Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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A Motivational Quote to Remember During Healthy Conflict

Healthy Conflict is a term that surprises people at times.  Yes, conflict can be both healthy and unhealthy.

The next time you need to give constructive feedback, make sure it’s constructive (healthy conflict) and not sarcastic and full of revenge.
This is a great quote to remember when others give you destructive feedback.  Remember this person doesn’t have the great communication skills that you have while you are learning how to be a MASTER Communicator while reading these articles! 🙂 Just saying.

Every coaching client who works with me knows the importance of getting great results during tough conversations and not concentrating on being right.

 

healthy conflict | Winston Churchill

Let’s Stay Connected!

How does Churchill’s quote “speak” to you?  Those of you who share either in the comment section below or send me an email will receive a new video (that I have not posted yet) about using props to engage your virtual meetings. It’s short and contains tips to liven up your virtual meetings.

Hey, Dear Readers, I’m here for you when you have questions about your own communication or relationship “challenges.” Feel free to send me an email. Full disclosure here:  I don’t charge anything when people send me questions or comments via email. Staying connected is what it’s all about for me.

Have a Great Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Career Advancement is like riding a bike: Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!

P.P.S. Grab the link for your FREE Kick Conflict to the Curb Communication Assessment to see how your communication impacts your success.

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Got Personal Bias with Your Triggers?

Welcome to Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly!

  • Are there certain people who you get along with really well?
  • Do you know others who push your buttons?
  • Do you know if your personal bias is getting in the way?

You can take an exercise after you watch the video below that may be revealing about your own personal bias. Take out the popcorn and let’s connect after watching it!

https://vimeo.com/491012883

Here’s Your Personal Bias Excercise

Take a piece of paper and draw a vertical line down the middle.

  • On the left side put the name of someone who you get along with really well.
  • On the right side write the name of someone who drives you crazy.
  • Write the characteristics of the names both on the right and left side of your paper.
  • Look at the left side.  Does this person remind you of you? I find that 99% of my clients who have done this exercise recognize that the description is their own characteristics.

Is Your Personal Bias Getting in Your Way? personal bias

I suggest that you do this exercise when you meet one of your triggers. I’m serious. This exercise will keep you on track on how you can keep your personal bias under control – especially with those who rub you the wrong way. This person will not be your best friend (I hope!). Knowing that your personal bias is in control may give you the energy to either ignore him or her or decide how you can carefully continue moving forward with the relationship – especially at work when you can’t select whose on your team.

Let’s Stay Connected!

Please share your thoughts about your own personal bias by commenting on the blog or sending me a private message at Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com.  This powerful exercise is easy and impactful.
I appreciate every one of my loyal readers! Please share any of the Kick Conflict to the Curb Weekly posts to your friends/colleagues who could benefit from the coaching secrets or videos on resolving conflict.

Have a GREAT Week!
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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A Motivational Quote to Keep You Going Even During Dark Times

I recently saw the motivational quote below and knew that I needed to make a poster for my loyal readers!  This post was written during the pandemic of 2020. The message is necessary more so than ever before. Certain friends know that when we get together (at a distance, of course) I don’t mind talking about the latest news – ONLY if it’s for a few minutes and NOT the entire evening. I’m sure you or even some of your friends, colleagues, or family are glued to the TV for hours. This is dangerous for our mental health. Being informed is mandatory in my book. Concentrating on all the negativity is crippling.

Coaching clients see that they are putting themselves in harm’s way when they only concentrate on the darkness.  It’s hard work to change our attitudes.  So hard.  It’s possible when we put our minds on high alert that we can get unstuck and actually find opportunities even during the darkness. I’m hearing patterns after I ask clients, “How have you changed during this pandemic – both positively and negatively?”

      Here are some of the negative responses 

  • I’m having trouble sleeping
  • I’m worried about bills
  • I hope my relative doesn’t get the virus
  • I’m concerned about money or my job
  • I’m afraid that the virus will last a long time
  • Our kids miss their social life and this pandemic is affecting them

    Here are some of the positive responses 

  • I appreciate my family more than ever before
  • I’m taking care of myself by exercising more
  • I’m taking advantage of this new virtual world by taking powerful classes
  • I’m rethinking my career

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Why this motivational quote means so much to me

Many of you have seen several posts about launching my Online Course: Kick Conflict to the Curb: Get the Respect You Deserve. This idea came out of the pandemic. I was one of the lucky ones who joined several online courses with top-notch trainers.  Gina Carr, Terry Brock, and Bob Pike have helped me focus on an entirely new career – virtual training. It was difficult finding time to attend all the classes because I was still working with coaching clients even during this dark time. Of course, I didn’t know at the time how impactful this training was going to be for me. I just knew I had to do something to make sure I didn’t get pulled into all the craziness.

My next course starts on September 15th. I’m keeping this class small to concentrate on the needs of each person who signs up. That’s why seating is limited. September 10th is when registration closes. Please visit my landing page HERE to find out if the class is right for you or your direct reports.

