Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Video 1: Facts about Bullying in the Workplace

Do you want to know new facts about bullying in the workplace?
If so, you are in the right place.  I’ve created this series because clients tell me that they don’t know how to deal with these difficult people.
As a result, this blog is the 1st video from our new series, “Protecting yourself from Bullies in the Workplace.”

Facts about Bullies in the Workplace

  • Bullying is a form of violence
  • 1/3 of the US workforce experiences bullying
  • Bullying is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment
  • 40% of targets never tell their employers.

Think about your workplace for a moment.  Do employees feel safe to report bullies or is there an element of fear because they feel that they will not be listened to by leadership?  You will find valuable information that you can use with your own bullies in this blog series.  Feel free to share your bullying situation with me and I will send suggestions.

What is the definition of Bullying in the Workplace?

  • Sabotage over a significant amount of time
  • Verbal abuse, intimidation, or humiliation
  • It’s all about the bully’s personal agenda.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on your experience with bullies.  What stories or expressions help you get through the stress? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company.

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

 

This is Joyce Weiss, M.A. CSP
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, Remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

 

PS  Watch our introduction video to the series Protecting Yourself from Professional Bullies HERE.

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New Video Series on Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace

What role do you play when it comes to difficult people and those bullies in the workplace?
I ask the same question to my coaching clients who thought they had no power with bullies in the workplace.

Clients have asked me to add content on bullies in the workplace to my “Kick Conflict to the Curb to Get the Respect YOU Deserve” training.  The last 2 years have been fascinating doing my own research on the topic along with reading new information on bullies.

As a result of this journey, I’ve created a new video series called How to Protect Yourself from Professional Bullies.
Make sure to visit this blog for the next couple of months where you will find a new video on bullies in the workplace.  Send me questions and comments so I can personalize the video series

Video Topics that you will experience watching the Bullies in the Workplace Series

  • Are you a target?
  • How to protect yourself from bullies.
  • What formal process to use when working with bullies.
  • How to change a bullying environment.

I want to hear from you

Add a comment to my blog on how your organization deals with bullies in the workplace.  What do your leaders need to do to control these difficult people? What stories or expressions help you get through the stress? You will receive a response from me because I enjoy connecting with my readers! 🙂  You are always welcome to send me a private email with concerns that you are experiencing at work.

Please share this and any article that speaks to you or your company

Loyal readers like you help us find more people who could benefit from these posts. Help us help them reduce conflict and improve leadership skills and quality of life.

READ more articles and listen to podcasts at our knowledge base bullying in the workplace HERE.

 

This is Joyce Weiss
Corporate Communication Strategist and Career Coach

Have a great week.

Until next time, remember…”You Get What You Tolerate!”

PS Please connect with me on LinkedIn to find more information on bullies in the workplace along with new motivational posters.

 

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Bullying Strategies Video to Improve Personal Relationships

Bullying Strategies is a topic that my clients constantly ask me to speak about to improve morale.  Sure bullies exist in the workplace.  My question is do you deal with a bully who happens to be your friend or relative?  If so the video and article below will give you 5 strategies to help you gain more control. You will learn how to deal with a bully who may be in your personal life.  Are you ready for 5 strategies to help you gain back control and most importantly…your respect?  These strategies will support you especially when there are disagreements about politics.

Bullying  Strategies #1:  Make the conversation safe

Start out the conversation with the bully by using “I don’t want to…I do want to…”
“I don’t want to create stress between us.
I do want to have an open and honest conversation with you.”

Bullying Strategies #2:  Use the power talk formula

“I was upset at the party when I was attacked in a critical tone of voice because I was sharing my opinion.  I was pushed and became defensive.  I was caught off guard and thought about what happened later on in the evening.  Friends don’t judge friends.  We all disagree at times and that’s what makes our relationships stronger.”

Bullying Strategies #3:  Be specific describing the bullying behavior

At times people are not aware when they roll their eyes or sound judgmental.  There are times when they know exactly how they are acting! This is the time in the conversation that you give details on the bullying behavior that caused you to become defensive.

Bullying Strategies #4:  If necessary talk about blind spots

If the person denies his or her actions, this is the time for you to talk about blind spots.  Tread carefully with this strategy.  This is an advanced coaching skill that can either bring you success or failure depending on how you spin this part of the discussion.  It’s a great tool to use when the other person is open to your feedback.  Don’t use this when he or she comes defensive and starts closing down.

I feel it’s worth the risk because this is when you can go deeper into the conversation.

Bullying Strategies #5:  Try to remember that it’s usually a weakness of the bully when he or she attacks

It usually has nothing to do with the target.  You can even ask the bully if he or she is ok since you have never experienced this behavior in the past from this person.  This will take the focus off of you.  The bully may open up or not.  The main idea is that you expressed your concern and stood up for yourself.

Thoughts from Joyce

Many of my clients share that they experience bullies more and more these days.  The good news is that there are many great books and resources on bullying.  Don’t let the bully harass you.  Set the stage immediately that the conversation will be safe, use be direct with respect®, be as detailed as possible to make your feedback clear, discuss blind spots if necessary, and remember that You Get What You Tolerate!

I want to hear from you!
CLICK HERE to send me your questions about bullies in your personal life.  Please share how you have resolved these issues.  

Until next time,
This is Joyce Weiss, Communication Strategist and Coach
I look forward to helping my clients resolve their communication issues either at home or work.  The result is that they stop thinking about the stress at night and get a better night’s sleep! 🙂

READ HERE If you want to find out how about my services so I can help you or your team deal with bullies.

PS  Do you want to read previous articles on Bullying Strategies?
Read more Top Tips on Bullying in the Workplace and Home

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831