Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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5 Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team: Part 3

Are you ready for part 3 in the series: 5 Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team?

Do you want to use a powerful tool to create a team coaching exercise and improve morale?

If so, this blog post is perfect for you.  This is #3 in a 5 part series on using a code of conduct as a great team coaching strategy.

You will find links to parts 1 and 2 below just in case you missed them.

team coaching | Be in control of your triggers |bullying in the workplace |communication strategies

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #1

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #2

Team Coaching #3:  Priorities When Using A Code of  Conduct

  • The code and mission come first
  • The needs of the team come second
  • The needs of the individual come third – it’s not all about you!
    Good luck with this one if you have a narcissist or bully on your team.

Step #3 is tough for many people to digest since egos need to be placed aside.  The idea is that everyone on the team agreed to this code and needs to follow the rules.  If they don’t like the rule, they needed to communicate this idea before people agreed to it.  It’s that easy, not easily enforced.  

Please refer to team coaching # 1 and #2 so this strategy makes even more sense to you.

The good news is that it’s everyone’s responsibility to follow the rules and call out those who don’t!  

Clients who have been successful using the code of conduct had to meet periodically to rehash what was agreed upon and deal with those who are having trouble following the code of conduct as a team.

I promise that it’s worth the effort.  I’ve seen teams thrilled that everyone agreed not to use their phones or eat meals during meetings.  This was part of the code of conduct.  Every team decides what’s best for their situation.  

The code of conduct gives every permission to add things to the list that drives them crazy. It’s extremely freeing.  This is a great place to add that bullying in the workplace won’t be tolerated.  The buy-in comes in when the team knows that once the code is created everyone needs to follow the rules.  There will be times that the team agrees to change the code – this is natural and healthy if the team can agree to disagree on certain items.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

I work with human resource and business professionals so that they feel heard and respected which means they feel confident in tough conversations without losing their cool. 🙂

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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P.P.S. You will find links to parts 1 and 2 below just in case you missed them.

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #1

Here’s the link to Team Coaching #2

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5 Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team: Part 2

This week is part 2 in the five-part series: 5 Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team.
Last week the topic was about strategies to use a code of conduct.
Here’s the link for you if you missed it.

Team Coaching Secret #2:  The Team Will Not Be Happy All of the Time code of conduct |complainers; generations in the workplace

  • At times team members will be put on the spot
  • Direct communication (with respect) is part of the Code of Honor
  • The code will protect everyone on the team from abuse as long as bold honesty, accountability, and support exit.

Thoughts From Joyce

It’s important for you to have a trained coach or consultant to conduct your code of conduct because there may be times that pushback is prevalent – especially if you have bullies or rude people on your team.  Everyone is responsible to call out team members when the code is broken. 

  • Remember, the code is made by the team. 
  • Everyone must play by the same rules.
  • Team members are willing to stand up and defend the code.

Pushback must be stopped immediately because the team already agreed with each other by creating the code of conduct.  This is where a coach or trained consultant can jump right in before things get out of hand. It could be a good coaching moment with the person who pushes back.  He or she needs to think outside the box and realize that egos are not part of the code. This is the only way that the strategy will succeed.

Leaders can deal with the person who pushes back. It could be a red flag that the angry team member is not a good fit for the company.  It’s not all about you.  It’s about the code. 
You will find more information about this in the next 3 blog posts.

I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to learn more about creating your own code of conduct. Ask me how it works to see if it’s a right fit for your organization.

What’s your experience when you created a code of conduct with your team?

Feel free to call me at 248.681.5831 if you want to explore options on how I can come to your organization and facilitate a meeting (face to face or virtually) for you to create your own code of conduct. This is the perfect exercise for any board meeting or retreat.

Human resource professionals find this exercise a time saver for them.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share your thoughts in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media so other growth-minded people can control their inner stress and improve morale at work.

P.P.S. I work with human resource and business professionals so that they feel heard and respected which means they feel confident speaking their voice without losing their cool.

P.P.P. S.  Here’s the link from part 1 if you missed it.

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5 Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team: Part 1

Do you want to learn a powerful secret from my team coaching toolbox?  If so, you are in the right place:  Create Your Team’s Code of Conduct.

This is part 1 of a 5-part series on creating your code of conduct.
Make sure and look for parts 2-5 in the next few blog posts.

This article contains an exciting exercise that I use in my training sessions on Resolving Conflict and Employee Engagement.  Clients enjoy using this strategy.  They implement the ideas during and after the session.  I hope that you see the value of using this powerful training secret.  It can help you reduce conflict in the workplace and improve your working condition.

 You may be asking yourself, “What is a code of conduct?”  A code of conduct is a powerful set of rules that govern the internal behavior of any team.

 Team Coaching Secret #1:  Strategies to use a Code of Conduct

  • The rules are made by the team.code of conduct |team coaching
  • Team members are willing to stand and defend the code.
  • Each team member is personally responsible and accountable for his or her behavior.
  • It allows everyone to do their best work.
  • Everyone must play by the same rules.
  • The team agrees to put in the time and energy – not just show up for work.
  • Everyone helps finds the unique talents of team members.

