Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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Finally, Ideas That Actually Work for You to Gain Control of Your Day!

Hey, Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly readers!

I sure hope that you are doing well and ready to say goodbye to 2020!

Do you want to hear how I finally got answers on how to gain control of my day and tasks?

I  recently attended an online conference with Amy Porterfield who is the Queen of Creating Digital Courses.  She invited her friend and thought leader, Michael Hyatt to share his wisdom with us.
His ideas blew me away and I started making changes in my life immediately.  The video below describes Hyatt’s Brilliance from his book, Free to Focus.

This short video tells my story and how you can start making changes to gain control of your day also.

Gain Control of Your Day Idea #1: Create 3 Goals Each Day

Michael Hyatt suggests that we think of 3 goals to complete daily.  Write down these goals.  Once you complete these 3 tasks, you can now spend some quality time doing what you WANT to do.
For example, my 3 goals for today are to record 5 videos for LinkedIn and Facebook, work on Amy Porterfield’s module on creating powerful webinars, and write this blog.

Once I finished these 3 BIG goals, it was time to stop looking for another goal.  Instead, I wanted to read a book for an hour.  This is huge for me because I never stopped doing all the tasks on my plate and of course, there was never time to read what I wanted to read because there was ALWAYS something else to complete. I was on that treadmill and couldn’t get off. Does this sound familiar to you?

Gain Control of Your Day Idea #2:  Hire a Virtual Assistant

I’ve had people help with tasks in the past such as graphic designers, marketers, IT teams, etc. I never thought about giving the tasks that I don’t enjoy doing to a VA who loves this kind of work.
Huge stress has been lifted from me because I have time to spend doing what I want to do. This is not new for most of us. BUT it’s very hard to achieve until we find out that we do have choices.

How can You Gain Control of Your day?

What ideas are speaking to you from my video or message?  This is not rocket science.  It’s achievable once we find what works for us. It’s your turn. Please share your ideas in the comment section.
Are you saying, “Yes, Joyce this sounds great! I’m ready to finally gain control of my day and get off that never stopping treadmill?

Let’s Stay Connected!

I’m always looking for ways to stay connected with my loyal readers! The best way right now is to take me up on my FREE offer below. What do you have to lose?

If you want to see how your communication skills impact your success at work and home, please grab your free communication assessment at KickConflictToTheCurb.com. You will also receive 4 short and powerful videos that describe more communication strategies that I use in my virtual class and with coaching clients.

Please feel free to share this article or any future posts that speak your language! It’s quite a positive feeling when I hear comments back from my loyal readers.  Thanks to all of you for cheering my work on.

Until next week,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Feel free to reach out to me at Joyce@Joyceweiss.com with questions or concerns.  I’m your Master Coach, ready to serve any way I can to help others speak their truth. 😉

 

 

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What a Treat Interviewing Diane Bogino on Overcoming Negative Self-Talk

Hello Dear Readers!

I enjoy inviting guests to share their wisdom and experience with you. This week we are in for a real treat! The video describes how Diane Bogino helps organizations grow a healthy culture.
Her motto is, “Instead of TAKING the time to whine, MAKE the time to TAKE ACTION.”

Diane Bogino is an Industrial-Organizational Psychologist who has assisted organizations, executives, and individuals in getting out of their own way to achieve success by developing a better understanding of one another’s communication styles, behaviors, and effective business practices.

In a former life, Diane was an actress and model.  She appeared in a movie and in numerous commercials and did a national spot for Delta airlines. She also did voice-overs, print, and runway modeling. At one time she was “Daffey Diane,” (some say she still is!), a magic clown. She also performed magic as herself winning Magician of the Year for Greater Atlanta.

 

What prompted you to go into coaching and consulting

As a result of an abusive childhood, I thought I was too stupid to go to school. I went to college late in life and went into training and educating people to help them grow. This is really my passion. I have an M.A. in Industrial Psychology.  My main emphasis is the way people think and communicate – helping them work better as a team. The goal is to help people understand each other and create a better culture.

How did you change your mindset when you were a little girl coming from an abusive household?

