Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

  • Home
  • Services
    • Kick Conflict to the Curb – 6-week Virtual Course
    • Workplace Bullying
    • Conflict in the Workplace
    • Virtual Career Coaching: Find Your Voice with Joyce
    • Virtual Executive Coaching
    • Powerful & Interactive Workshops – Onsite and Virtual
  • Why Hire Joyce
    • Testimonials
    • About Joyce
    • FAQ
    • In the Press
  • Resources
    • Knowledge Base
      • Bullying in the Workplace
      • Conflict Resolution in the Workplace
      • Life Coaching Strategies
      • Team Building
      • Executive Coaching Strategies
      • Career Skills
      • SMB Marketing & Strategy
    • Online Workshop – Kick Conflict to the Curb
    • Newsletters
    • For Media, Press & Bloggers
  • Blog
  • Books
  • Contact

January 7, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Video #8: More Stories on Verbal Aikido to Help You Gain Control

Do you want to hear real examples of how you can use Verbal Aikido to gain control during tough conversations?

Welcome to video #8 in the series on working with bullies in the workplace. Today I will share real stories from my clients who practiced and perfected verbal aikido and put this powerful communication tool to use.

At times bullies leave us alone when we stand up to them because they know we’re up to the test when we pull back from their sarcasm or cruelty.  Are you ready for the two examples?

Example #1 on how to use verbal aikido to gain control of bullies

Sue told her bully, “Beth, don’t even start.” And Sue walked away.  The bully got the idea and didn’t bother her in the future.  Sue reached gain control | communication strategiesher bully!  It looks easy yet the reality is that it takes real courage just like Sue showed.  I’ve used this example several times and it works like a charm because I’ve practiced just like clients do with me.

Example #2 on how to use verbal aikido to gain control of bullies

A teenager who was shorter than most of her classmates was picked on by the mean kid in school when she said, “give me your sandwich shrimp.” My client told her bully, “Pick on someone who is your size” after she was ridiculed.  The mean guy stopped bullying her after this.

Joyce, let’s get real!

I know some of you are thinking that this sounds too good to be true.  At times verbal aikido works and at times it doesn’t.  You know by now my conviction – we need to plan and prepare for things to get worse or better.  It’s worth the risk when things improve after the tough conversation.

If you missed the previous videos in the series visit my youtube channel, blog or LinkedIn.  You will find previous videos in the series below.

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?
Video#5:  The Gap and Triggers to Gain Control
Video #6:  Changing Our Attitudes to Protect Ourselves from Bullies
Video #7:  Verbal Aikido to Stop Letting Others Push You

Stay Connected with Me

Feel free to send me a private email if you have a question on how you can deal with your bully.

Add a comment to my blog on how you deal with negative people on your team.  What stories or expressions help you?
You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email
with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 or send me a text at 248.310.6998 to explore how career coaching could be a great action step for your career development. There are many options to fit your budget and time schedule! 🙂

Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Until next time

Have a great week

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 

 

 

Filed Under: bullies at work, verbal aikido
Tagged With: gain control, Respect in the Workplace

Free Communications Skills AssessmentSubscribe Weekly Newsletter

Need to Contact Joyce?

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.

Joyce Wins Best of MichBusiness Award

Congratulations Joyce Weiss! Recipient of the ‘Best of MichBusiness 2016 One Person Wonder’ Award!   Read more...

michbus-award-alone-2016-bg-black

Certified Speaking Professional Designation through the National Speaker’s Association

Certified Speaking Professional Designation through the National Speaker’s Association

CE Instructor through Professional and Continuing Education (PACE)

CE Instructor through Professional and Continuing Education (PACE)

Certified as a Best Practices Company

Best Practices Company

Contact Joyce

Joyce Weiss
6737 Oyster Cove
West Bloomfield, MI 48323

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 1-248-681-5831

Let’s Connect

  • Facebook
  • LinkedIn
  • YouTube

Legal Terms & Conditions

  • Terms of Use
  • Privacy Policy
  • Earnings Disclaimer
Sign Up for Joyce's Weekly Newsletter!
Get one newsletter a week on Joyce's latest topic!
"No spam" guarantee

Copyright © 2021 Joyce Weiss Training and Development, LLC.


WordPress Design and Development by jhWebWorks, LLC