Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

By 2 Comments

Why Burnout Can be Good for You

conflict frustrated man with paperI hope that I got your attention with this title.  We all know that burnout can be very harmful if we don’t pay attention to our stress levels.  We get sick or even chronic illness “suddenly” appear in our life.  There are times when burnout can be a positive indication… to listen to your body and most importantly…decide what you NEED to change in your life.

I’m starting Arianna Huffington’s new book, Thrive:  The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating A Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder.  She talks about the importance of looking at our life and the time that we actually spend taking care of our needs.  I will report back to you after I read it.

In the mean time please look at my short video on “New Facts About Stress.”  Click here to view the video.  Let me know what speaks to you and how you have learned to take care of yourself after you have burned out.  All you have to do is go to the bottom on this blog post and there is a comment section for you to place your words of wisdom. 

Want to Use This Article to Share with Others?

Of course! You are welcome to print this, and any other articles we send, if you use the following byline:
A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, accountability coach, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
Visit her website at www.JoyceWeiss.com to sign up for your own FREE video series on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace.

Was this helpful?

Please send me any comments that you may have for this article. Hit the link at the end of this post to share your ideas or questions. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients get a better night’s sleep!
The next time you need a consultant for a company retreat or meeting, think of Joyce Weiss Training and Development LLC.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS  Do 3d_taketheride_cover_lrgyou want a good read for the summer?  If you have not experienced my book, Take the Ride of Your Life:  Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy, this is a good time to get your own copy.  It is an easy read and clients and friends have used this little green book for book clubs and employee incentives.  Click here to review and order Take the Ride of Your Life . 

 

By 8 Comments

Cruel Words Take Root in Us-Learn to Focus on Positives Instead

conflict business man being blamedAt times my clients share stories about how their parents influenced them
either in a positive or negative way. It is amazing how many details many of
us remember-both the good and bad.
We all have our own stories and the content of this post is taken from my book,
Take the Ride of Your Life! Shift Gears from More Balance, Growth and Joy.

Hope that you enjoy it.

joyce on bike reading book

Tom’s Story

Tom’s dad drilled the classic “you’re a loser” mentality into his head at an early age.
But that doesn’t mean Tom became a loser.

Tom, a successful salesperson, was told at an early age not to believe
in himself. “You are a loser. You will never amount to anything.
You will never learn to ride your bike, either,” his father said.
Those cruel words pounded into Tom’s subconscious and took root.

Despite the expectation of failure and the utter lack of love and support,
Tom was determined to learn.
As an adult, he became obsessed with success at work.
“I cannot fail!” he would tell himself.

This became the entire focus of his life, affecting his family and even his health.
Rather than relishing his success, he was afraid of “falling off the bike” of his youth.
He did not realize he was a winner from the first time he “pedaled” with determination
to succeed on his own.

Hope for Tom!

Eventually, Tom was able to see all the positives in his life and discovered
that he trusted himself all along.
He realized he was not only strong and determined — he was a success!

Questions from Joyce

 When did you turn a negative message into something positive?
Post a comment and you will receive a copy of my e-booklet,
“19 Secrets for Successfully Navigating Life’s Potholes, Ruts and Obstacles”

Was this helpful?
Please send me your bike story.  Place your comments in the comment box.
Who taught you how to ride?
What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who
could benefit from these posts.
Feel free to share this post.  Just make sure and give credit to:
Joyce Weiss Training & Development LLC > www.JoyceWeiss.com
Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…
who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition
or home life.

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP

I work with individuals and small groups to make sure that everyone feels heard and respected to Kick Conflict to the Curb!

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 

By Leave a Comment

Take a Negative Lesson & Turn it into a Postive Change

ride cartoon bumpy road

Here’s another story from my book, Take the Ride of Your Life! Shift Gears for More Balance,Growth and Change. This post will help you when you are experiencing bumpy roads in your life….to reduce conflict in the workplace and home!

What do you use to escape stress and negativity? For Natalie as a child, she always used her bicycle.

Natalie’s Story

Natalie, a production manager for a publisher, learned to channel the stresses of childhood into adult strengths. She used her bicycle to escape her critical dad and alcoholic mom.

“My father taught my brothers and me to ride bicycles. He was a schoolteacher and had patience with everyone but his own children. He tried using anger to motivate me. He’d say, ‘Come on, you can do this. Don’t be a wimp.’ Being told this in earshot of the neighborhood
kids was mortifying.”

“Once I learned how to ride, I would get on my bike and go wherever the bike would take me. Sometimes it would be to a friend’s house, sometimes a ride around the city. I would pedal along highways and even on unpaved, bumpy roads. When things were really bad at home, I would head miles north to get to a beach. My head always felt clearer there. I would often daydream about what life could be like as I rode.”

Self-motivated and self-sustaining, Natalie took the negative lessons of her parents and turned them into positives for herself and her
daughter. She learned courage on her bike.

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the  Ride of Your Life!
It is an easy summer read.

Two of Joyce’s Favorite Quotes

“No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.”
Helen Keller

“An optimist sees an opportunity in every calamity; A pessimist sees a calamity in every opportunity.”
Sir Winston Churchill

Consider the following question:
What would cause you to say…

“Don’t bug me.  Get off my case?”

Please share your thoughts. I will write a future blog about the comments sent to me.

Was this helpful?

