Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Transform Self-Doubt Into Action: Are You Ready?

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What if you could eliminate some of your self-doubt?
Are you telling yourself, Joyce, that’s not realistic? If so, you’re right! Sometimes we can take that self-doubt and turn it into an action step.

I had a chance to interview Chris Felton, Author of Think and Grow YOU, on my show Kick Conflict to the Curb™. Chris told me that he used to be a professional growth junkie, especially when he listened to podcasts and read profound books without applying the principles. 

Chris figured this out years later. In fact, he read or heard about a new professional growth strategy and started to apply it to his life.

Chris Felton’s “What If” Excercise to Reduce Self-Doubt

With this in mind, we think of a goal for ourselves. This is when our ego stops us. “We are too old.” “I am too young.” “You lack the right experience.”

Chris changed his self-doubt and started using the WHAT IF exercise in his life.

As a result, he changed “I don’t have the right experience” to “What if I have the right experience?” This shift from self-doubt to possibility was the beginning for Chris to stop his ego from stopping him. He now helps clients do the same thing.

The Power of the “What If” Excercise to Reduce Self-Doubt

What Chris Felton’s WHAT IF exercise does is reverse that cycle and use it as a tool for possibility. Each of us has a wealth of potential inside us. The challenge lies in transforming that potential into concrete action.

This is where Chris’s approach truly shines, as it can help anyone, regardless of their stage of life or experience, harness the power of their thoughts and, more importantly, put them into action.

This is not a shallow exercise in positive thinking without action. The first step is to stop our ego from keeping us stuck. The next step is to think of a realistic action step and start using this immediately.

The mind accepts repetitive thoughts, especially when we follow up with these words: “What do I have to do?”

Joyce’s Thoughts About the “What If” Excercise

Chris’s journey demonstrates that change and personal growth are feasible. More than just an intellectual exercise, it is a practical one that involves consistent and dedicated action. To break free from the constraints of self-doubt, we must challenge our negative assumptions with optimistic WHAT IFS.

It’s about cultivating a mindset of possibility tempered with realism and following up with tangible steps. And remember, it’s not about achieving perfection but about making progress, however small it might seem at the time.

No matter how many self-help books we read, podcasts we listen to, or motivational speeches we attend, it’s all meaningless without application. The essence of real transformation lies in applying learned principles in our daily lives. That is the magic formula—turning our WHAT IFS into ‘What’s Next’ from dreams into action.

Take a page from Chris’s book and practice his ‘WHAT IF exercise. As we’ve learned, the potential results could be life-changing.

Finally, many professional growth junkies enjoy learning new ideas without implementing them. I always add the following formula in articles about putting thoughts into action: “Insight is 20%, and implementation is 80%.

Watch the short clip from Chris’s interview about the What IF Exercise.
https://youtu.be/Kw3obDn87is

Let’s Stay Connected

I honor my loyal readers. And the door is always open for you to discuss any conflict with me on a Complimentary VIP 20-minute coaching session. 

What will you get from the call?

  • Get extreme clarity on one of your current challenges
  • Understand what is necessary to get you from where you are to where you want to be
  • Create an action plan so you know what your next steps are

THIS IS NOT A SALES CALL! 🙂

All you have to do is email me, and we can easily find time for each other.

Who is Joyce Weiss?

Joyce is the Queen of Conflict Resolution and works with Department Managers and Leaders and Growth-Minded Individuals tired of feeling invisible or overlooked and ready to confidently use their voice – without losing their cool. The result is their input and contribution are recognized and respected. And their expertise is in constant demand. 

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
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Thanks for reading, and remember – You Get What You Tolerate!

 

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Are You Ready for Four Tips to Stop Taking Things Personally?

Taking things personally is something that most of us experience. This post reminds us that we must stop thinking that difficult people or bullies know what we are all about. They don’t! We need to stop ourselves from feeling hurt when others put us down or use sarcasm. It is usually all about THEIR issues!

Don Miguel Ruiz is the author of “The Four Agreements.” It’s a powerful book with simple ideas for complicated times. Let me know which agreement “speaks” to you.

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Taking Things Personally Tip #1

Agreement #1 is to Be Impeccable with Your Word.