I’m here to answer your questions and to share all the exciting details including that each participant will have a laser-focused 60-minute phone coaching session with me.  30 minutes when the class starts to set goals and discuss current conflicts and 30 minutes with me at the end of the class to make sure you reach your goals.

How Does the Motivational Quote Speak to You?

  • How has the pandemic changed you both positively and negatively?
  • What do you do to stay balanced during the light and dark of the pandemic?

I encourage you to reach out to me with questions about your own conflict resolution issues or for direct reports. Don’t worry, I will not sell you anything when you call! This master coach and communication strategist loves what I do and I care about clients and advocates.  My cell;  248.325.8101.

Have a GREAT Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

 

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A Motivational Quote to Help with Your Communication Challenges

Are you ever caught off guard during communication challenges?

Do you want to leave the table when others push you about your view about politics, religion, gender issues, sexual orientation or any other sensitive topic?

If so, please continue reading to discover my own communication challenges when others judge me rather than listen to my opinions.  Yes, I have the communication strategies that I share with clients.  I am also caught off guard like so many of you may feel at times.

So, Joyce How Do You Protect Yourself?

It’s exciting to have conversations with others about “hot” issues of the day.  It’s not exciting when others want to push their ideas on you rather than hear what you have to say.

I’m used to certain people who want to be heard and push their ideas to others.  I now prepare myself to leave the table so I don’t fall into that trap.  I say, “Let’s agree to disagree and let’s change the topic.” If they continue pushing their agenda, I continue the conversation, “I enjoy discussing different values and opinions with others.  I am uncomfortable when others push their agenda because this becomes a judgemental conversation and not open dialogue.”  I will walk away if they still continue because life is too short to be judged by bullies or others who don’t know how to have a real conversation.

I knew I had to create a new poster when I saw this quote on respect and hope that the motivational quote below will help you during your own communication challenges.

Joyce Weiss | motivational quote | communication challenges

Stay Connected with Me

Add a comment to my blog on how you deal with people who push their agenda during conversations.  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email HERE with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Find your voice with Joyce!

 

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New Facts About Stress and Inner Conflict

Suicide is a tragic experience whether in your personal life or in hearing about the recent news of celebrities,  Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain.  After watching a segment on CBS’s Sunday Morning called, “A life cut short:  trying to understand suicide”, that aired on June 10, 2018, I decided to share some facts of suicide, stress and inner conflict with you.

New Facts about Stress, Suicide, and Inner Conflict facts about stress

Suicide Prevention Lifeline (SPL) quotes the following:

  • 12 ½ million people think about suicide
  • 2000 teens kill themselves every year
  • SPL answer 2 million calls
  • SPL saves numerous lives daily

The suicide prevention hotline is 1-800-273-8255.

More Facts about Stress and Inner Conflict facts about stress

  • There are more suicides than car accidents
  • There are twice as many suicides than murders
  • Suicides are up 25% since 1999
  • 2000 teenagers commit suicide yearly

More Facts about Stress and Suicides 

  • Suicides are not spontaneous
  • Suicides don’t happen abruptly
  • 90% of people who commit suicide have a pre-existing mental disorder – whether diagnosed or not
  • Most people who commit suicide have been thinking about it for a long time

Fallacies about Suicide

I’ve spoken to numerous mental health professionals who agree that the three statements below are wrong.

Suicide is easy.
It may look easy, but the suicide victim had inner stress and demons that they may have hidden from loved ones for a long time.

Suicide is selfish.
It may look like a selfish act at first when they leave loved ones to suffer – especially children.  Again, the
demons take over.

Suicide is unstoppable.
Suicide isn’t stoppable for all cases, but there are startling instances that show how asking the right questions and going to suicide prevention groups have saved lives.

Thoughts about Inner Conflict from Joyce

The definition of despair means the complete loss or absence of hope.

Suicide victims feel like they have no other option.  Relatives and friends may feel guilty that they never saw it coming.  That is because the suicide victim doesn’t want others to see the extent of their despair.

Mental health professionals recommend that relatives and friends need to ask the following question to loved ones who are in such despair:  Are you thinking of suicide?   They tell us that this one question “could” bring the problem into the open for some victims.

The question we need to answer ourselves is:  – when does the suicide victim reach a threshold that they are compelled to take their life?  Many times, suicide happens after an event occurs in their life.  Suicide victims have a pre-existing condition and don’t act spontaneously – even though it may look that way at first.

I have learned some new approaches with loved ones who have a mental illness; for example, I give them flowers when they return from a stay in a mental facility.  Loved ones tell me how much they appreciate the flowers or books.  Each time I have given gifts the conversations are about how mental health patients are NOT treated like they have a disease.  It is sad to hear these comments.  It is their truth.  I feel that there is still a stigma for people who suffer from mental illness of any kind.  We need to treat them with the same care, respect, and love as we do with those who have a physical illness.  Neither illness can be helped.  It could be in their DNA.

Read more here about my article on “An Internal Fight Within All of Us.”

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on your experience with loved ones who suffer from mental illness.    What stories or techniques have you used that helped them with their inner stress?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work or home.

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This is Joyce Weiss

Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Until next time, Remember…“You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831