Please send me your bike story.  Place your comments in the comment box at the end of this post.

       Who taught you how to ride?
       What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
       What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.

Feel free to share this post.  Just make sure and give credit to:
Joyce Weiss Training & Development LLC > www.JoyceWeiss.com

Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition
or home life. 

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the  Ride of Your Life! It is an easy summer read.

By Leave a Comment

What Has Life Taught YOU? Why Hardships Teach Us the Most Important Lessons!

joyce on bike reading book

Several Years ago I wrote a book, Take the Ride of Your Life!:  Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy.
This blog is a perfect place for me to share some of my favorite “inspirational and life changing stories” from people who I interviewed.
I’m hoping that you will identify with some of the stories to reduce conflict in the workplace and home.

The Theme of Take the Ride of Your Life

We are who we are today because of that turning point in our life when we learned how to ride our first 2 wheel bike without training wheels.

Think About These Questions

Who taught you how to ride your first bike?
Was it a positive or negative experience?
What memories do you have of that time in your life?
What kind of person are you today as a result of that ride?

David’s Story

David, an accountant, related this story:

“As a boy, I knew my father was proud of me. Unfortunately, he didn’t know how to show it.
There wasn’t a whole lot of positive attitude in my house.”
David remembered the dictum, “You must behave,” was drilled into him and his siblings time and time again.

“In school I was the class clown. I couldn’t talk at home,” he said, “so I had to express myself elsewhere.”

David was around ten or eleven years old when he learned how to ride a bike.
“Some friends taught me. I used a neighborhood boy’s bike; I didn’t have one of my own.
I fell down, and got up again right away.

I felt good whenever I was on a bike, as if anything was possible.”

David’s wife has helped him focus on keeping a positive attitude.
Before they were married she told him: “I won’t marry you if you become like your father.”
Today, David is grateful. “I didn’t want to raise my kids the way my father raised me.”

Click this link to read testimonials and order your own copy of the book of Take the Ride of Your Life!

Quote from Actress Mary Tyler Moore

You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.
As I look back on the times in my life that taught me the most, they were the difficult times.
By surviving them, I gained a confidence in myself I never could have achieved if I’d led a totally happy life.

Was this helpful?
Please send me your bike story.  Place your comments in the comment box at the end of this post.
       Who taught you how to ride?
       What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
       What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts.
Feel free to share this post.  Just make sure and give credit to:
Joyce Weiss Training & Development LLC > www.JoyceWeiss.com
Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life. 

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

    I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the  Ride of Your Life!  It is an easy summer read.

 

 

 

By 1 Comment

Joyce’s Recommendation of a GREAT Book

question marksI just read a very powerful and interesting book that blew me away!

The ideas will help reduce conflict in the workplace and immediately improve morale.

You don’t need to be a leader to read this book.

Check out the book only if  you want to think about the importance of WHY you do the things you do and the impact on your future .

Simon Sinek has a simple but powerful model for inspirational leadership all starting with a golden circle and the question “Why?”
His examples include Apple, Martin Luther King, and the Wright brothers.

In 2009, Simon Sinek released the book “Start With Why” — a synopsis of the theory he has begun using to teach others how to become effective leaders and inspire change.

Check out this link to my podcast on “Bold Solutions to Boost the Bottom Line.”

 

 Here are some key points that “spoke” to me.

  •  People don’t buy WHAT you do but WHY you do it.
  • WHY is a belief that is consistent with your values.
  • Trust emerges when another person or company is driven by things other than their own self gain.
  • When you share the same values with others you will earn their trust.
  • The role of a great leader is to create an environment where great ideas can happen.
    Steve Jobs did not come up with the ideas for the ipod…others in the company did.
  • Great leaders serve those who serve them.
    Costko takes care of their employees and the results are reciprocal.

 My WHY is that I get to inspire others to do things to make their life a bit easier.

I help people have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Once I became clear on my WHY it is so much easier to connect with people who want what I offer to them.

Here is a direct quote from Start with Why

“If you believe what we believe and you believe that the things we do can help you, then we are better.
Our goal is to find clients who believe what we believe and work together so that we can all succeed.
We’re looking for people to stand shoulder to shoulder with us in pursuit of the same goal”

 As some of you know I have launched a new FREE communicate with impact assessment which includes a 15 minute phone evaluation. I decided to do this to introduce the new on Demand E-Course, Communicate with Impact. I realize that not every client will be interested in the assessment or course. This is a good thing. I also realize that the clients who see the value for their professional growth and their team will take the assessment and tell others about the E-Course.

Click here if you want to take the FREE Communication Assessment.
Once you take it, we can set up a time for a 15 minute phone evaluation where you will get a personalized action plan.

 

I have a few of questions for you…

  • Are you very specific on the reasons why you do what you do?
  • Do you communicate your WHY to your clients or prospects?
  • Do you market to the right clients?

Feel free to send me your answers to these questions.

I will respond and give you some ideas on how you can become as specific as possible.

 Was this helpful?

Please share this post with your team or others who you feel will benefit from the content.

Just be sure to give Joyce Weiss credit. (Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant,  JoyceWeiss.com)

Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss

and Remember…You GET with YOU tolerate!

PS
Remember…Check out this link to my podcast on “Bold Solutions to Boost the Bottom Line.”

 

Click here for the FREE Communication Assessment

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831