Joyce Weiss

I work with organizations and individuals who want to kick conflict and chaos to the curb - Queen of Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach

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It’s Time to STOP Dealing with a Bully

Do you want to stop dealing with a bully at home or work?
Are you ready to stop feeling like a target and start using your voice?

This post includes information on how to easily Kick Conflict to the Curb™

Stop Dealing with a Bully Tip 1:

Start observing your bully. Noice if he or she treats others as rudely as he or she does to you. This may help you realize that the behavior has nothing to do with you, and you can stop taking this personally. 

Stop Dealing with a Bully Tip 2:

Take some time to self-reflect on what you learn about yourself. Discover how to stop reacting to him or her and start caring for yourself. This is the time to shift your mind from “I’m weak around my bully” to “I am in control, and my bully is rude to others, not just me.” 

The Lean Solutions Podcast

I was honored to be a guest on The Lean Solutions Podcast with Hosts Patrick Adams and Shayne Daughenbaugh. We discussed how to Kick Conflict to the Curb™.

We had an engaging conversation on how leaders must ensure their teams feel heard and respected. You’ll hear about strategies such as staying calm, practicing active listening, and expressing yourself clearly to feel comfortable during uncomfortable communication. 

Watch the fast-paced episode, which covers the following topics:

  • How to save time
  • Healthy versus unhealthy conflict
  • Commanding control versus building trust
  • Dealing with a bully supervisor

You can find more information on empowering and equipping people for positive change and Lean Solutions at https://www.findleansolutions.com/

Click on the link below to watch the entire episode:

https://youtu.be/9jl64tADTwQ?si=dZ2l4Z9MClyz4Q6o

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you?

You can share in the comment section or email me HERE.

You’re Invited to Schedule a Complimentary “Jam with Joyce” Coaching Session

Let’s resolve any conflict you are experiencing at work or home. So you can transform from feeling overlooked to confidently using your voice.  

Email me, and I will send you my calendar. 

I support Department Managers to inspire and educate their direct reports who are tired of feeling invisible or overlooked. And are ready to confidently use their voice – without losing their cool. The result is their input is respected and recognized and their expertise is taken seriously.

Growth-minded individuals are also welcome to “Jam with Joyce.”

Until Next Time,
Be Well and Happy!

You Get What You Tolerate. Will it be Chaos or Calm?

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach and Facilitator

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One Strong Tip for Leaders to Stop Bullying at Work

This one tip will help your leaders know how to stop bullying in their workplace. There are some leaders who don’t know where to start. They know that something needs to change, but how? 

This blog shows you how to start the process with a tested strategy. Many of my clients implemented the process with lots of success. As long as they took this seriously, and made immediate changes to stop bullying.

You will find the previous links to articles in this series on “How to Handle Bullies” towards the end of the article.

Create a Code of Conduct to Stop Bullying stop bullying

  • The code is created by employees and leadership
  • Using an unbiased facilitator to conduct these meetings ensures that everyone voices their opinions
  • Describe professional and unacceptable behavior
  • Conduct regular surveys and focus groups to measure progress
  • Follow-up, analyze, and respond to the data

Provide Training and Coaching for Leaders to Stop Bullying

  • Define a framework for addressing disruptive behavior
  • Provide communication coaching for leaders to address the bully’s disruptive behavior

Thoughts from Joyce

Many of my clients are leaders and human resource professionals who need support on how to stop bullying and negative behavior.

They transform from not knowing how to address this to feel confident using their voice. Additionally, they start training their employees on how to resolve their conversations with difficult relationships. 

This is the key. Training and coaching the entire company to stand up for themselves in a positive way. This is a win-win for everyone. Direct reports stop complaining to human resources or leaders. They use strategies learned during coaching sessions and put them to use immediately.

Discover How Easy it Is to Work with Me as Your Communication Coach

One of my passions is helping clients find their own answers to resolve their conflicts. The great news about working with me as their coach is that it doesn’t take long. We usually have a few sessions to discuss the challenge and practice the Weiss Communication Sucess Plan (5 powerful and easy strategies).

When you are ready to explore how easy it is to work with me as your communication coach, send me an email. We will explore if I’m the right coach for you or your direct reports. I promise that there will be NO Selling or Pushing. 🙂

Clients find the Conflict Dynamic Assessment is an eye-opener to them. This is a great way to start finding blind spots, personal triggers, and how they react during the conflict. 

Don’t take my word on this. Here’s a testimonial from a coaching client that wanted to sing my praises. 

 

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I’ve known Joyce since April 2010. She is my executive coach. As my coach, Joyce has been a huge help to me personally and professionally. She is a good listener and provides good suggestions. I made major life-changing decisions with the help of Joyce. I highly recommend Joyce in these areas or any new area that she pursues

– Debra Levantrosser, Founder and Lead Advisor at Arbed Solutions and Owner of Shimmy Shack

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

Thanks for reading and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

P.S. The links below take you to the previous articles in the “Stopping Bullies Series.”

One Small Tip to Handle Bullies

2 Steps to Handle Bullies and Fight Back 

More Steps to Handle Bullies

Why Bullying Happens

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Why Bullying Happens in the Workforce

I’m asked why bullying happens in the workforce more so these days. And, the better question to ask is why leaders allow bullying.

