Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Communication Strategist and Master Coach

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Video #5: The GAP and Triggers to Protect Yourself From Bullies in the Workplace

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Do you know how to control yourself when bullies in the workplace push your hot buttons?

Welcome to the series Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the  Workplace.  This video gives you 2 strategies on how to protect yourself from bullies.

If you missed any of the previous videos, please click the links below:

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #1:  Use the GAP bullies in the workplace

  • The GAP helps us make a choice on how we react
  • It’s a space that we give ourselves to think about our response before we open our mouth
  • Get into the GAP instead of automatically responding
  • Recognize when you are angry and get into the GAP
  • Separate yourself from the criticism
  • Don’t take it personally

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #2:  Know your Triggers

  • Be aware of who sets you off
  • People do irritating things because that’s who they are – not because of who we are
  • Prepare yourself before you see your trigger who drives you crazy
  • Remind yourself that you don’t have to push back
  • You can decide how to react

More Thoughts from Joyce

The GAP and knowing your TRIGGERS are 2 powerful strategies that get me through many professional and personal gatherings.
There are certain people who drive me crazy.  I am human! 🙂  I know who these people are and prepare myself to leave the conversation earlier than I did before and take a deep breath to remind myself that I don’t need to get sucked into their negativity.  Clients thank me for these 2 ideas since they work!

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 to explore options for working with me as your private coach.  Find your voice with Joyce is one of our new taglines.

Discover blind spots and how your communication impacts the success of your career.  All sessions are conducted on the phone to fit your schedule and budget.  The good news is that it usually only takes a few sessions to improve your communication skills.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you control bullies or questions on how to control your bully. What stories or expressions help you get through the stress? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Please visit my YouTube channel or connect with me on LinkedIn where I have posted numerous stories about having tough conversations with difficult people.

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

 

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

If you missed any of the previous videos in the series, please click the links below:

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?

 

 

 

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Video # 4: Does Your Organization Have A Process to Deal with Bullies?

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Welcome to video #4 in the series – Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace

Does your company have a process to deal with bullies in the workplace?

This video and article describe 4 different levels of intervention.  Clients who use this process have seen positive results because leaders can address the bully with this system. It’s never easy having these tough conversations.  Leaders who don’t know how or who sweep these meetings under the rug eventually see the morale go down the tubes.

Productive individuals have left former jobs when leaders did nothing with bullies or other difficult people.  They found jobs in organizations where leaders know the importance of direct communication and accountability.  How many of your star employees have left your company?  I hope that these strategies will stop this from happening in the future.

You will find links to the other videos that you may have missed at the end of the article.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #1:  Informal Intervention

  • Talk to your bully over coffee or in your office.
  • Describe the disruptive behavior without sounding too critical.
  • The intention of this first meeting is to let the bully know that this behavior has to change.
  • If the bully gets defensive let him or her know that there are more professional ways to respond.
  • Discuss professional options.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #2:  Awareness Intervention

  • Collect data about bullying behavior.
  • Discuss how the quality of work is being disrupted.
  • Most people will adjust his or her behavior during this meeting.
  • There could be a blind spot with this bully and no one ever called it to his or her attention.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #3:  Authority Intervention

  • Leaders develop an evaluation plan with accountability built-in when behaviors persist.
  • Expectations need to be clear.
  • What behaviors need to be improved?
  • What actions will happen if the bully doesn’t change?
  • A timeline is presented.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #4:  Disciplinary Intervention

  • Talk to human resources and share your data.
  • The bully has been warned several times.
  • He or she “shouldn’t” be surprised with the outcome due to the clear expectations and previous interventions.

More thoughts from Joyce

As a career coach and communication strategist, I have seen the danger of bullies in the workplace when nothing is addressed.  It gets complicated when the boss is the bully!  Clients address their challenges and we explore powerful strategies.  Some of these strategies will be addressed in the next few videos.  Please visit my YouTube channel or connect with me on LinkedIn where I have posted numerous stories about having tough conversations with difficult people.

