Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Five Steps to Deal with Workplace Bullying

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Brennan O’Leary, MBA – Senior HR Professional

Brennan O’Leary, MBA – Senior HR Professional, has an interesting perspective on workplace bullying.

The video link in this post is a short clip from a longer interview with Brennan on my Live Broadcast Show: Kick Conflict to the Curb. 

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I promise to add many more clips from this engaging interview!

Take-a-ways to Deal with Workplace Bullying

  • The bully may have something going on at home and is taking it out at work.
  • We need to be adaptable to understand people.
  • Putting ourselves in others’ shoes is a skill that’s worth learning.
  • Being open-minded gives better results during tough conversations.
  • Honest conversations are the best way to work through conflict.

These ideas are all easy to put to use. I suggest that you select one or two steps and start implementing them. You will see your conflict reduced, especially with workplace bullies.

Thanks to Brennan O’Leary for such an engaging interview. I will invite him back to the show!

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

  • How do you deal with workplace bullying?
  • What message speaks to you most from this short video clip?

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a 30-minute exploratory session on any frustration or conflict you want to resolve. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. Send me an email and let’s set up this complementary session to reduce your stress! I’d love to connect with you.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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P.P.S. Subscribe HERE to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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Are You Ready to Destress on 2/24/ @ 6 pm EST – Videos

 

Welcome! You are invited to a special event on advanced communication and body language skills.

CO-HOSTS:
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP – Conflict Resolution & Communication Coach

Janette Ghedotte, MS, MA LLP – Truth & Deception Detection Expert

Invite you to attend our: Kick Conflict to the CURB event  

Thursday, 02/24/22 at 6:00 pm EST | 3:00 pm PST:

Register HERE for Kick Conflict to the Curb

  • Do you avoid a bully or tough conversation?
  • Are you feeling lost on how to even start the conversation?
  • Have you ever stayed silent when someone verbally pushed you?

If so, you’re invited to “Kick Conflict to the Curb” to discover how to:

✅ detect and decode body language:

✅ disagreement

✅ discomfort

✅ distress

✅ deceit

Navigate through tough conversations and minimize conflicts with proven conflict resolution skills so that you have the best outcomes.

Joyce and Janette offer you body language and communication strategies to maintain emotional control and get you unstuck so you can feel heard and get the results you deserve.

Click to register to Kick Conflict to the Curb

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share this invitation with those who could benefit from hearing from Janette Ghedotte (Truth & Deception Expert) and your own conflict resolution coach (me :))
It’s going to be full of new information and so much fun.

Janette and I have presented before and participants feel energized and more informed after our time together.

Click to register to Kick Conflict to the Curb

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Video #5: The GAP and Triggers to Protect Yourself From Bullies in the Workplace

#bulliesintheworkplace #bullies #coach #coachingworks #bullyingprevention #bullyvideo

Do you know how to control yourself when bullies in the workplace push your hot buttons?

Welcome to the series Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the  Workplace.  This video gives you 2 strategies on how to protect yourself from bullies.

If you missed any of the previous videos, please click the links below:

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #1:  Use the GAP bullies in the workplace

  • The GAP helps us make a choice on how we react
  • It’s a space that we give ourselves to think about our response before we open our mouth
  • Get into the GAP instead of automatically responding
  • Recognize when you are angry and get into the GAP
  • Separate yourself from the criticism
  • Don’t take it personally

Bullies in the Workplace Strategy #2:  Know your Triggers

  • Be aware of who sets you off
  • People do irritating things because that’s who they are – not because of who we are
  • Prepare yourself before you see your trigger who drives you crazy
  • Remind yourself that you don’t have to push back
  • You can decide how to react

More Thoughts from Joyce

The GAP and knowing your TRIGGERS are 2 powerful strategies that get me through many professional and personal gatherings.
There are certain people who drive me crazy.  I am human! 🙂  I know who these people are and prepare myself to leave the conversation earlier than I did before and take a deep breath to remind myself that I don’t need to get sucked into their negativity.  Clients thank me for these 2 ideas since they work!

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 to explore options for working with me as your private coach.  Find your voice with Joyce is one of our new taglines.

Discover blind spots and how your communication impacts the success of your career.  All sessions are conducted on the phone to fit your schedule and budget.  The good news is that it usually only takes a few sessions to improve your communication skills.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you control bullies or questions on how to control your bully. What stories or expressions help you get through the stress? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Please visit my YouTube channel or connect with me on LinkedIn where I have posted numerous stories about having tough conversations with difficult people.

