Are you tired of all the drama at work?
Do you want to find out how to stop gossip?
Are you ready to transform your department from spreading rumors to an engaging team?

This short video gives you a strategy that will help you make the conversation safe and get great results. At least you will start the conversation and not keep in inside – feeling unheard!

Strategy #1: Stop Gossip Now

Start out the conversation by saying, “I don’t want to…”

For example, “I don’t want to create stress between us.” This statement is a great way of making the conversation safe. You aren’t judging the other person. You just want to start a calm discussion.

Strategy #2: Stop Gossip Now

Once you told the person what you “don’t want”, it’s time to add the 2nd part of the strategy.
continue by saying, “I do want…”.

For example, “I do want to have a necessary conversation about office morale.” This statement is your way of saying, “this isn’t going to continue.

Strategy #3: Stop Gossip Now

Once you express yourself using both “I don’t want…” and “I do want…”, this is how it could sound:

I don’t want to create stress between us.
I do want people to communicate directly with each other when they have an issue with a team member. We are better than this. Our office morale is very important to our team.

That’s it! Making conversations safe is the 3rd step in the WEISS COMMUNICATION SUCCESS PLAN.
I’ve got you covered. You’ll receive all steps in the plan in future articles.

Let’s Stay Connected

Can you see how powerful this strategy is for your business and life? I suggest that you use this plan at least daily for a week to feel comfortable with it. Implementation is the name of the game.

What questions do you have on your own communication challenges? Send me a comment directly in this post or send me an email; Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com and I will get back to you and address your concern.

Until next week,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Are you ready to learn some exciting news and strategies about confidence?
Would you like to support others in your life who need to be more confident?

I’m a proud member of the World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit (WBECS). I learn the latest techniques about Master Coaching to share with my clients and loyal readers to support their professional growth. Jennifer Paylor, Author of Cracking the H Code shared fascinating information about humility. Many of the coaches on the call were under the wrong impression about humility. Some thought that humility was a weakness and lowering yourself to the importance of others.  Wow! This is wrong!  Who knew? You’ll receive more information on this in future articles.  Let’s get started so we can all feel more confident about who we are and what we stand for in this crazy life.

Strategies About Confidence #1:  Humility is NOT a Sign of Weakness

Humility is about learning and asking questions. How do you show up when you don’t have the new skills?

It’s all about the following:

• Being open-minded and showing up this way
• Learning from failure

Strategies About Confidence #2:  Knowing That You Need Help

People who show humility know that getting support for things that they don’t know is part of being successful.  My goal in coaching is to have clients feel more confident in their life after we practice new strategies and implement them. Practicing and implementing is 50% of our success and wanting to change is the other 50%.

I teach an online course, Kick Conflict to the Curb: Get the Respect YOU Deserve. Every class blows me away with their willingness to admit that they enrolled because they want to become more confident during tough conversations. This openness is why the classes have been such a success. I seem to attract people who believe in professional growth and they bring an open mindset to the class!

Strategies About Confidence #3:  Being Vulnerable is Part of Showing Humility

The path to mastery is starting off vulnerable knowing that it is not always easy. I recently became a Certified Virtual Presenter from Espeakers. We learned about Zoom and all the technical issues to correct when they appear. It looks good on paper. The reality is that we can’t control bandwidth issues all the time. There will be Zoom bombers. Some people don’t know how to use zoom and we need to show them during the meeting.

I love it when the stars are lined up during my Zoom classes! My mastery is working! Yet, when there are poll issues, the break-out rooms don’t work, or microphone issues with participants – this is when true humility shows up. I’m comfortable in my skin. I’ve practiced and learned. Yet when I’m not in control, I just accept this and show my vulnerability and laugh while I do my best to fix the issues. We need to start off being vulnerable to learn complexity.

It’s Your Turn to Share YOUR Thoughts on Strategies About Confidence

• How does this article speak to you?
• How have you shown your vulnerability when you learned something new?
• Did you know that humility is a sign of strength?

Please share your thoughts in the comment section. We just realized that the comment section was turned off for weeks! This is a perfect sign of humility! We didn’t know until some of you told us. The Joyce Weiss Team did NOT blame or complain. We didn’t know. We fixed it. And all is well. 🙂

You can always send me a private email HERE if your answer is too personal. I will get back to you! I hope that you know that I CARE about my clients. I do what I do as a Master Coach and Communication Strategist is to help the world feel more confident during the tough conversation, one person at a time!

Have a great week!

Remember, you Get What YOU Tolerate!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please check out our new website about our online course: Kick Conflict to the Curb HERE. Let’s explore if this class is right for you, your direct reports or colleagues who you feel would benefit from working with me and the other communication rock stars for 6 weeks.

P.P.S. Call me and I promise not to push or sell anything! Let’s see if the course matches your communication goals.  Reach me at 800.713.1926 or my cell: 248.325.8101

Wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas, New Year and whatever holiday you may celebrate!

This is a great time of the year to reflect on what you need and want to do to make your life as positive as possible.
Some people tell me that they need to cut back watching as much tv as they do so they can read more.  Others want to start exercising more and eating less sugar. We all have certain aspects of our life that we can improve.

I saw Michelle Obama’s quote and thought it was a great message to end the year.

 #motivationalquote
#MichelleObama
#takingcareofyourself

I bike ride during the Michigan spring, summer, and fall almost daily and miss being on my bike during the winter. My son heard me complain about this dilemma and suggested that I take my bike downstairs and put it on a trainer.  This great idea allows me to use my bike during all 4 seasons.  Some of you may wonder why I don’t use a recumbent bike.  The reason is that I LOVE my bike.  That’s it.  End of story.  🙂  Plus I walk as much as I can outside because I’m one of those human beings who happens to like cold weather!

What do you want or need to change to put yourself on top of your to-do list?
Please write your answer on the blog or send me an email HERE.

Hope your holidays are just like you want them to be!  See you next year.

Warmly,  Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Communication Strategist and Career Coach

#favoritequote
#orangeisthenewblack

I enjoy watching Orange is the New Black because of the characters and the inmates’ stories.  This quote screamed out to me when I heard the character Tastee say this strong message to her cellmate.

A relative recently asked me, “Joyce,  why do you put so much time into your career?”  Believe me, it was not out of concern.  She was sarcastic and judgmental!  I said, “I’m working hard not to judge me.  I wish you’d do the same.”  She backed off immediately.  I said it gently even though I wanted to be sarcastic myself.  Hey, I teach this stuff and better communicate directly and in a respectful way.

How can you use this quote with colleagues or relatives?  It’s a good one to store for future reference. 🙂

Send me an email HERE if you have your own method of stopping people who judge you.

Share if you agree with Tastee’s words.

This is Joyce Weiss
Communications, Career and Coaching Expert

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Thanks to Lauren Stewart who creates these motivational posters for me.  Let me know if you want me to share more of them with you.