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 to explore options for working with me as your private coach.  Find your voice with Joyce is one of our new taglines.
Discover blind spots and how your communication impacts the success of your career.  All sessions are conducted on the phone to fit your schedule and budget.  The good news is that it usually only takes a few sessions to improve your communication skills.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your organization deals with bullies.  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Read More Here to learn how I can leverage my 30+ years as a career coach and communication strategist.
Kick Conflict to the Curb:  Get the respect you deserve! 😉

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

 

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

P.S.  You will find the previous videos in the links below.  Be prepared to learn strategies that will take your communication skills to the next level.

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens

 

 

 

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Bully Video #2: Are You a Target for a Bully in the Workplace?

Have you been a target of a bully in the workplace?
What did you do to resolve this situation?
Do you want to see how dangerous bullies are to your workplace?

People can’t walk over you unless you lie down.
Ann Landers, American Advice Columnist

Welcome to our new video series – Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace. 
Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 – Facts about Bullies in the Workplace.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

 

Who gets targeted by bullies in the workplace?

  • You are targeted because you pose a threat to him or her.
  • This is in the mind of the bully.
  • Targets are more technically skilled than the bully.
  • Bullies stalk targets who are better liked and have better social skills than the bully.
  • The bully’s target has a sense of integrity and is respected at work.

More thoughts from Joyce about bullies in the workplace

The challenge for my coaching clients is to see that they can have control with bullies in the workplace.  They feel like victims at times.  There are no victims without volunteers.  Once clients see the importance of breaking patterns, they start to see hope and are open to practicing the communication strategies during our sessions.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter
Martin Luther King Jr.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you’ve dealt with a bully in the workplace.  What strategy worked?  What ideas are speaking to you from the video series?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help you and your organization reduce conflict with bullies in the workplace here.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 – Facts about Bullies in the Workplace.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

 

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Video 1: Facts about Bullying in the Workplace

Do you want to know new facts about bullying in the workplace?
If so, you are in the right place.  I’ve created this series because clients tell me that they don’t know how to deal with these difficult people.
As a result, this blog is the 1st video from our new series, “Protecting yourself from Bullies in the Workplace.”

Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

  • Bullying is a form of violence
  • 1/3 of the US workforce experiences bullying
  • Bullying is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment
  • 40% of targets never tell their employers.

Think about your workplace for a moment.  Do employees feel safe to report bullies or is there an element of fear because they feel that they will not be listened to by leadership?  You will find valuable information that you can use with your own bullies in this blog series.  Feel free to share your bullying situation with me and I will send suggestions.

What is the definition of Bullying in the Workplace?

  • Sabotage over a significant amount of time
  • Verbal abuse, intimidation, or humiliation
  • It’s all about the bully’s personal agenda.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on your experience with bullies.  What stories or expressions help you get through the stress? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

 

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A. CSP
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

PS  Watch our introduction video to the series Protecting Yourself from Professional Bullies HERE.

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New Video Series on Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace

What role do you play when it comes to difficult people and those bullies in the workplace?
I ask the same question to my coaching clients who thought they had no power with bullies in the workplace.

Clients have asked me to add content on bullies in the workplace to my “Kick Conflict to the Curb to Get the Respect YOU Deserve” training.  The last 2 years have been fascinating doing my own research on the topic along with reading new information on bullies.

As a result of this journey, I’ve created a new video series called How to Protect Yourself from Professional Bullies.
Make sure to visit this blog for the next couple of months where you will find a new video on bullies in the workplace.  Send me questions and comments so I can personalize the video series

Video Topics that you will experience watching the Bullies in the Workplace Series

  • Are you a target?
  • How to protect yourself from bullies.
  • What formal process to use when working with bullies.
  • How to change a bullying environment.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your organization deals with bullies in the workplace.  What do your leaders need to do to control these difficult people? What stories or expressions help you get through the stress? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

READ more articles and listen to podcasts at our knowledge base bullying in the workplace HERE.

 

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Please connect with me on LinkedIn to find more information on bullies in the workplace along with new motivational posters.

 

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Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
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