Thoughts from Joyce

Here are examples of my client’s code of conduct that we created together:

  • Everyone needs to come to the meeting on time.
  • No side conversations during the meeting.
  • Cell phones are turned off.
  • Everyone needs to participate.
  • The team supports members when harassment occurs and confronts bullies and other difficult people.

The idea is for the entire team to come up with its own code.  Leaders can’t persuade others what direction to take.  I’ve seen miracles happen when this exercise is done right.  The team can change the code to fine-tune their goals. 

I find that clients get better results when they have a coach help them create the code of conduct so leaders and team members are equal during this strategy session. It doesn’t take long to do this because I’ve got my secret sauce when it comes to team coaching. Just saying! 😉

Look for parts 2-5 on Easy Secrets to Coach Your Team in the next 4 blog posts.

CLICK HERE to learn more about how Joyce can help your company create team synergy through team building consulting.

I want to hear from you!

CLICK HERE to send me your questions about creating your own code of conduct. 

What is your experience when you created one with your team? 

Feel free to call me at 248.713.1926 if you want to explore options on how I can come to your organization and facilitate a meeting (face to face or virtually) for you to create your own code of conduct.  This is a perfect exercise for any board meeting or retreat. Human Resource Professionals find this exercise a time saver for them.

Do You Want to See How Your Communication Impacts Your Success at Work?

CLICK HERE to take the easy and fun Kick Conflict to the Curb Assessment. You will get your results immediately and learn more about setting boundaries to be more effective at work and in your life. Sound good?
Here’s the LINK

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP

Conflict Resolution Coach

You can start tackling tough conversations with bullies, different generations, and even narcissists once you learn the powerful strategies. I will do whatever it takes to help you improve your quality of life.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

P.S.  I work with Human Resource Professionals, individuals, and small groups to make sure everyone feels heard and respected so they Kick Conflict to the Curb.

 

 

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Think Like Buddha: 1 Easy Lesson to Use Now

Buddah's Quote

Buddha’s quote is one of my favorites when working with growth-minded people.

We all have a  choice on what thoughts we put into our minds.  

At times they are positive and nothing will stop us from reaching our goals.
Then there are those negative thoughts that seep into our minds about anger, negativity, insecurity, or doubt.

Buddha’s quote is perfect for anyone who needs a friendly reminder – we can stop ourselves from feeding ourselves such toxic thoughts.

A couple of years ago I knew that one of my TRIGGERS (let’s call her MS. TRIGGER) was attending the same social event.  My past behavior was to prepare myself so that her sarcastic and toxic tone wouldn’t affect me. This time I did an experiment and decided no matter what this person said to either me or the other guests, I wouldn’t open my mouth.  
I don’t always have to take on the conflict.  

Buddha’s quote was my friendly reminder. I would do my best to control myself when MS. TRIGGER opened her mouth.

Sure enough, MS. TRIGGER didn’t stop talking all night.  There was a “one-versation.” 
Normally I would put on my conflict resolution coach hat and try to change the conversation to include others in the dialogue.

Not this time.  It was amazing to watch the other guests look uncomfortable because MS. TRIGGER didn’t take a breath all evening.  She interrupted everyone and was rude to anyone who tried to add his or her opinion.

1 Easy Lesson I Learned and Used From Buddha’s Quote

The moment I entered my car, a friend called me and didn’t stop complaining about MS. TRIGGER.  
The great news is that I wasn’t upset because I told myself,   “NOT TO GET INVOLVED.”  

It’s that simple, dear readers.  

My friend couldn’t sleep that night because she was so riled up about MS. TRIGGER.
I had a great night’s sleep because of this successful experiment.
All I had to do was keep silent.

I know those of you who have been following me know that I encourage clients to speak their voice. 
There are times when it’s better to stay silent especially if you don’t want to create more inner stress for yourself.

How Does Buddha’s Quote Speak to You?

Have you experienced a time like this when you attempted to control a conversation and it went sour?
Hopefully, you learned an important lesson – not to get involved in every little drama that appears in our life.

Please share how Buddha’s quote speaks to you in the comment section.
When did you decide to stay silent with an irritating person?  How did this work out? 

The next time you know that a Trigger will be at the same meeting or social gathering, what message can you feed yourself?

This stuff works.  I only share real scenarios with you that clients have experienced.
This time, I added my story as a coaching moment for you. 🙂

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP

Conflict Resolution Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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PPS.  We are updating our blog and can’t wait to share Kick Conflict to the Curb: Stomp Out Your Stress with you soon. 

 

 

 

 

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It’s an honor to have so many of you return each week to learn how to become a master communicator and resolve conflict.

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Until Next Time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution Coach – Queen of Conflict Resolution

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