This is the 3rd article on the topic Working With a Jerk. There will be more stories on this topic because my readers have been sending me private messages describing their experiences. I have enough examples to cover 6 months of articles! You will receive more examples along with the other topics on resolving conflict in the workplace. Are you ready for this week’s true story? I hope so because it is another unbelievable one.
Janis and her mom work together in a mid sized company. Jim is a colleague of theirs and is known for his sarcastic and biting words. Janis, her mom and Jim were talking at lunch when Jim pointed his finger at Janis and said, “Janis your hair cut suits you and your outfits are very professional…not like your mom’s outfits.” Did you catch your breath? Yes, this did actually happen!
I have four questions for you:
1. What would you say to Jim if you were Janis?
2. What would you say to Jim if you were Janis’ mother?
3. What would you do if you were Jim’s boss and you heard this conversation?
4. What story do you have about working for a jerk?
I want to hear from you! 🙂
Joyce, What Do You Think?
If I were Janis I would step back after the shock wore off and say something. We don’t always have to say things immediately. It is smart to back off and plan a strategy at times. “I was caught off guard” is my favorite phrase to use when I speak to someone the next day.
“Jim, I was caught off guard when I heard those mean comments about my mom when she was standing right next to us. My mom and I were surprised about such insensitive words.” This way you are setting up a boundary for Jim and “hopefully” he will think before he opens up his mouth again. If he repeats his insensitive comments, I would do my best to stay away from him. He will chose someone else to ridicule.
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