Taking things personally is something that most of us experience. This post reminds us that we must stop thinking that difficult people or bullies know what we are all about. They don’t! We need to stop ourselves from feeling hurt when others put us down or use sarcasm. It is usually all about THEIR issues!
Don Miguel Ruiz is the author of “The Four Agreements.” It’s a powerful book with simple ideas for complicated times. Let me know which agreement “speaks” to you.
Taking Things Personally Tip #1
Agreement #1 is to Be Impeccable with Your Word.
I feel we need to stand up for what we believe in, especially during tough conversations. This is the time for us to stand up for ourselves and use our voices. It’s not healthy to hold on to our thoughts because we will react negatively – either erupt like a volcano or get an ulcer!
Coaching clients finally feel comfortable when they learn how to speak up for themselves. It’s rewarding as a coach to see clients get tough and brave – without losing their cool in only a few sessions.
Taking Things Personally Tip #2
Agreement #2 is Don’t Take Things Personally.
Once we learn this tip, our lives become less complicated. Mean-spirited people have issues and try to influence us with their rude or nasty behavior. This is when we need to tell ourselves that it has NOTHING to do with us. I know it’s easy to say. But, it’s possible. Trust me on this one.
Bullies used to make me feel unconfident. Until I learned that they don’t have power over me. I am responsible for how I feel, not these rude people. These days I look forward to the challenge with bullies. It’s a game for me. Hey, I better be a role model for clients and my loyal readers.
Taking Things Personally Tip #3
Agreement #3 is Don’t Make Assumptions.
I know what some of you are thinking! Joyce, be real here – we all make assumptions. Of course, we do. This doesn’t make it right. Assumptions get all of us in trouble. How many times have you had the first impression of someone and found out later that your assumption was wrong? Again, this reminds us that we can do better than that.
Taking Things Personally Tip #4
Agreement #4 is Always Do Your Best.
I’m writing to the choir right now. You do your best because you are reading this blog post. My readers are professionals who strive to become the best version of themselves.
Does this sound familiar? Thought so. 🙂
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Joyce Weiss, M.A., CSP, CVP
Conflict Resolution and Communication Coach
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