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January 5, 2021 By Joyce Weiss

A Fascinating Study on the Power of Negativity in the Workplace

Gale Research conducted a study on the Power of Negativity in the Workplace.The survey only consists of two questions.

Would you rather:
1. Accept a $10,000 pay raise knowing that you would be working with a negative person?
2. Keep your current salary and not work with a negative person?

The video below will give you the results.

Results from the survey: The Power of Negativity in the Workplace

25% of those surveyed would accept the $10,000 pay increase knowing that they would be working with a negative person.
74% of those surveyed would stay at their current salary and work with a negative person.

Were you surprised? Clients share how much stress they experience at work because of only one complainer on their team. It takes a few sessions to create an action plan on how to deal with the complainer. At times we can try several strategies and nothing seems to work. That’s when we have to ask ourselves what else we need to do. The answer is usually changing our mindset. Not easy. But necessary.

I’ve included a link at the end of this post to an article on THE GAP – a safe place to go before you open your mouth. This is a great strategy to use when you need to remind yourself that the negative person is not attacking you, they are negative because of their situation. At times we personalize things a bit too much – not a judgment, just being real here. 🙂

Step into the GAP and remind yourself that you can do the following;

Walk away
Say something safe
Speak your truth

How Can We Use the Study of The Power of Negativity to Our Advantage?

I’m hearing about so much stress and drama going on these days at work. We need to discover why great employees are leaving your company. They may not tell you that they found another job because of a negative colleague or leader at your company. Most people keep their reasons internally because they don’t want to open up a can of worms.

Think about the cost of retraining someone new and the loss of experience. One of the best ways to reduce negativity in the workplace is to make sure that everyone feels heard. Ask more questions, including all levels of your workforce in key decisions. Speaking to your negative person is something that leaders need to do in order to reduce the toxic environment from appearing. They need to be made aware that negativity, gossip, silence, or bullying are not acceptable in your workplace.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts on the negativity survey and content of this article. Tell us about your experience working with a negative person and how you did or did not resolve the situation.
Send me a private email HERE if you have a question about your own stress at work or even at home. I will answer your email immediately. Let’s get the conversation started. 🙂

I added an article below if you want to read more about THE GAP – how to get into a safe place before you open your mouth.

Here’s an article about THE GAP. Enjoy and let me know what “speaks’ to you.

Until Next Time,
Have a great week!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

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November 24, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Control Your Triggers for Less Drama During the Holidays

Do you know how to control your triggers?
Would you like a little inspiration on how to stay positive when you are with people who irritate you?
Are you tired of people complaining about their life yet don’t do anything to change?

Welcome to my world! I recently took a class at the World of Business and Executive Coaching Summit (WBECS) and the speaker seemed to talk just to me. 🙂
She explained how coaches attract people who are working on the same issues as the coach. I delved into that statement and I was amazed at how true it is. Clients call me to so they can feel more confident in their communication with bullies and other tough situations. You know, that I’m the Queen of Conflict Resolution and know all about triggers! 🙂

So what about you? Look at the people in your life. What kind of friends or colleagues do you seem to attract? The great news is when we attract people with the same positive qualities as you. The bad news is when we also attract negative triggers (people or situations that become stressors for us).

Joyce, How Can We Control Our Triggers?

It’s not easy! The first step is to know your triggers. Who or what causes you to react negatively?
Now that you know your triggers, plan how you will stop yourself from reacting.
You can walk out of the room, tell them that you have an appointment and get off the phone, or do your best to stay away from them.
We all need support these days. We also need kind honesty and feedback when we don’t see negativity seeping into our conversations.
Constructive feedback is a gift when it’s done with good intentions.

There may be times when you MUST be with your triggers. Not to worry.
I suggest that you look at them as a chair. You don’t get mad at a chair for being a chair. Don’t get mad at people for who they are – it’s usually their issue and not ours. We make it our issue and we can stop that once we know that we can change our internal conversations. Stop saying, “I can’t take him or her anymore” to “I’m in control of how I feel and you are a chair, so you can’t really push me!”
This is definitely a strange way to talk to yourself. It works, so try it before you roll your eyes. 🙂

How Does Wonder Woman Control Her Triggers?

I love Gal Gadot’s role as Wonder Woman. I saw a recent quote of hers,

I do me.
You do you.
I’d rather have you not like me at this moment than not saying my truth.

When we control our triggers, we have a better chance of what comes out of our mouths. This will be your magic sauce!

Do your best to step back and think what the best solution is for you. Is it better to be silent or speak your truth? We can control our triggers once we realize that we have choices on how to react.

Let’s Stay In Touch

Please share how you control your triggers in the comment section. What is your secret sauce? What issues are you still having with your triggers?

I’m here as your own Master Coach. Send me an email HERE if you have a private question to ask.

Until next time,
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
The Queen of Conflict Resolution

PS I hope that these ideas will help you enjoy your holidays – especially when those irritating people open their mouths.

May 5, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Negative People are Part of Our Reality!

It’s true that negative people are part of our reality.
Here’s a powerful question for you – How many times do you remind yourself that you don’t need to be with people who bring you down?
We all know this, yet many of us don’t know that we can set boundaries and actually change this reality.

Yearly I do a serious job of spring cleaning for clothes, the house, and relationships that are toxic. You heard me right. We all have those people who constantly complain yet never change anything in their life. Life is too short to be around negative people who rain on our or their parade.

Start thinking about how you can and need to spend more time with those who make you laugh, smile, think, learn, etc. We all have our own definition of toxic people. Remember this the next time you speak to a friend who complains about everything. I’m not saying to end the relationship all the time. Implement a plan to be with those who support you and bring joy to your life.

Please let me know how this motivational poster on negative people speaks to you in the comment section.

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Please contact me at my cell 248.310.6998 or 800.713.1926 to explore how career coaching could be a great action step for your career development. There are many options to fit your budget and time schedule! My last 4 clients have asked me to help them feel more comfortable with their public speaking skills. It only takes a few sessions to make this happen. Hey, what can I say? I’m quick and clients use their new public speaking skills immediately. A win/win for all. 🙂

Until next time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Have a great week.

Remember, YOU Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Career Advancement is like riding a bike. Shift Gears from coasting to owning the road!
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April 28, 2020 By Joyce Weiss

Joyce Weiss says to Run Away from Negative People

#negativepeople #motivationalquote

One of my favorite quotes on negative people is, “Don’t walk away from grumpy people, RUN!

Nuke the Negative People

Write the names of negative people who bring you down. Plan to protect yourself from their negativity. Take back your power. Only you can make yourself feel insecure. Tell yourself that no one makes you feel inferior without your consent. It’s the negativity that is so dangerous. It is extremely contagious.

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Replace people who pull you down with people who encourage and appreciate you. The choice, in many cases, is up to you. Who encourages you during tough and positive times?

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This is Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP
Career Coach and Communication Strategist

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

P.S. You will receive more messages like this in the next few posts. I am taking the quotes, artwork, and strategies from my 3 booklets. This one is from 19 Secrets for Successfully Navigating Life’s Potholes, Ruts, and Obstacles.