Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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Why Bullying Happens in the Workforce

I’m asked why bullying happens in the workforce more so these days. And, the better question to ask is why leaders allow bullying.

This is part 3 in the series – How to Handle Bullies at Work.
Additionally, you’ll find the first two article links at the bottom of this post.

Why Bullying Happens

  1. Bullies are not punished and thrive when there is no established rule.
  2. No one in the company has the will to stop bullying.

Also, these are 2 reasons why star employees jump ship. They are sick and tired of these dangerous people allowed to get away with their violent behavior.

Bullying is Under-Reported BULLYING

  • 40% of targets never tell their employers
  • Bullying is erroneously branded as conflict or difference in personality styles
  • Complaints lead to retaliation 
  • Targets figure it’s easier not to report bullies to leadership

All these reasons lead to “the great resignation.” Coaching clients tell me that they leave because they found new positions at a company that values anti-bullying cultures. As a result, this hurts because many times they find new positions in a competing organization. Ouch!

The links below take you directly to the first two articles in the series; “How to Handle Bullies at Work.”

Handling Bullie at Work | Part 1
How to Handle Bullies at Work   | Part 2

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you? How does your company deal with bullies? 

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and you are always welcome to reach out to me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. It’s all about looking for the 2nd right answer.

Here’s the link if you want more information about working with me to resolve your relationship or career conflicts.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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2 Small but Powerful Tips to Handle Workplace Bullies

Your attitude affects how you handle workplace bullies.

Welcome to the series “Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace.” 
This week’s post describes how to change our attitude to feel more confident.  I know this is nothing new!  It’s all about attitude!

The better we feel about ourselves, the fewer times we have to knock someone down to feel tall!

Odetta, American Singer and Actor

I would like to give bullies Odetta’s quote – wouldn’t you?

Tip #1:  Your Attitude Affects How You Handle Workplace Bullies handle workplace bullies

 Brad, my coaching client, practiced how to make conversations safe with me before he had the tough conversation with his bully.

Brad’s bully listened to him after the interaction.  This bully was not aware that his words hurt others.  No one had the nerve to speak with him.  Brad did, and the bully now has respect for him. 

Instead of saying, “Why do you like insulting our team members?”  Brad changed this to, “Let’s discuss how we can communicate better with everyone on our team.”  The bully was included in the conversation. Everyone felt safe and discussed solid solutions.  A win/win was the result.

Tip #2:  Create a Plan to Handle Workplace Bullies

What can you do?

  • Stop complaining about the bully to others who can’t help you
  • Create a plan on how to start the conversation
  • Go to leadership or Human Resources
  • Practice the communication skills that you learned in past blog posts. You can also search for videos on my YouTube playlists HERE 

Here’s a disclaimer!  It’s always a risk to have tough conversations.  At least you tried!  You didn’t stand still and take this difficult person’s constant sarcasm or criticism.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to reach out to me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. And resolve relationship issues at work or home.

It’s all about looking for the 2nd right answer and asking, “what else?”

Here’s the link if you want more information about working with me to resolve your relationship or career conflicts.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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Workplace Bullying:  2 Steps to Overcome It and Fight Back | Part 1

This is Part 1 in a series of blogs that cover workplace bullying.

  • Do you have bullies at work?
  • Are you a target for these dangerous people?
  • What do leaders do to stop bullies?

    Indian Activist Gandhi said, “Bullies are always found where there are cowards.”

    This quote speaks such truth.  Bullies are like spoiled children who are jealous of others on the playground.


Facts About Workplace Bullying workplace bullies |challenges at work | bullies in the workplace

Bullying is a form of violence. In addition, they don’t have to throw a single punch to do lasting damage to another person’s heath. Plus, they affect your organization’s fiscal health.

Bullying is experienced by more than ⅓ of the Us workforce. And it is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment.

These facts must be shared with leaders who let workforce bullies get away with their behavior. Coaching clients who are not leaders share these facts with their boss.