I feel we need to stand up for what we believe in, especially during tough conversations. This is the time for us to stand up for ourselves and use our voices. It’s not healthy to hold on to our thoughts because we will react negatively – either erupt like a volcano or get an ulcer!

Coaching clients finally feel comfortable when they learn how to speak up for themselves. It’s rewarding as a coach to see clients get tough and brave – without losing their cool in only a few sessions. 

Taking Things Personally Tip #2

Agreement #2 is Don’t Take Things Personally. 

Once we learn this tip, our lives become less complicated. Mean-spirited people have issues and try to influence us with their rude or nasty behavior. This is when we need to tell ourselves that it has NOTHING to do with us. I know it’s easy to say. But, it’s possible.  Trust me on this one. 

Bullies used to make me feel unconfident. Until I learned that they don’t have power over me. I am responsible for how I feel, not these rude people. These days I look forward to the challenge with bullies. It’s a game for me. Hey, I better be a role model for clients and my loyal readers. 

Taking Things Personally Tip #3

Agreement #3 is Don’t Make Assumptions.

I know what some of you are thinking! Joyce, be real here – we all make assumptions. Of course, we do. This doesn’t make it right. Assumptions get all of us in trouble. How many times have you had the first impression of someone and found out later that your assumption was wrong? Again, this reminds us that we can do better than that.

Taking Things Personally Tip #4

Agreement #4 is Always Do Your Best.

I’m writing to the choir right now. You do your best because you are reading this blog post. My readers are professionals who strive to become the best version of themselves.
Does this sound familiar? Thought so. 🙂

We all have friends, colleagues, or family members that need to read articles on constant learning and growing professionally. You can always share any of my posts with them. They may be ready to hear the message.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a 20-minute exploratory session on any frustration or conflict you want to resolve. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.

Are you ready to discover how you react before, during, and after conflict?
Do you want to reduce your inner stress by discovering blind spots and what triggers set you off? 

Send me an email, and let’s discuss how the Conflict Dynamic Profile can help you resolve your conflict and improve relationships.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

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Are You Ready to Destress on 2/24/ @ 6 pm EST – Videos

 

Welcome! You are invited to a special event on advanced communication and body language skills.

CO-HOSTS:
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP – Conflict Resolution & Communication Coach

Janette Ghedotte, MS, MA LLP – Truth & Deception Detection Expert

Invite you to attend our: Kick Conflict to the CURB event  

Thursday, 02/24/22 at 6:00 pm EST | 3:00 pm PST:

Register HERE for Kick Conflict to the Curb

  • Do you avoid a bully or tough conversation?
  • Are you feeling lost on how to even start the conversation?
  • Have you ever stayed silent when someone verbally pushed you?

If so, you’re invited to “Kick Conflict to the Curb” to discover how to:

✅ detect and decode body language:

✅ disagreement

✅ discomfort

✅ distress

✅ deceit

Navigate through tough conversations and minimize conflicts with proven conflict resolution skills so that you have the best outcomes.

Joyce and Janette offer you body language and communication strategies to maintain emotional control and get you unstuck so you can feel heard and get the results you deserve.

Click to register to Kick Conflict to the Curb

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share this invitation with those who could benefit from hearing from Janette Ghedotte (Truth & Deception Expert) and your own conflict resolution coach (me :))
It’s going to be full of new information and so much fun.

Janette and I have presented before and participants feel energized and more informed after our time together.

Click to register to Kick Conflict to the Curb

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

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Keep Toxic People from Ruining Your Holidays | Part 2

This article is part 2 in the series on Keeping Toxic People from Ruining Your Holidays.

You’ll find a link to part 1 towards the end of this article which explores tips 1 and 2.

Tip 3 for Keeping Toxic People From Ruining Your Holidays

Knowing what kind of behavior makes these toxic people so irritating is an important step.

  • Do they usually arrive late?
  • Are they oblivious to how their hurtful behavior affects others?
  • They constantly judge or hurt others. And, you are emotionally drained with this insensitive behavior. 
  • Being the center of attention is their #1 motivation.  Additionally, they constantly interrupt others.