When I was 30 I had an epiphany and said, “Life doesn’t have to be like this.” You shouldn’t think of yourself in such a negative way. I learned self-talk and now help people get out of their own way which leads them to success. I had to reverse the conversations in my own head because I thought so negatively. I would literally have to say, “STOP” out loud. It may take a while and is a good place to start.
I realized that I had so much to bring to the world

How are you able to change the company culture?

I like to start with the executive team. Assessments are a great way to start the process. I do an individual and team debrief. The team needs to understand each other. Once you have a conversation with someone else with who you have a conflict, then the healing process can begin, and you can start to communicate better with each other.

What books did you publish?

  • Finding YOUR Bootstraps: 11 Steps to Overcoming Victim Thinking
  • Secrets of Writing a Winning Resume
  • How to Give Your Meetings a Swift Kick in the Agenda
  • There’s  Something Funny About Humor in Presentations
  • Reaching Y.E.S. – Your Extraordinary Self – Unpublished

How can they reach you?

www.Performstrat.com
https://dianeboginodevelopment

linkedin.com/in/diane-bogino-b99232

Diane@dianebogino.com

404.320.7834

What parting words do you have for us?

Self-assessment is extremely important and well worth the ticket!

Let’s Stay Connected

I will interview Diane Bogino again since she has so much wisdom to share with us.

  • What part of the interview spoke to you?
  • Did you have to change your mindset in your life?
  • Share your ideas in the comment section and I will respond. :)You are the reason why I continue doing my work as a Master Coach.  Your feedback and comments show me that you return to read our blog because you are all about self-improvement and professional growth.  Send me an email anytime with questions on your own conflict resolution challenges either at home or work.

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Master Coach and Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Grab your FREE communication assessment to find out how your communication impacts your success at work HERE

 

 

 

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Let’s Talk About YOUR Biggest Communication Challenge

  • What is your biggest communication challenge?
  • Would you like to figure out how to change this to make your life a bit easier?

If so, please don’t move! 🙂

Coaching clients share their communication challenges with me. Not feeling heard seems to be the winner with many of their responses.
The second communication challenge is when others interrupt them.

This article will give you a couple of responses to use when others can’t help themselves from interrupting you or taking over the conversation.
Let’s get started!

Communication Challenge Strategy #1: Think of a Clever Response Communication Challenges

I’ve used the same words as the poster when I’m with friends or colleagues. I actually say, “Excuse me for talking while you are interrupting.” I usually get a smile or an apology. This is a good thing.

I don’t suggest that you use this idea with your boss or someone really serious.

Communication Challenge Strategy #2:  Take a Breath Before You Open up Your  Mouth

You will not hear me ask you or anyone to stay silent – unless you are staying silent for a reason and not just letting others roll over you! If you know me, this is not an option!  I have said the following to the interrupter – without anger or frustration: “I want to hear what you have to say after I finish my thought.” This usually gets a great response from the other person.

There will be times when the interrupter gets mad or frustrated with you for saying these statements. I don’t care. Why is it ok for bullies or others to feel their rude behavior is ok and they get angry with you for speaking your truth? Stick with this idea. The more you use it, the easier it will be for you to have a decent conversation with this person.

Let’s Stay Connected

What is your worse communication challenge?

  • People interrupting you?
  • Sarcasm?
  • Others talking over you?
  • Please add your pet peeve in the comment section.

You can reach out to me anytime to ask a question or share your communication concerns.
Send your email HERE

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Control Your Triggers for Less Drama During the Holidays

  • Do you know how to control your triggers?
  • Would you like a little inspiration on how to stay positive when you are with people who irritate you?
  • Are you tired of people complaining about their life yet don’t do anything to change?

Welcome to my world! I recently took a class at the World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit (WBECS) and the speaker seemed to talk just to me. 🙂
She explained how coaches attract people who are working on the same issues as the coach.  I delved into that statement and I was amazed at how true it is.  Clients call me to so they can feel more confident in their communication with bullies and other tough situations. You know, that I’m the Queen of Conflict Resolution and know all about triggers! 🙂

So what about you? Look at the people in your life.  What kind of friends or colleagues do you seem to attract? The great news is when we attract people with the same positive qualities as you.  The bad news is when we also attract negative triggers (people or situations that become stressors for us).

Joyce, How Can We Control Our Triggers?

