humility Archives - Joyce Weiss

What a gift when we look back and see how we’ve grown or overcome conflict.
This awareness is priceless. One of my passions is supporting others to find those hidden lessons.

This post is about humility and knowing yourself.

Two Questions to Ask About Humility

How would you answer these two questions?

1. What would you tell your 18-year-old self?
2. How have you changed since you were in high school?

Human Resource Professional Hernando Flowers was a guest on my show – Kick Conflict to the Curb™. The conversation was engaging, and his answers to these two questions took us deep into a fascinating dialogue.

Hernando started out by saying, “Department Managers and Leaders wear so many hats. We can’t be frustrated at first. It takes time to discover our specialty.”

I added that many leaders show no signs of humility. They have all the answers and are not open to hearing from others.

More Ideas About Humility

At 18, most of us think that we have all the answers. We are impatient and become frustrated waiting.

Hernando covered the following ideas on humility:

We don’t have all the answers.
Surround yourself around people who have different skills than you.
Realize your weakness, and learn from strong team members in this area.

We continued discussing the importance of humility as a leader.

Watch the video below to discover a few more tips that Hernando shared during the interview.

How would you answer the two questions?

1. What would you tell your 18-year-old self?
2. How have you changed since you were in high school?

I would tell myself to trust myself even when others told me I “couldn’t do something.” It took a while to discover this awareness. I now help others trust themselves and stop that negative self-talk.

Let’s Stay Connected

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Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Do you know why humility is so important these days?
Have you thought about how others need to use humility more in their life? {Not sounding judgmental here, just asking. :)}

The video and article below describe the characteristics of why humility is so important. I will ask you a couple more questions at the end of this post. Sound good?

https://vimeo.com/501855175

Why Humility is so Important Strategy 1: Humility is NOT a Weakness

Humility is:

Knowing that you don’t have all the answers. This is a sign of strength!
Realizing when you need help. Another sign of strength!
This leads to Mastery because it’s all about self-improvement.

Zoom is a perfect example. I became a Certified Virtual Presenter through e-speakers. They taught me how to use all the gadgets like breakout rooms, chat, camera skills, and knowing what to do when you get kicked out due to power issues. We’ve all seen leaders on zoom and other platforms who crack under pressure if the screen isn’t’ shared or they don’t how to control the mute button when there are dogs barking or babies crying.

I now know why humility is so important after becoming certified. I’ve experienced the following challenges:

the screen froze
share screen function didn’t work
the microphone wasn’t working
the internet was weak and kept on kicking us out of the meeting

In the past, I was not in control of the meeting and let the technology issues take over the entire training. This was a hard lesson to learn. If I can do this, so can you! Now, the reality is that I laugh during virtual training when IT issues happen. I’m not in charge of the internet – neither are you! We can still be human and when this happens. People are very forgiving. When we are in control of a meeting, we need to be role models for those who may not understand why humility is so important. We need to show them that we are not perfect. Imagine that!

Why Humility is so Important Strategy 2: Joyce’s Challenge for YOU

I challenge you to:

1. Know when you need help. Remember this is a sign of strength. Masterminds are hotter than ever because they work. I’m in 2 and they have helped me and all the mastermind members grow constantly.

2. Stay curious. Keep taking classes. There is the BEST training on youtube. Online courses are easy to find. My click funnel experts, Doresa Ibrahim and Shasta Grifka are testing my humility at this time. They are teaching me a new platform to host our new online courses and contacts. It’s new, hard, and not fun to learn. Even though I realize that we will get through this after becoming more familiar with the A-Z client system, BUT it’s hard and I’m kicking all the way to the finish line. I’m being real here, dear readers! The good news is that being curious is what started us to find a better platform. Humility is kicking in for me for sure. It’s also hard to be patient. Thanks to Doresa and Shasta for being so understanding and it’s great that I trust both of them. Hopefully, they won’t fire me as a client for being so darn real. 🙂 Does this sound familiar to any of you?

3. Trust yourself when things are not perfect. Mistakes are part of mastery. You already know this. It’s still not easy showing our humility at times. It’s worth having such a belief in yourself and others who may be coaching you that you will get through it.

4. Be comfortable in your own skin. There will be times when discomfort appears. That’s also a good sign. This could mean it’s a learning lesson or life is telling you something new about your own humility. Pay attention. Learn. Be curious. It’s all good.

Let’s Stay Connected!

1. What are some of your thoughts about this article and video? Those of you who share either in the comment section below or send me an email will receive a new video (that I have not posted yet) about using props to engage your virtual meetings. It’s short and contains tips to liven up your virtual meetings.

2. Please share a time when you were challenged by your own humility. We all have our stories!

3. Hey, Dear Readers, I’m here for you when you have questions about your own communication or relationship “challenges.” Feel free to send me an email. Full disclosure here: I don’t charge anything when people send me questions or comments via email. Staying connected is what it’s all about for me.

Have a Great Week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Master Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

Remember, You Get What YOU Tolerate!

P.S. Career Advancement is like riding a bike: Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!

Humility: Some Leaders Have It and Other’s Don’t – Video