Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Two Little Known Tips to Reduce Conflict – Video

Are you ready to learn two little-known tips to reduce conflict during tough conversations?

I use the tips I share in the video in virtual group coaching sessions. Participants practice with each other in breakout rooms, which work like a charm.

Think about the tips to reduce conflict before you open your mouth

  • Make the person feel heard and understood
  • Speak their truth before you speak yours
  • Be curious and open

You will find two magical tips in the video that you can use during uncomfortable situations.

Here’s the first tip to reduce conflict

“What changes need to be made to make this work for you?”

This question can reduce tension because you ask for their opinion rather than sounding judgmental or giving your ideas first.

Watch the video for the next “magical question

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Let’s stay connected

Please share how you use tips to reduce conflict during challenging situations.

Plus, feel free to ask questions.
Let’s start a meaningful conversation. 

People want to feel heard. Once they feel safe, the conversation is a bit easier.

Are you ready to disrupt your status quo?

Discover what it costs you or your direct reports when conflict is not resolved.

  • Money?
  • Relationships?
  • Inner Peace?
  • Staying Stuck?

Call me at (248.681.5831)  to discuss how you or your direct reports can Kick Conflict to the Curb™ 

Read another article HERE about Quick Tips to Reduce Conflict Quickly. 

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are by the side of the blog. 

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel www.youtube.com/joyceweiss for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports
to reduce stress and conflict.  You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

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Five Steps to Deal with Workplace Bullying

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Brennan O’Leary, MBA – Senior HR Professional

Brennan O’Leary, MBA – Senior HR Professional, has an interesting perspective on workplace bullying.

The video link in this post is a short clip from a longer interview with Brennan on my Live Broadcast Show: Kick Conflict to the Curb. 

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I promise to add many more clips from this engaging interview!

Take-a-ways to Deal with Workplace Bullying

  • The bully may have something going on at home and is taking it out at work.
  • We need to be adaptable to understand people.
  • Putting ourselves in others’ shoes is a skill that’s worth learning.
  • Being open-minded gives better results during tough conversations.
  • Honest conversations are the best way to work through conflict.

These ideas are all easy to put to use. I suggest that you select one or two steps and start implementing them. You will see your conflict reduced, especially with workplace bullies.

Thanks to Brennan O’Leary for such an engaging interview. I will invite him back to the show!

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

  • How do you deal with workplace bullying?
  • What message speaks to you most from this short video clip?

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a 30-minute exploratory session on any frustration or conflict you want to resolve. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. Send me an email and let’s set up this complementary session to reduce your stress! I’d love to connect with you.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe HERE to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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Workplace Bullying:  2 Steps to Overcome It and Fight Back | Part 1

This is Part 1 in a series of blogs that cover workplace bullying.

  • Do you have bullies at work?
  • Are you a target for these dangerous people?
  • What do leaders do to stop bullies?

    Indian Activist Gandhi said, “Bullies are always found where there are cowards.”

    This quote speaks such truth.  Bullies are like spoiled children who are jealous of others on the playground.


Facts About Workplace Bullying workplace bullies |challenges at work | bullies in the workplace

Bullying is a form of violence. In addition, they don’t have to throw a single punch to do lasting damage to another person’s heath. Plus, they affect your organization’s fiscal health.

Bullying is experienced by more than ⅓ of the Us workforce. And it is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment.

These facts must be shared with leaders who let workforce bullies get away with their behavior. Coaching clients who are not leaders share these facts with their boss.

A Description of  Workplace Bullying

  • Sabotage over a significant amount of time
  • Verbal Abuse
  • Intimidation
  • Humiliation

Mistreatment severe enough to compromise a worker’s health and interpersonal Destruction are both devastating for the bully’s target.

Add all of these together, and you’ll discover it’s about the bully’s agenda!

Look for more strategies next week on fighting back against workplace bullies.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel www.youtube.com/joyceweiss for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports
to reduce stress and conflict. You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

 

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Turn a Negative Situation Around to Reduce Conflict

Coaching clients share their frustration with not being able to turn negative situations around more and more these days. When a conflict occurs, many people believe they can’t say or do anything to fix it.  Plus, if they just lay low, they can escape any repercussions.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Turning a blind eye to things or hoping for a negative situation to resolve on its own will only lead to frustration.

This post covers how to handle an internal negative situation.  Next week you’ll receive strategies on how to resolve an external negative situation.

Here’s An Easy Tip to Resolve a Negative Internal Situation

An internal situation could be a co-worker who is continually negative and dragging the team down. Or it could be an employee who’s lazy. Unfortunately, most people think dealing with such internal situations is the manager’s job only. But in fact, anyone can take steps to address such issues.

Simply saying something like, “I don’t want to create stress between us. I do want to discuss why our department needs to work together. Especially because we don’t have the manpower as we did two years ago.”

This statement helps diffuse someone’s negativity. Granted, you can’t expect to step in and be the super-hero who saves the company from negative people. You can have the courage to step up and state the facts in a Direct with Respect® way.

Some people are so used to negative people or a destructive culture that they just stay stuck. It’s a risk that’s worth taking.  If you don’t – and you chicken out now– you’ll pay the price later.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. I decided to take a risk and start interviewing thought-provoking leaders LIVE on my show: Kick Conflict to the Curb™.  Please join me on June 1, 2022, at 1 pm Eastern. You’ll hear Diane DiResta share powerful strategies on Confident Communication. Hey, how can I talk with my coaching clients or loyal blog readers to take risks if I’m stuck in the same routine?
Hope to see you there!

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How to Stop Your Top Talent Leaving | Video

Is your top talent leaving?

Do you know why they leave?

Do you want to do something about this?

Watch the video below to discover 3 powerful phrases that can stop your stars from leaving your company.

Are you ready to discover how to lower the chance of this from happening?

Let’s address the elephant in the room

Many leaders don’t even ask the reason why top talent is leaving.

They don’t have the skills or don’t know that asking WHY can help keep star employees from exiting.
Coaching clients who implement these communication skills report back to me with some great news. Additionally, they ask hard questions to these great employees.
Many times this important discussion stopped their employees from leaving the company.

Step 1: Stop Your Top Talent Leaving

Help them feel heard. 

Here’s an example:
An HR Professional client, Bob described how his employee Sue was very productive but had lost her motivation.
Bob spoke to Sue and discovered that Sue was risk-averse.

Things were changing too fast for her. She didn’t feel secure or heard.
Additionally, Bob asked Sue how he could help her feel more secure.

Step 2: Stop Your Top Talent Leaving

Here are phrases that will help you immediately:

  • Tell me more
  • I’m curious
  • I noticed

    This is how Bob used these powerful communication strategies:

    “I noticed that normally you add a lot to our team. Lately, I haven’t heard you share. Is everything ok?”

    First Sue opened up about how she doesn’t do well when things change so rapidly. Next, she felt less stressed when Bob took the time to ask her how he could help. And, by listening to Sue’s challenges.

    These phrases help set the stage for having an open conversation. Plus the other person feels heard.

    I Invite You to a FREE Webinar – “Speak Up without Stressing Out” sponsored by BigVu.

It takes place LIVE on 3/3 at 3 pm EST. 

Discover How to:
      * Start a tough conversation
      * Get into a safe place before you open your mouth
      * Control your frustration/anger with difficult people
      * Feel comfortable recording your videos

Click on the graphic below to go live on youtube on 3/3 at 3 pm EST. Make sure to put this event on your calendar! 🙂

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Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831