Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Video # 4: Does Your Organization Have A Process to Deal with Bullies?

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Welcome to video #4 in the series – Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace

Does your company have a process to deal with bullies in the workplace?

This video and article describe 4 different levels of intervention.  Clients who use this process have seen positive results because leaders can address the bully with this system. It’s never easy having these tough conversations.  Leaders who don’t know how or who sweep these meetings under the rug eventually see the morale go down the tubes.

Productive individuals have left former jobs when leaders did nothing with bullies or other difficult people.  They found jobs in organizations where leaders know the importance of direct communication and accountability.  How many of your star employees have left your company?  I hope that these strategies will stop this from happening in the future.

You will find links to the other videos that you may have missed at the end of the article.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #1:  Informal Intervention

  • Talk to your bully over coffee or in your office.
  • Describe the disruptive behavior without sounding too critical.
  • The intention of this first meeting is to let the bully know that this behavior has to change.
  • If the bully gets defensive let him or her know that there are more professional ways to respond.
  • Discuss professional options.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #2:  Awareness Intervention

  • Collect data about bullying behavior.
  • Discuss how the quality of work is being disrupted.
  • Most people will adjust his or her behavior during this meeting.
  • There could be a blind spot with this bully and no one ever called it to his or her attention.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #3:  Authority Intervention

  • Leaders develop an evaluation plan with accountability built-in when behaviors persist.
  • Expectations need to be clear.
  • What behaviors need to be improved?
  • What actions will happen if the bully doesn’t change?
  • A timeline is presented.

How to stop bullies in the workplace intervention #4:  Disciplinary Intervention

  • Talk to human resources and share your data.
  • The bully has been warned several times.
  • He or she “shouldn’t” be surprised with the outcome due to the clear expectations and previous interventions.

More thoughts from Joyce

As a career coach and communication strategist, I have seen the danger of bullies in the workplace when nothing is addressed.  It gets complicated when the boss is the bully!  Clients address their challenges and we explore powerful strategies.  Some of these strategies will be addressed in the next few videos.  Please visit my YouTube channel or connect with me on LinkedIn where I have posted numerous stories about having tough conversations with difficult people.

Please contact me at 800.713.1926 to explore options for working with me as your private coach.  Find your voice with Joyce is one of our new taglines.
Discover blind spots and how your communication impacts the success of your career.  All sessions are conducted on the phone to fit your schedule and budget.  The good news is that it usually only takes a few sessions to improve your communication skills.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your organization deals with bullies.  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Read More Here to learn how I can leverage my 30+ years as a career coach and communication strategist.
Kick Conflict to the Curb:  Get the respect you deserve! 😉

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

 

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

P.S.  You will find the previous videos in the links below.  Be prepared to learn strategies that will take your communication skills to the next level.

Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully
Video #3:  Why Bullying Happens

 

 

 

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A Great Humorous Quote by Robert Frost

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#RobertFrost  #FavoriteQuote  #FavoriteQuotes  #Humor

The moment I saw this quote, is the moment that I knew I had to share it with you.  Humor is all around us even during tough times.  I’ll never forget a professor in my death and dying course when I attained my Master’s Degree in Guidance and Counseling.  He told us that we need humor especially when life gets in the way.  I thought he was off base at the time.  I now know the importance of his statement once I’ve experienced loss in my life.

I had a very warm and sweet father with a huge smile.  The only time he got mad at me was when I dyed my hair when I was 12 and it accidentally turned orange.  He pounded his hands on the ping pong table in my home in Oak Park MI and said, “Joyce, Why?  Why?” My mother and sister heard his loud words coming through the walls upstairs.  I told this story during his eulogy because I wanted to share this memory with our family and friends.  This story brought smiles to everyone listening.  That was the plan! 🙂

‘We honored the memory of Joseph Morris that day.  I even wore red.  Who wears red to a funeral?  This was my father’s favorite color.

I want to hear from you

What about you?  When have you used humor during a tough moment in your life?  How has humor helped you?  What humorous quotes do you use to get you through difficult times?

You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve their quality of life.

 

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Corporate Communication Strategist and Accountability Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

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A Motivational Poem to Boost Your Outlook on Life

Are you ready for a motivational poem to give you a boost in your outlook on life? A coaching client sent me Dr. Benjamin E. May’s poem – “Just a Minute.” Once I read “Just a Minute” I knew I would share it with my readers because it is such an important reminder for all of us!

