Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Computer/Internet Addiction Causes and Effects

As you know I share articles from colleagues from time to time.  This article written by Mel Bellfield is extremely interesting.  Many of us are addicted to the computers and the internet and WE KNOW IT!  But what to do? blog cats working

Check out how your communication skills may be impacting your success at work at the end of the article.

Computer Addiction – A Worrying New Problem
As we all know, computers and the internet have transformed the way in which we live and work. In many cases, this transformation has been for the better. It is a rare business indeed which could conduct itself without the aid of computers nowadays! However, the internet can also be a source of problems within the workplace. Browsing the internet during ‘downtime’ or even during work time can become problematic, productivity-wise, and measures like restricting the use of certain websites are likely to cause conflict between managers and workforce.

More desirable is if employees choose of their own accord to use the internet responsibly – but this is becoming harder and harder as our culture becomes more and more saturated with cyberspace. A growing problem is that of ‘computer addiction’, which can cause as many workplace troubles as any other addiction – if not more so.
‘Computer addiction’ or ‘internet addiction’, while known about for years, has only recently made it into the definitive list of mental disorders, the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders.

However, what the manual has to say about it is worrying. According to leading experts in the field, as many as one in every four children may have an internet addiction. This manifests in the same manner as any other addiction – with compulsive seeking out of the internet, a sickly euphoria when on a computer, and even withdrawal when internet access is restricted. In a workplace, it can result in antisocial behavior, in a loss of productivity, in lack of motivation, and in problematic behavior regarding workplace computers. If you suspect that internet addiction may be a problem in your workplace, then you need to act immediately.

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Send me any comments that you may have about this article. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life. Let them know about the “Communicate with Impact Weekly” so they can sign up for their own weekly articles.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist

I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients resolve their conflict and they get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me (800.713.1926) concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

See YOU Next Week.

PS  Discover how your communications skills impact your success at work. Take the quiz.
www.CommunicationSkillsatWork.com/quiz

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Making Time for Yourself is a Necessity, Not a Luxury

clock and hammer bigThe holiday season is so busy for most of us!  Shopping, parties, increased travel, family gatherings, returning gifts and so on and so on!

People tell me that they never have time to do what they really want to do – their day is just too full.  A key message in my work/life balance program –Take the Ride of Your Life!  Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy is… Making time for yourself is a necessity, not a luxury. We do several exercises to uncover what barriers we ALL need to remove so we can enjoy our life even more.… [Continue reading]

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So, You Want to do it ALL? Burn Out May Be Good For You!

Some of you sent me a message stating that the radio show link was not working on your system from the blog post that I sent last week.  I decided to resend this blog with a new link so that you can experience a very spirited and powerful interview with host Jim Blasingame who created the Small Business Advocate Radio Show.

I do hope you were intrigued by the title:  Burn Out May Be Good For You!

Do you…

  •      Find it hard to delegate?
  •      Wonder if you will ever catch up?
  •      Crash at the end of the day without doing something that you want to do?

If you answered yes to only one of these statements, please continue reading this article.

Jim Blasingame, founder of the Small Business Advocate has invited me to be a guest on his radio show numerous times each year.  Both  of us have upbeat and VERY interesting conversations about how to succeed in business.  I decided to share a personal story that happened to me this summer.  He loved the idea on how I turned burnout into something positive.

Click HERE to listen to Jim Blasingame’s interview with me on How Burn Out May Be Good For You!

JIM BLASINGAME is the creator and award-winning host of The Small Business Advocate Show, a syndicated columnist, and author of Small Business Is Like A Bunch Of Bananas, Three Minutes To Success, and The Age of the Customer: Prepare for the Moment of Relevance.  He is one of the world’s foremost experts on small business and entrepreneurship.  You can reach Jim at jim@jbsba.com. 

Thoughts From Joyce

I learned the following valuable lessons when I burned out this summer:

  • Sometimes the body is smarter than our brain.  Start looking at the signs when you get sick.
  • Think about what change you need to make when you don’t enjoy what you do (at home or work).
  • Decide what you need to delegate or get rid of to let you do what you want to do.  (I decided to refer some of the lower paying programs to speakers bureaus
    or other colleagues.  This is a win/win.  I can then concentrate on the clients who I WANT to work with in the future).
  • Take time to reflect why you are burning out.  Are you sleeping enough, eating right, or taking time for YOU?  If not start a small list of what you can change.  You may need to change how you think about work or home.  This is the biggest hurdle that I see when I consult others.  Whose life is it anyway? 
  • High Achievers break (not over achievers…that sounds negative)…they don’t bend.  That is why we break down physically. 
  • Start listening to our relatives or friends when  they tell us how we are burning both ends of a candle.  Don’t become defensive…thank them!

 Click here for my short article on Why Burnout Can Be Good For You.

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A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, accountability coach, and a Certified Speaking Professional. To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
Visit her website at JoyceWeiss.com to sign up for your own FREE video series and Communicate with Impact Weekly to Resolve Conflict in the Workplace.

Was this helpful?

Please send me any comments that you may have about this article. Hit the link at the end of this post to share your ideas or questions. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients get a better night’s sleep!

Feel free to call me concerning your own team/executive retreats, workshops, on line professional growth coaching, and keynote speeches.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

 PS  Click here for my short article on Why Burnout Can Be Good For You.

PPS  See you next week!

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Go From FEAR to In GEAR

Joe Brown and Adrienne Coleman at BCBSM
Joe Brown and Adrienne Coleman at BCBSM

Joe Brown, from Blue Cross Blue Shield of MI brought me in to speak and do a book signing during National Management Association week in Detroit.  Thanks to Joe Brown and Adrienne Coleman who made me feel like part of their Blue Cross Blue Shield family.  I read from the chapter STRESS:  “I’m afraid to take off the training wheels” – Go From Fear to In Gear. 

