Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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A Powerful Reminder to Reduce Drama in Your Life

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  • Do you want to reduce drama in your life?
  • Are there people whose high drama wastes your time?
  • Does this affect your stress level at work or home?

Most of us have drama queens or kings who zap our energy. Yet, we forget that we can set boundaries and actually change this reality.

Yearly I do a serious job of spring and fall cleaning. And, my list consists of clothes, clutter in my home or office, and relationships that are toxic.  All of these things reduce drama in my life – Big Time!

You heard me right.  We all have those who constantly complain yet never change anything in their life.  Or, their life is full of such hype it’s exhausting to listen. Life is too short to be around draining people who rain on our parade.

Here’s how I reduce drama and handle my spring and fall cleaning with these people:

  • Make a list of those who drain you.
  • Add people to your list who you want and need to spend more time with. 
  • Who makes you laugh, smile, think, learn, etc?   
  • Compliment those people in your life who you enjoy. 

Remember this the next time you speak to a friend who complains about everything.  In fact, I’m not saying to end the relationship. Set boundaries to protect yourself from this drama king or king. Make sure that you limit visits with this person.

Yes, I do this too.  There are certain people who need to be in my life. And they are HUGE triggers for me. When I’m on the phone with these triggers, I make sure and say that I only have 10 minutes to talk before the next zoom meeting. This really helps.

Life is too short not to be with those who support you and bring joy to your life.   

Please let me know how this photo of drama kings and queens speaks to you in the comment section.

Stay Connected with Me

Please add a comment to this blog on how you deal with those drama kings or queens on your team or in your life. 

  • What stories or expressions help you?
  • What boundaries do you use?

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 

You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work. I’m your communication coach. And, I’m here to help you reduce drama NOW!

 Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What YOU Tolerate!

Find your voice with Joyce!
Send me an email if you want to grab your complimentary cool booklet on “19 Surefire Ways to Bring More Joy & Harmony Into Your Life.”

PS Communication Coaching is like riding a bike. Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!

 

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Do You Work with a Jerk?  Here is a Tip That You Can Use: Story #3

This is the 3rd article on the topic Working With a Jerk.  There will be more stories like this because my readers have been sending me private messages describing their experiences.  I have enough examples to cover 6 months of articles! 

Here are the links for those who didn’t see the previous articles in the series:

Stop the Rudeness in Your Life:  How to Deal with Jerks #1

Stop Your Self-Doubt with Jerks: #2

Are you ready for this week’s true story?  I hope so because it is another unbelievable one.

Do You Work with a Jerk?:  The Story

Janis and her mom (Pat) work together in a mid-sized company.  Jim is a colleague of theirs and is known for his sarcastic and biting words.  Janis, Pat, and Jim were talking at lunch. And Jim pointed his finger at Janis and said,  “Janis your haircut suits you.  Additionally, your outfit is very professional – not like your mom’s wardrobe.” 

Did you catch your breath?  Yes, this really did happen.

Here are Four Questions if You Work for a Jerk:work for a jerk

  1. What would you say to Jim if you were Janis?

  2. How would you communicate to Jim if you were Janis’s mother?

  3. What would you say to Jim if you were Jim’s boss and heard this interaction?

  4. What story do you have about working for a jerk? 

Please add your comments in the comment section.  Additionally, you can send me a private email

Joyce, How Would You Handle This when You Work with a Jerk? work for a jerk

If I were Janis I would step back after the shock wore off and say something to Jim.  We don’t always have to respond immediately. Delaying our words is a great strategy at times. It is smart to back off and create a  plan.  “I was caught off guard” is my favorite phrase to use when I speak to someone the next day. 

“Jim, I was caught off guard when I heard those mean comments about my mom. Especially, when she was standing right next to us.  My mom and I were surprised by such insensitive words. I’m curious if you are aware of how these negative comments came across. The next time you want to speak to us, make sure and think before you speak” 

This way you are setting up a boundary for Jim, and “hopefully” he will respond differently before he opens up his mouth again.  If he repeats his insensitive comments, I would do my best to stay away from him.  He will probably choose someone else to ridicule.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Here are the links for those who didn’t see the previous articles in the series:

Stop the Rudeness in Your Life:  How to Deal with Jerks #1

Stop Your Self-Doubt with Jerks: #2

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach & Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.

P.P.S. I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

P.P.P.S Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?  It’s easy and fits anyone’s budget and schedule.
Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com for a Free 20 – minute discovery call.

 

 

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You’re Personally Invited to my FREE Masterclass on April 15, 2021

Hey, Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update VIPS!

I just want to let you know that I’m hosting a LIVE masterclass called How to Feel Heard when No One is Listening Without Losing Your Cool.

This will be the last message on our update about our upcoming FREE masterclass.  Thanks for understanding (I hope!)

I’ve hired the best coaches in the industry to support my efforts and I’m learning all about the importance of delivering important messages a few times since we are all so darn busy.  

I usually don’t use this platform to do this. This masterclass is so good and I want you to join me at 12:00 Noon and 7 pm ET on April 15, 2021.  
Once you register you will be sent the login information.  Participants will receive their own special template that I had designed just for you.

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In this masterclass, you will learn:

  • How to speak your truth – even during tough conversations.
  • Daily mind-shift reminders to remain confident and cool.
  • 2 BIG QUESTIONS: What is the first step to start a difficult conversation and how to make it safe?    

Join me for my FREE LIVE masterclass. I will also be having a LIVE Q and A after the masterclass is over 🙂

Click HERE to register!

See you then!!! I’m SOOOOOO Excited!

Joyce


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P.P.S. Please share this message with your team or direct reports to those why may benefit from learning how to speak up and feel confident during tough conversations. 

P.P.P.S Please send me an email at Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com with your questions.  There will be a replay if you miss the masterclass – You need to register and you will receive the recording. 

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Let’s Talk About YOUR Biggest Communication Challenge

  • What is your biggest communication challenge?
  • Would you like to figure out how to change this to make your life a bit easier?

If so, please don’t move! 🙂

Coaching clients share their communication challenges with me. Not feeling heard seems to be the winner with many of their responses.
The second communication challenge is when others interrupt them.

This article will give you a couple of responses to use when others can’t help themselves from interrupting you or taking over the conversation.
Let’s get started!

Communication Challenge Strategy #1: Think of a Clever Response Communication Challenges

I’ve used the same words as the poster when I’m with friends or colleagues. I actually say, “Excuse me for talking while you are interrupting.” I usually get a smile or an apology. This is a good thing.

I don’t suggest that you use this idea with your boss or someone really serious.

Communication Challenge Strategy #2:  Take a Breath Before You Open up Your  Mouth

You will not hear me ask you or anyone to stay silent – unless you are staying silent for a reason and not just letting others roll over you! If you know me, this is not an option!  I have said the following to the interrupter – without anger or frustration: “I want to hear what you have to say after I finish my thought.” This usually gets a great response from the other person.

There will be times when the interrupter gets mad or frustrated with you for saying these statements. I don’t care. Why is it ok for bullies or others to feel their rude behavior is ok and they get angry with you for speaking your truth? Stick with this idea. The more you use it, the easier it will be for you to have a decent conversation with this person.

Let’s Stay Connected

What is your worse communication challenge?

  • People interrupting you?
  • Sarcasm?
  • Others talking over you?
  • Please add your pet peeve in the comment section.

You can reach out to me anytime to ask a question or share your communication concerns.
Send your email HERE

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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PPS Visit KickConflictToTheCurb.com for your FREE communication assessment. You will see how your communication impacts your success at work. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

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