Tip 4 for Keeping Toxic People From Ruining Your Holidays

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Don’t sugarcoat how obnoxious their behavior is and how it impacts the gathering. 

Speak with a trusted family member or friend to discuss how to stop letting these toxic people get away with their rudeness.

Set boundaries as to what you will and will not tolerate.

Set time limits: if dinner starts at 6 P.M., start exactly at that time and let everyone know if they are late, dinner starts without them. 

Tip 5 for Keeping Toxic People From Ruining Your Holidays

Do expect to have a great get-together. And, if someone is detracting from that, resolve that this person will be “educated” on these boundaries. 

Always remember that you have absolutely no social or familial obligation to be victimized—ever.

Here’s the link to part 1 in the series.

Joyce, How Can You Help Us Deal with These Difficult People?

I’m glad you asked!

A client of mine had the following conversation with a relative a couple of weeks after Thanksgiving.

“Tim, we’ve had the same conversation for years on how politics are off the table during our family parties. Our family is sensitive to the fact that we have several varying opinions about politics. We agreed NOT to bring up these topics because they lead to much discomfort. 

I’m frustrated when you and I have had this same conversation because the same negativity occurs every year. I love getting the gang together. It’s a yearly highlight.

Next year you will not be invited because it’s more important than ever before to enjoy each other’s company and feel safe around each other without judgment.”

You may wonder what happened after this tough conversation. The toxic relative found another group to join. This was extremely hard for my client. Yet, the great news is that she felt empowered because she was direct, respectful, and honest. 

Let’s Stay Connected

Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

So what about you? Do feel that my coaching advice was too tough?
Can you see changing it around to fit your communication style? Or, will you continue letting these rude individuals take over?

The choice is yours. You know I was going to end with that comment. 😉

Let’s brainstorm any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.
Here’s my calendar. Let’s reduce your inner stress!

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

P.P.S. I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

P.P.P.S Are you {or your direct reports} ready to explore working with me as your private coach?

Call me at 248.681.5831 or send an email to discover how easy this process is. Plus these packages fit with anyone’s budget and schedule.
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Keep Toxic Family Members From Ruining Your Holidays

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I hope this poster caught your attention! Was it the words – toxic family members?

This is the time of year for self-care. We need to protect ourselves from those toxic people in our life. 

  • Are you tired of getting a lousy night’s sleep because of toxic relatives or friends?
  • Do you want to reduce that inner stress?

Coaching clients are asking me to help them prepare for family gatherings. Especially those with those difficult family members or friends.
I have first-hand experience in this area. The good news is that my inner stress has improved by using the tips in this article.

Look for part 2 next week. I have so many examples to share either from my life or my clients’ experience.

Tip 1 for Keeping Toxic Family Members From Ruining Your Holidays

Get everyone to agree on what topics are off the table.

You know your family. Do you have those who share their political opinions knowing that this will stir things up?
If so,  express your concern and say something like, “Let’s stay away from politics to make sure our holiday meal is enjoyable for everyone.”

Someone has to stop your holiday from being ruined by that bully or rude guest. I vote that it’s you – even though there’s always a risk when we open our mouths. 

Tip 2 for Keeping Toxic Family Members From Ruining Your Holidays

What to do if you are a guest at someone’s house and you don’t feel comfortable with excessive drinking or toxic conversations. 
Why stay if you are so uncomfortable. Self-care is knowing how to leave the table when respect is no longer being served.

I’ve left a few gatherings in my life when either the conversation or drinking is bothersome. I’m not a prude! This is about taking care of yourself.
We don’t need to be around toxic people who don’t stop their difficult behavior.

Let’s Stay Connected

  • Please share your thoughts about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
  • How have you handled your toxic family members?
  • You can share in the comment section or send me a private email.
  • Let’s brainstorm any conflict you are experiencing during a complimentary 20-minute laser-focused coaching call.
  • Here’s my calendar. Let’s reduce your inner stress!

Until Next Time,

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below. 

P.P.S. I’m the Human Resource Professional’s Partner. I coach their employees and managers to feel comfortable using their voice without losing their cool – so they feel heard and respected.

 

 

 

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831