A Description of  Workplace Bullying

  • Sabotage over a significant amount of time
  • Verbal Abuse
  • Intimidation
  • Humiliation

Mistreatment severe enough to compromise a worker’s health and interpersonal Destruction are both devastating for the bully’s target.

Add all of these together, and you’ll discover it’s about the bully’s agenda!

Look for more strategies next week on fighting back against workplace bullies.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel www.youtube.com/joyceweiss for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports
to reduce stress and conflict. You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

 

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One Small but Powerful Tip to Stop Feeling Stuck at Work

Feeling stuck when resolving conflict is one of the biggest issues that most of us face. feeling stuck
Recognizing the fact that you’re feeling stuck is #1. Now how in the world to resolve this conflict?

The next few blog posts cover actual case scenarios shared by colleagues or clients such as:

  • Micromanagers
  • Bullies
  • Not feeling heard
  • Inner stress of Human Resource Professionals
  • Imposter Syndrome (Am I good enough?)

This week’s topic is what to do when you’re feeling stuck in a job or career.

Asking “What Else” when You’re Feeling Stuck

This case scenario is something that I experienced a couple of years ago. Hey, those of you who know of my work realize that I’m as real as they come. You hear of my own challenges and how I resolve them because it’s important to me to relate with others as a human being! 😊

I was working with a coach, and I told her that I wanted to find an entirely new client base since I was transitioning from keynote speaking to honing my coaching skills.

My issue was that all the social networking posts didn’t work. Additionally, no one commented and I knew that I needed to do something new.

The coach asked me, “Joyce what do you need to do?” I said, “make my emails stronger”. She asked, “what else?”
She kept on asking me “what else” for about 30 minutes.

The answer appeared when I realized that I needed to start sharing all the services that I offer as a communication and conflict resolution coach. None of us want to be the best-kept secret, right?

This was huge for me. I was giving solid content. And, readers didn’t really know how I could help them.

I stopped feeling stuck and I’m now sharing solid content plus sprinkling in my services.

What About You? What Do You Need to Do to Stop Feeling Stuck?

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and you are always welcomed to reach out to me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. It’s all about looking for the 2nd right answer and asking, “what else?”

Here’s the link  to more information about working with me to resolve your relationship or career conflicts.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel www.youtube.com/joyceweiss for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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Turn a Negative Situation Around to Reduce Conflict

Coaching clients share their frustration with not being able to turn negative situations around more and more these days. When a conflict occurs, many people believe they can’t say or do anything to fix it.  Plus, if they just lay low, they can escape any repercussions.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Turning a blind eye to things or hoping for a negative situation to resolve on its own will only lead to frustration.

This post covers how to handle an internal negative situation.  Next week you’ll receive strategies on how to resolve an external negative situation.

Here’s An Easy Tip to Resolve a Negative Internal Situation

An internal situation could be a co-worker who is continually negative and dragging the team down. Or it could be an employee who’s lazy. Unfortunately, most people think dealing with such internal situations is the manager’s job only. But in fact, anyone can take steps to address such issues.

Simply saying something like, “I don’t want to create stress between us. I do want to discuss why our department needs to work together. Especially because we don’t have the manpower as we did two years ago.”

This statement helps diffuse someone’s negativity. Granted, you can’t expect to step in and be the super-hero who saves the company from negative people. You can have the courage to step up and state the facts in a Direct with Respect® way.

Some people are so used to negative people or a destructive culture that they just stay stuck. It’s a risk that’s worth taking.  If you don’t – and you chicken out now– you’ll pay the price later.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!
Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. I decided to take a risk and start interviewing thought-provoking leaders LIVE on my show: Kick Conflict to the Curb™.  Please join me on June 1, 2022, at 1 pm Eastern. You’ll hear Diane DiResta share powerful strategies on Confident Communication. Hey, how can I talk with my coaching clients or loyal blog readers to take risks if I’m stuck in the same routine?
Hope to see you there!

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Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831