  1. It’s not easy! The first step is to know your triggers. Who or what causes you to react negatively?
  2. Now that you know your triggers, plan how you will stop yourself from reacting.
  3. You can walk out of the room, tell them that you have an appointment and get off the phone, or do your best to stay away from them.
  4. We all need support these days. We also need kind honesty and feedback when we don’t see negativity seeping into our conversations.
  5. Constructive feedback is a gift when it’s done with good intentions.

There may be times when you MUST be with your triggers. Not to worry.
I suggest that you look at them as a chair. You don’t get mad at a chair for being a chair. Don’t get mad at people for who they are – it’s usually their issue and not ours.  We make it our issue and we can stop that once we know that we can change our internal conversations.  Stop saying, “I can’t take him or her anymore” to “I’m in control of how I feel and you are a chair, so you can’t really push me!”
This is definitely a strange way to talk to yourself. It works, so try it before you roll your eyes. 🙂

 

How Does Wonder Woman Control Her Triggers? Triggers

I love Gal Gadot’s role as Wonder Woman.  I saw a recent quote of hers,

I do me.
You do you.
I’d rather have you not like me at this moment than not saying my truth.

When we control our triggers, we have a better chance of what comes out of our mouths. This will be your magic sauce!

Do your best to step back and think what the best solution is for you.  Is it better to be silent or speak your truth? We can control our triggers once we realize that we have choices on how to react.

Let’s Stay In Touch

Please share how you control your triggers in the comment section. What is your secret sauce? What issues are you still having with your triggers?

I’m here as your own Master Coach. Send me an email HERE if you have a private question to ask.

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

PS I hope that these ideas will help you enjoy your holidays –  especially when those irritating people open their mouths.

 

 

 

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Tips to Be Happy EVEN in this Pandemic

Hello Loyal Readers!

Hopefully, you are intrigued by the title of this article – Tips to Be Happy Even in This Pandemic. I’ve been asked to address this important topic in my virtual training.  I see clients being frustrated by all the changes, new rules, and fear. Why in the world am I writing about Tips to be Happy during these stressful times.  For one reason and one reason only: Humor is an important survival skill. You will find a link to the article HERE: Tips on the Importance of Laughing even During Tough Times.

Mrs. Fred Rogers, wife of the TV personality was interviewed on how Mr. Rogers always stays so positive. Guess her answer. Come on. You are so close. 🙂  Her response was, “My husband was a good man. He constantly works on it.”

I do what I can to spin stress into positive energy. I’m realistic. I’m also a human being who is just as worried about the virus as the next person. I do my best to look at opportunities even during tough times. Both of my parents shared this quality and lucky for me, it’s in my DNA. Lucky for you, I share this tenacity with clients! It’s hard work and worth the effort. The two tips that you will find below are taken from my booklet, 19 Surefire Ways to Bring More Joy and Harmony Into Your Life.  We are creating a new site that will host 52 positive quotes with action activities and you will be the first to hear when it is ready for your eyes.

Tips to Be Happy #1:  Spend Time With Children tips to be happy

  1. See how curious they are about everything. They wake in the morning expecting to have fun.
  2. Write down a story when you were with a young child who said something that made you laugh or smile.
  3. Start collecting these communications or experiences. You will never be disappointed! 😊

 

Tips to Be Happy #2:  Explore New Options and Activities to Keep You and Your Family Engagedtips to be happy

  1. Determine what specific activities you can do to increase morale at home or work.
  2. Ask others to contribute their ideas
  3. What new games, outdoor activities, online gaming, or revisit family photos.

“The number one premise of business is that it need not be boring or dull.  It ought to be fun.  If it is not fun, you’re wasting your time.”
–  Tom Peters, Author

Let’s Stay Connected

Do you find these tips helpful? Please give us your input and we will continue adding more tips – only if you like these shorter posts.
I’m here to serve my Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly Update Readers. If you like these tips you will see more in future posts.

What do you and your family do to add fun to their/your day?

What humor have you found happening with your family or work?

Send me an email with your feedback or comment on this post.

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Master Coach and Communication Strategist
QueenofConflictResolution

Have a Great Week!

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS You will find a link to the article HERE: Tips on the Importance of Laughing even During Tough Times.

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