question in the content below. Enjoy, and please share your “aha moment” after watching the video and reading this post. 

Conflicts, whether personal or professional, are an inevitable part of our lives. They arise from differences in perspectives, goals, and values or simply from miscommunication. But the real challenge isn’t the conflict itself but how we respond to it. Over the years, I’ve developed a blueprint for conflict that has revolutionized my approach to disagreements: the power of asking, “What don’t I know?”

1. Embracing Humility

The question “What don’t I know?” is rooted in humility. It acknowledges that our understanding is limited and that there’s always something more to learn. Before rushing to judgments or drawing conclusions, we must step back and realize that we might not have the full picture, just like I had to do during the frustrating facilitation that you saw in the video above.

2. Encouraging Curiosity

This question prompts us to become more curious. Instead of getting defensive, it encourages us to ask open-ended questions and actively listen to the other person’s perspective. How much conflict can be diffused when both parties feel heard and understood is amazing. “What don’t I know? – Makes the conversation 
safer and less judgmental.

3. Building Bridges, Not Walls as your Blueprint for Conflict

The moment we admit our lack of knowledge, we become more approachable. This vulnerability can build bridges of understanding, fostering stronger, more resilient relationships. When both parties in a disagreement are willing to ask this question, it shifts the dynamic from adversarial to collaborative.

Parting Words from Joyce

Conflicts are unavoidable. But by integrating the question “What don’t I know?” into our approach, we can transform these moments of friction into opportunities for understanding, growth, and deeper connections. Next time you find yourself in a disagreement, pause and ask yourself this powerful question. The answers may surprise you, and the resolution will be more fruitful than imagined.

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Who is Joyce Weiss?

Joyce is the Queen of Conflict Resolution and works with Department Managers, Growth-Minded Individuals, and small groups tired of feeling invisible or overlooked and ready to confidently use their voice – without losing their cool. The result is their input and contribution are recognized and respected. And their expertise is in constant demand. 

Are you ready for the next level of support?

Email me at Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com.
I will send you my online calendar to schedule a “Jam with Joyce” complimentary discovery session.

What will you get from the 30-minute call?

• Get extreme clarity on one of your current challenges
• Understand what is necessary to get you from where you are to where you want to be
• Create an action plan

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Thanks for reading, and remember – You Get What You Tolerate!

P.P.S. If you want more ideas on the importance of humility as a leader, check out the article below.

Humility: Some Leaders Have It and Other’s Don’t – Video