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

 

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

If you missed any of the previous videos in the series, please click the links below:

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens
Video #4:  Does Your Organization Handle Bullies?

 

 

 

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Video # 4: Does Your Organization Have A Process to Deal with Bullies?

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#bullies #bulliesintheworkplace #coach #careercoach #communicationstrategist

Welcome to video #4 in the series – Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace

Does your company have a process to deal with bullies in the workplace?

This video and article describe 4 different levels of intervention.  Clients who use this process have seen positive results because leaders can address the bully with this system. It’s never easy having these tough conversations.  Leaders who don’t know how or who sweep these meetings under the rug eventually see the morale go down the tubes.

Productive individuals have left former jobs when leaders did nothing with bullies or other difficult people.  They found jobs in organizations where leaders know the importance of direct communication and accountability.  How many of your star employees have left your company?  I hope that these strategies will stop this from happening in the future.

You will find links to the other videos that you may have missed at the end of the article.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #1:  Informal Intervention

  • Talk to your bully over coffee or in your office.
  • Describe the disruptive behavior without sounding too critical.
  • The intention of this first meeting is to let the bully know that this behavior has to change.
  • If the bully gets defensive let him or her know that there are more professional ways to respond.
  • Discuss professional options.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #2:  Awareness Intervention

  • Collect data about bullying behavior.
  • Discuss how the quality of work is being disrupted.
  • Most people will adjust his or her behavior during this meeting.
  • There could be a blind spot with this bully and no one ever called it to his or her attention.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #3:  Authority Intervention

  • Leaders develop an evaluation plan with accountability built-in when behaviors persist.
  • Expectations need to be clear.
  • What behaviors need to be improved?
  • What actions will happen if the bully doesn’t change?
  • A timeline is presented.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #4:  Disciplinary Intervention

  • Talk to human resources and share your data.
  • The bully has been warned several times.
  • He or she “shouldn’t” be surprised with the outcome due to the clear expectations and previous interventions.

More thoughts from Joyce

As a career coach and communication strategist, I have seen the danger of bullies in the workplace when nothing is addressed.  It gets complicated when the boss is the bully!  Clients address their challenges and we explore powerful strategies.  Some of these strategies will be addressed in the next few videos.  Please visit my YouTube channel or connect with me on LinkedIn where I have posted numerous stories about having tough conversations with difficult people.

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 to explore options for working with me as your private coach.  Find your voice with Joyce is one of our new taglines.
Discover blind spots and how your communication impacts the success of your career.  All sessions are conducted on the phone to fit your schedule and budget.  The good news is that it usually only takes a few sessions to improve your communication skills.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your organization deals with bullies.  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Read More Here to learn how I can leverage my 30+ years as a career coach and communication strategist.
Kick Conflict to the Curb:  Get the respect you deserve! 😉

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

 

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

P.S.  You will find the previous videos in the links below.  Be prepared to learn strategies that will take your communication skills to the next level.

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens

 

 

 

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Bully Video #2: Are You a Target for a Bully in the Workplace?

Have you been a target of a bully in the workplace?
What did you do to resolve this situation?
Do you want to see how dangerous bullies are to your workplace?

People can’t walk over you unless you lie down.
Ann Landers, American Advice Columnist

Welcome to our new video series – Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace. 
Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 – Facts about Bullies in the Workplace.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

 

Who gets targeted by bullies in the workplace?

  • You are targeted because you pose a threat to him or her.
  • This is in the mind of the bully.
  • Targets are more technically skilled than the bully.
  • Bullies stalk targets who are better liked and have better social skills than the bully.
  • The bully’s target has a sense of integrity and is respected at work.

More thoughts from Joyce about bullies in the workplace

The challenge for my coaching clients is to see that they can have control with bullies in the workplace.  They feel like victims at times.  There are no victims without volunteers.  Once clients see the importance of breaking patterns, they start to see hope and are open to practicing the communication strategies during our sessions.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter
Martin Luther King Jr.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you’ve dealt with a bully in the workplace.  What strategy worked?  What ideas are speaking to you from the video series?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help you and your organization reduce conflict with bullies in the workplace here.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 – Facts about Bullies in the Workplace.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831