This is part 3 in the series – How to Handle Bullies at Work.
Additionally, you’ll find the first two article links at the bottom of this post.

Why Bullying Happens

  1. Bullies are not punished and thrive when there is no established rule.
  2. No one in the company has the will to stop bullying.

Also, these are 2 reasons why star employees jump ship. They are sick and tired of these dangerous people allowed to get away with their violent behavior.

Bullying is Under-Reported BULLYING

  • 40% of targets never tell their employers
  • Bullying is erroneously branded as conflict or difference in personality styles
  • Complaints lead to retaliation 
  • Targets figure it’s easier not to report bullies to leadership

All these reasons lead to “the great resignation.” Coaching clients tell me that they leave because they found new positions at a company that values anti-bullying cultures. As a result, this hurts because many times they find new positions in a competing organization. Ouch!

The links below take you directly to the first two articles in the series; “How to Handle Bullies at Work.”

Handling Bullie at Work | Part 1
How to Handle Bullies at Work   | Part 2

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post.  How does it resonate with you? How does your company deal with bullies? 

You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and you are always welcome to reach out to me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. It’s all about looking for the 2nd right answer.

Here’s the link if you want more information about working with me to resolve your relationship or career conflicts.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress. We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.

You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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2 Small but Powerful Tips to Handle Workplace Bullies

Your attitude affects how you handle workplace bullies.

Welcome to the series “Protecting Yourself from Bullies in the Workplace.” 
This week’s post describes how to change our attitude to feel more confident.  I know this is nothing new!  It’s all about attitude!

The better we feel about ourselves, the fewer times we have to knock someone down to feel tall!

Odetta, American Singer and Actor

I would like to give bullies Odetta’s quote – wouldn’t you?

Tip #1:  Your Attitude Affects How You Handle Workplace Bullies handle workplace bullies

 Brad, my coaching client, practiced how to make conversations safe with me before he had the tough conversation with his bully.

Brad’s bully listened to him after the interaction.  This bully was not aware that his words hurt others.  No one had the nerve to speak with him.  Brad did, and the bully now has respect for him. 

Instead of saying, “Why do you like insulting our team members?”  Brad changed this to, “Let’s discuss how we can communicate better with everyone on our team.”  The bully was included in the conversation. Everyone felt safe and discussed solid solutions.  A win/win was the result.

Tip #2:  Create a Plan to Handle Workplace Bullies

What can you do?

  • Stop complaining about the bully to others who can’t help you
  • Create a plan on how to start the conversation
  • Go to leadership or Human Resources
  • Practice the communication skills that you learned in past blog posts. You can also search for videos on my YouTube playlists HERE 

Here’s a disclaimer!  It’s always a risk to have tough conversations.  At least you tried!  You didn’t stand still and take this difficult person’s constant sarcasm or criticism.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to reach out to me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life. And resolve relationship issues at work or home.

It’s all about looking for the 2nd right answer and asking, “what else?”

Here’s the link if you want more information about working with me to resolve your relationship or career conflicts.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports to reduce stress and conflict.
You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

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Workplace Bullying:  2 Steps to Overcome It and Fight Back | Part 1

This is Part 1 in a series of blogs that cover workplace bullying.

  • Do you have bullies at work?
  • Are you a target for these dangerous people?
  • What do leaders do to stop bullies?

    Indian Activist Gandhi said, “Bullies are always found where there are cowards.”

    This quote speaks such truth.  Bullies are like spoiled children who are jealous of others on the playground.


Facts About Workplace Bullying workplace bullies |challenges at work | bullies in the workplace

Bullying is a form of violence. In addition, they don’t have to throw a single punch to do lasting damage to another person’s heath. Plus, they affect your organization’s fiscal health.

Bullying is experienced by more than ⅓ of the Us workforce. And it is 4 times more prevalent than illegal harassment.

These facts must be shared with leaders who let workforce bullies get away with their behavior. Coaching clients who are not leaders share these facts with their boss.

A Description of  Workplace Bullying

  • Sabotage over a significant amount of time
  • Verbal Abuse
  • Intimidation
  • Humiliation

Mistreatment severe enough to compromise a worker’s health and interpersonal Destruction are both devastating for the bully’s target.

Add all of these together, and you’ll discover it’s about the bully’s agenda!

Look for more strategies next week on fighting back against workplace bullies.

Let’s Stay Connected

Please comment about this week’s post. How does it resonate with you?
You can share in the comment section or send me a private email HERE.

You are my loyal readers and are always welcome to contact me for a complimentary 20-minute session. Let’s start a great
discussion to discover how you can stop feeling stuck anywhere in your life.

Until Next Time, Be Well and Happy!

Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
Queen of Conflict Resolution

P.S. Please share this post on your social media. As a result, other growth-minded people can reduce their high drama and inner stress.
We made it easy for you. The shareable social media links are below.

P.P.S. Subscribe to my YouTube channel www.youtube.com/joyceweiss for more tips and strategies for you or your direct reports
to reduce stress and conflict. You’ll find playlists on dealing with bullies, tough conversations, and interviews with thought-provoking Department Managers and Leaders and leaders.

Thanks for reading, and remember: You get what YOU tolerate!

 

 

 

Contact Joyce

Email: joyce@joyceweiss.com
Phone: 248-681-5831