A Powerful Yet Simple Tip to Help You Stay Positive

I wish you were a fly on the wall when my son taught me an important lesson

It’s funny about life.  At times our adult children start using OUR words.  Of course they may not recognize this but we sure do.  It seems like a miracle when this happens…especially when we remember when they were teenagers!  A few months ago I was speaking with my son, Ron and was complaining about a future meeting.  I was looking forward to seeing one of my favorite clients.  I was excited to use new and improved strategies at the workshop that I was conducting.  The training session was being held in February and was located in the Bahamas….I reside in MI. 

I was complaining on how I didn’t want to spend time with a  colleague because he monopolizes  ALL conversations and turns everything into a negative.  He drains everyone around him.  I help people have conversations like this so they can  take control of these difficult people.  I also know that there are times when nothing seems to work…especially when we deal with people who don’t listen well.  

So, What Did Ron Say?

“Mom, concentrate on steel drums and sunshine.  You are wasting too much energy thinking about this long winded colleague.”  I said, “Ron, how did you get so smart?”  It dawned on me that I say the same things to family members, friends, and clients.  Those were MY words that Ron said to his mom.  The important part of this story is that we all slip into old patterns at times.  It takes someone else to point this out to us.  I immediately “changed my state” as Tony Robbins (Author of Unlimited Power) tells us to do when we need to change our internal messages. 

I have told many people this story and I get interesting reactions.  Everyone “gets it” immediately.  We all need reminders on the valuable time that we waste when we constantly complain and don’t do anything about it.  Others told me how lucky I am to have a son who is so honest with me.  That is how I am with all of my family. Our conversation are never dull!  What goes around comes around.

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So What About You?

Has someone gently kicked you when you needed to “change your state?”  If so, lucky you.  Remember to let others know when they are wasting valuable time complaining. You will be appreciated when your statement is direct, positive, without judgment and sarcasm.  Please click here for a short video on “Dealing with Negativity in the Workplace.”

Write your own story and what you have said to others when they needed a gentle reminder on how their negativity was getting in their way.  If you have questions on what you can say to someone, please ask me and I will respond.

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Until next time,

This is Joyce Weiss, Conflict Resolution Consultant

I help others have tough conversations so they get a better night’s sleep.

Remember…You Get What YOU Tolerate!

PS Click here for a short video on “Dealing with Negativity in the Workplace”