This post consists of a powerful story from my book, Take the Ride of Your Life!  I hope that you enjoy the message as much as Joe and Adrienne’s team did.  They asked very powerful and insightful questions during the discussion.

Alyce’s Story

Alyce is a crisis counselor for abused women. She understands the power of asking for and giving help. She spent her earliest childhood in a Louisiana migrant camp. She remembers watching her mom pick tomatoes, cucumbers, strawberries, apples, peaches, and cherries under broiling southern skies.

“My first bike did not even have wheels. It was a real old Schwinn. Everybody took turns pushing each other on it, because it didn’t pedal,” she recalled.
“It had a big seat on it, and we pretty much taught ourselves to ‘ride’ it. All the kids took turns holding the bike and pushed each other until we skinned our knees. We had a ball.”
It wasn’t until Alyce turned eleven or twelve and moved to Michigan that she got her first new bicycle.

When Alyce thinks about her bikes she has some keen insights. 
“That first bike wasn’t complete. Yet, a bunch of kids got together and supported each other so we could all play. Then all of a sudden, I had a bike that I could ride myself. It’s like my life. I love doing things with people, for people. I’m much more content with this than being by myself. I’m happy with my life. Now I have a full bike with everything
on it — and I’m sharing it.”

Click here to order your own copy of Take the Ride of Your Life.  It is an easy summer read to help you Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy.

Joyce’s Thoughts
Many of us don’t ask for help because we think it is a sign of weakness. Asking for help is a strength. It is a sign that you are taking care of your own needs.
Sit down and create a list of people who can help you feel less pressured. Problem-solving gives you control of the situation; it allows you to create your own positive
environment amid the stress of everyday chaos. Problem-solving is another technique that moves people into action. It gives control, versus staying stuck and complaining about
the same old things.

Gear-Shifting Action Steps
1. Write the name of a negative person who brings you down. Problem-solve a plan to protect yourself.

2. Who is a cheerleader in your life? What does this person do to encourage you?

3.  Who are you a cheerleader for? How do you encourage this person to be the best he or she can be?

4. On the left side of a paper, make a list of the situations that troubled you last year. On the right side, list the effects of each situation. Hopefully the items on the
right side won’t seem so important.

What worried me one year ago?
What are the consequences?
At work?
At home?
With relationships?

Now make a list of the troubles you’re facing today.
Visualize how they will turn out one year from now.
What worries me today?
What will be the consequences?
At work?
At home?
With relationships?

Want to Use this Article in Your Newsletter or on Your Website?

Of course! You are welcome to print this, and any other articles we send, if you use the following byline:
A recognized expert on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace, Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP is an author, accountability coach, and a Certified Speaking Professional.
To book Joyce to speak at your event or company call: 800.713.1926 or email: Joyce@JoyceWeiss.com
Visit her website at www.JoyceWeiss.com to sign up for your own FREE video series on Resolving Conflict in the Workplace and Communicate with Impact Weekly.

Was this Helpful?

Please send me any comments that you may have for this article. Hit the link at the end of this post to share your ideas or questions. Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts to reduce conflict at the workplace and home. There may be someone in your life who is feeling stressed out…who could benefit from the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Business Conflict Resolution Consultant
I help people become top level leaders who get GREAT results.
How do I do this?
I teach them to tackle the tough conversations with bullies and negative people to build employee engagement, accountability, and rock star performance…
The Result? My clients get a better night’s sleep!

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

P.S. Click here to order your own copy of Take the Ride of Your Life.  It is an easy summer read to help you Shift Gears for More Balance, Growth and Joy.

 

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Do You Remember Your First Bike Ride?

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I hope you enjoy another story taken from my book, Take the Ride of Your Life!

Monica’s Story

Monica, a freelance web designer, has an incredibly positive outlook
today, especially as a woman who overcame depression.
She tells of her first bike, a blue one. Her dad taught her how to
ride and she learned very fast. “Dad was always very cautious, whether
it was when I learned to ride a bike or when I started to date.”
When she learned how to ride a bike it helped her gain more independence.
“I remember riding farther and farther away, toward more forbidden places.”

Monica’s Bike Lessons

As a parent, she enjoyed teaching her sons to ride their bikes.
“My older boy learned to balance on his bike when we removed the pedals.
He would get up really early and practice before school.
Once he found his balance, we reattached the pedals.
Now he’s off exploring with his friends and even going off-road.

What to do When You Fall Off your “Bike“

“Sure, he’s had some bad falls.
But what is so fascinating is that before he learned to ride, he was very cautious.
The occasional scrape would reduce him to tears.
Now, he races up to the house, hops off the bike, puts on a Band-Aid, and he’s gone again.
He’s become so much braver — and tougher —since he got his ‘wheels.’

Joyce’s Bike Lesson Tip of the Day

I challenge you to ask yourself if you are a coach helping others grow
or a negative roadblock stopping any progress.
The choice is always there how we move forward.
So, get on your bike, enjoy the ride and slap on that Band-Aid to keep moving!

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Please send me your bike story.  Place your comments in the comment box at the end of this post.
Who taught you how to ride?
What memories do you have about that important time in your life?
What lessons did you learn from your parents or other adults when you were a child?

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Please let others know about these blog posts on reducing conflict at the workplace and home.
There may be someone in your life who is experiencing some stress…who could benefit from
the inspiration and knowledge on improving their working condition or home life.

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here to order your own copy of Take the  Ride of Your Life!
It is an easy summer read.

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Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831