Do you want to hear real examples of how you can use Verbal Aikido to gain control during tough conversations?
Welcome to video #8 in the series on working with bullies in the workplace. Today I will share real stories from my clients who practiced and perfected verbal aikido and put this powerful communication tool to use.
At times bullies leave us alone when we stand up to them because they know we’re up to the test when we pull back from their sarcasm or cruelty. Are you ready for the two examples?
Example #1 on how to use verbal aikido to gain control of bullies
Sue told her bully, “Beth, don’t even start.” And Sue walked away. The bully got the idea and didn’t bother her in the future. Sue reached her bully! It looks easy yet the reality is that it takes real courage just like Sue showed. I’ve used this example several times and it works like a charm because I’ve practiced just like clients do with me.
Example #2 on how to use verbal aikido to gain control of bullies
A teenager who was shorter than most of her classmates was picked on by the mean kid in school when she said, “give me your sandwich shrimp.” My client told her bully, “Pick on someone who is your size” after she was ridiculed. The mean guy stopped bullying her after this.
Joyce, let’s get real!
I know some of you are thinking that this sounds too good to be true. At times verbal aikido works and at times it doesn’t. You know by now my conviction – we need to plan and prepare for things to get worse or better. It’s worth the risk when things improve after the tough conversation.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1: Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2: Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3: Why Bullying Happens
Video #4: Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?
Video#5: The Gap and Triggers to Gain Control
Video #6: Changing Our Attitudes to Protect Ourselves from Bullies
Video #7: Verbal Aikido to Stop Letting Others Push You
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Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist
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Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!