I’ve only just a minute,
Only sixty seconds in it.
Forced upon me, can’t refuse it,
Didn’t see it, didn’t choose it,
But it’s up to me to use it.
I must suffer if I lose it,
Give an account if I abuse it,
Just a tiny little minute,
But eternity is in it.

motivational poemWho is Benjamin Elijah Mays?

Benjamin Elijah Mays was an American Baptist minister and civil rights leader who is credited with laying the intellectual foundations of the Civil Rights Movement. Mays taught and mentored many influential activists: Martin Luther King Jr, Julian Bond, Maynard Jackson, and Donn Clendenon, among others. 1894-1984.

More Thoughts from Joyce about this Motivational Poem

How much time do we waste? Too much. We all know people who get bent out of shape with the smallest stress – especially things that we can’t control.

Managing our time = managing our thoughts = managing our actions.

I’ve gone on many vacations when the weather is not picture perfect. Some people deal with it and still walk in the rain. Others complain about the weather for the entire trip! I was speaking in Alaska during the rainy season. Guess what? It rained! There were other trainers with me and some of them talked about the constant rain every minute! I wish I had a copy of “Just a Minute” with me to give to these downers!

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you manage your time. What expressions help you get through your stressful day? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂 You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A. CSP
Corporate Communication Strategist and Accountability Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

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Video #3 in the Series Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace

#BulliesIntheworkplace  #bullies  #CommunicationStrategies

I have an important question for you:  What is done when bullies take over in your workplace?
Clients tell me that bullies in the workplace are not punished and thrive when there is no established rule.  No one in the company has the will to stop bullying!   Many times leaders just don’t know how to change this environment.  This is one of my motivations for creating this new video series.  All the 14 videos are perfect for you to share with your team.  They are short and each one has strategies for you to put to use right away.

Welcome to the video series – “Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace.”
This video will give you information on why bullies get away with their destructive behavior.

How companies can change a toxic environment with bullies in the workplace

  • Make enforcement procedures
  • Intervene
  • Education and training are critical
  • Start documenting complaints
  • Create a code of honor to be clear about accountability when bullies in the workplace take over

Most bullies would stop if rules change and bullies are held accountable with clear expectations from leadership.

More thoughts from Joyce on bullies in the workplace

I know that this topic is hitting home to many of my readers because they send me private emails about bullies in their life.  The last few videos in the series have dealt with the definition of a bully, are you a target, and not being victimized by bullies.  We need to look internally when we meet these difficult people and take the communication skills that we already have and put them out there.  Our new tag line is “find your voice with Joyce.”  People want to be heard and gain control back.  The next videos will have strategies on what your company can do and actual words you can say.  Stay tuned because there are 14 videos in the series.

Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 and #2.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your company handles bullies in the workplace. You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

 

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Accountability Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS  Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 and #2.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace
Video #2:  Are you a Target for a Bully

 

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Bully Video #2: Are You a Target for a Bully in the Workplace?

Have you been a target of a bully in the workplace?
What did you do to resolve this situation?
Do you want to see how dangerous bullies are to your workplace?

People can’t walk over you unless you lie down.
Ann Landers, American Advice Columnist

Welcome to our new video series – Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace. 
Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 – Facts about Bullies in the Workplace.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

 

Who gets targeted by bullies in the workplace?

  • You are targeted because you pose a threat to him or her.
  • This is in the mind of the bully.
  • Targets are more technically skilled than the bully.
  • Bullies stalk targets who are better liked and have better social skills than the bully.
  • The bully’s target has a sense of integrity and is respected at work.

More thoughts from Joyce about bullies in the workplace

The challenge for my coaching clients is to see that they can have control with bullies in the workplace.  They feel like victims at times.  There are no victims without volunteers.  Once clients see the importance of breaking patterns, they start to see hope and are open to practicing the communication strategies during our sessions.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter
Martin Luther King Jr.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how you’ve dealt with a bully in the workplace.  What strategy worked?  What ideas are speaking to you from the video series?  You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

Learn how I can leverage my 30+ years of leadership consulting and coaching experience to help you and your organization reduce conflict with bullies in the workplace here.

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Please watch the links below if you missed the intro and video #1 – Facts about Bullies in the Workplace.
Intro Video to Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace
Video #1:  Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831